Comments on: FOXSexpert: Boosting Your Sex Life With Fantasy

By: JL

JL — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 04:26:54 +0000

This is a good topic. The Doctor is addressing the issue in a straight scientific and secular manner as she should. Sexual fantasying is not new, read Chaucer, and as a Christian I find most of my fellow Christian’s taboo or discomfort on discussing sex as unhealthy denial. Get real people, eyes wander and the mind wanders. Puritan attitudes leads to more sin because then everything is considered sin. If simple fantasizing means we’re going to hell then heck, just let loose, what’s the point of holding back when we look at an attractive women or with women, look at attractive men. We should hold ourselves to high standards but not impossible or unrealistic standards. We frustrate ourselves and discredit our faith when we proclaim standards that are so unrealistic that they are often broken. Admit it, most of us have fantasized about other people, envied or lusted. I don’t know of anybody that has perfect mind control. That is why two important Christian tenets are forgiveness and redemption. We need to to be realistic and stop being so Victorian when it comes to sex. Talking about sex or discussing topics about sex is not a sin. My wife and I have a great sexual relationship because we are not afraid of talking about it. We have been happily married for twenty years.

By: David

David — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 13:20:33 +0000

What is so sacrosanct about sex? Someone tell me please. Sex is not love. Sex is fun. There is nothing wrong with fantasies. What is important is honesty and affection. It really can be boring having sex with the same person all the time. Any honest person will admit this. What consenting adults do sexually does’nt bother me unless of course it involves violence or great pain. I say if people want to live out their fantasies, go for it but be honest with your partner. Why do some uptight people have to constantly bring in Jesus to back up their opinions. What Jesus said is all interpretation. Do you think that maybe something written in Aramaic, then Greek, then Latin and then modern languages can lose a bit (or gain a bit) on the journey? I consider myself a Christian and I think Jesus would agree with Dr. Fulbright

By: Ano

Ano — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 08:55:36 +0000

Anonymous sounds like you and your wife don’t have good relationship going there. I’m sure if your wife was actually having sex with someone else you would not be saying what you did. Now if you say it’s alright then you have more problems. Not to bust your bubble but this sexpert is not more educated then my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Just because you don’t like Christians does not give you the right to bash us. It’s people like you who need prayer. Oh, don’t worry, you’re already on a prayer list buddy.

By: C DeW

C DeW — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 01:15:34 +0000

Well, “Anonymous” you really hit a homerun there. This is well off-topic, but should yet be noted. Riddle me this: why is that when someone attacks Christianity, they resort to using emotionally-charged language and other borderline hate-mongering techniques? (Sic. “narrow-minded” and the less educated comment.) All such occurances show your lack of knowledge on the topic of Christianity, thereby self-referentially contradicting themselves. As you claim the Christians making their above comments are not experts on Ms. Fulbright’s topic, you show your lack of expertise on Christianity. This renders your comments on the religion moot and inadmissable. Ergo, you should probably refrain from commenting on said topic.

To topic: I feel sorry for Ms. Fulbright. Specifically, the claims made are quite substantial, yet lack the anticipated scientific-punch. Opinion is one thing, and we all have them, but for this article to make it “to print,” shows only irresponsible journalism. Whatever happened to good ole’ tightly-knit argumentation? The website would surely not allow me the space to reference all of the holes in Ms. Fulbright’s editorial. So I shall restrain myself, unless further called upon.

By: carol

carol — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 19:20:13 +0000

RE: SEXUAL FANTASY

Thank you so much for your article on sexual fantasy. After reading it, I felt better about my own fantasy. The day I read it, was the night I told my boyfreind what I would like to do in order to act out my fantasy. I had sent him the article to read. And we both were more comfortable. Our sex life has never been hotter than it is right now. Thank you so much, and I can’t wait to here any words you have to say on this subject.

By: Honestly

Honestly — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:28:57 +0000

….And a recent study shows that one in four teenagers has a sexually transmitted disease. What has happened to our society?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 09:27:06 +0000

Reading all of the above comments just proves to me how narrow-minded so-called “Christians” are. It’s simply humorous to watch you all slobber and point over something that’s actually quite healthy. Both my wife and I fantasize about different things and we don’t hold back-we tell each other, sharing our feelings and fantasies, which in turn makes our relationship stronger and that much more enjoyable.

I think Ms. Fulbright, who is more than likely magnitudes more educated than many of you, can approach this subject without any sort of this imagined perverseness that you’re seeming to find in what is a rather clinical article.

Then again, if it’s not in your Bible, it can’t exist, can it?

By: Daniel

Daniel — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 03:37:18 +0000

The ideas and thoughts described in this text is about the most despicable thing I have seen in some time. To think that thoughts of sex with others will not turn into acts with others is a stupid way to think. You talk about surveys that have been taken but i bet all are flawed in some way. The world in which we live is both wicked and perverted. It is people like you that have driven this country and world deeper into the walk with the devil. Playing with yourself doesn’t lead to better sex and neither does perverted thoughts. If you can’t seem to think about the person your with then chances are you shouldn’t be together. I guess my point is don’t push your lack of values onto others as ok. That is exactly what has led to the down fall of this country.

By: Anon

Anon — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 20:38:10 +0000

Hi, Yvonne. Which would you rather have? A man who thinks about someone else in provocative ways, or a man who pursues you to find all the ways that you’re provocative?

I think fantasy is missing out on the harder-to-reach, tastier parts of your partner.

By: Randy

Randy — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 13:33:18 +0000

I agree with your thoughts on fantasys, but……….. My partner says it’s not LOVE, while having sex. What’s your thought?