What in the world are they doing charging the guy who called for help? He takes care of her in her mentally ill state, feeds and when there is no improvement , he calls for help and they charge him? If anything he ought to be given credit for not embarrassing her and trying to care for her.

Bad case of the runs

It is a shame that her family members were not more concerned before this poor woman became a news story.

So she has an aunt and other family members who are coming forward and saying they love her and care for her. My question is where were they over the past two years? There is no excuse for that sort of abandonment by other family members. It’d be one thing to let her live her life with her boyfriend if she was NOT a dependent adult but that was not the case here. Someone else should have been visiting her throughout the years to see how she was doing, PERIOD.

Didn’t anyone miss this poor woman? Didn’t her family or neighbors wonder where she was? Very, very sad.

this thread is useless without pics.

I totally agree with that guy being charged. I have personally thought people that bring food to people who eventually get so large they can not even get out of bed should be charged also. Clear case of enabling someone who is in critical need of help.

This would never have happened if Barak Obama were in the White House.

Howard

How many unreported events like this are taking place now?

PAM,

I DON’T KNOW IF YOU HAVE ACCESS TO THE WORLD WIDE WEB BUT IF YOU’RE READING THIS, JUST KNOW THAT WE’RE ALL PULLING FOR YOU AND YOU’RE GOING TO GET THROUGH THIS, K?

(((((PAM))))))

As the parent of a young adult with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, it sounds very much to me like this woman is suffering from the same problem. There is a huge difference between the time spans that we are being given. If she was in there for 2 years, he definitely should have done something sooner to get help for her. If she was in there for a month (which is what the doctors seem to be indicating), give the guy credit for trying to understand what was happening and trying to spare her public humiliation.

Charging this guy is ridiculous. That woman has a right to stay in the bathroom as long as she wants, and this guy is not a psychologist. When did she become a dependent adult? This is a shame, but ultimately the woman did this to herself. The state cannot require laypeople to have to make diagnosis that only a trained psychologist can make. If her family members had been around at all, a group decision may have gotten her out sooner. The guy obviously intended no harm come to her. How come she is not being charged with attempted suicide? The DA needs to stop grandstanding.

Why is the boyfriend in any way responsible? Typical stupid Empire of America: Lock everyone up and sort it out later….

I agree with the other lady, WHERE WERE THE RELATIVES WHEN SHE NEEDED THEM MOST?????
People always come out of the woodwork when its in the news…noticed that? I just feel, if you didn’t bother to care before…..why bother now.

COMMENT THIS…..Where were the people when she needed them…
She obviously needed supervision, and atleast checking on now and then,
sounds like the boyfriend has some issues also. Why are we americans sometimes so
irresponsible! I just wish people would wake up.

Hello????
I also wonder, how many cases are going on as this one, or, even worse. We just do not realize the mental illness out there, and the severity of it. We need to be more caring with family and friends that are helpless in this area, and need help from someone that can find help for this.

odd to say the least. to sit on the crapper that long…yegads! if he were asking her continually if she would come out, and her only comment was ‘not today’, well, that kind of indicates that she was of some sort of sound mind. she knew what was being asked of her. granted, he might of been better off getting the help sooner, but, maybe he thought he was doing the right thing by letting her sort out whatever issue she had by herself, as it is obvious she didn’t want any help, at least then. and her family…if they gave a rats arse about her, then they would of questioned why they hadn’t seen her for 2 years. seems like there are a bunch of vultures circling, just waiting for the right time to land and stake their claim. i am sure we will here about some kind of frivolous lawsuit induced by the family against the boyfriend. money talks…greedy pigs is what they appear to be. disgusting!

holy crap?….i hope she had enough toilet paper!

i don’t think her boyfriend should be charged, he took care of her and she always said maybe tomorrow, i think this lady felt safe in the restroom and he didn’t want to take that away from her i think he was thinking of her, i hope he is doing ok

Okay I honestly think the guy is crazy there is no reason for him to leave his girlfriend in the bathroom that long you know if you are in your straight set of mind you just dont do that type of stuff plus as it is once someone goes in the bathroom you know we rush to call the neighbors or the police to come break down the door haha. There is no explanation for what happened at all!!!!

I am in agreement with widget. It being her choice also
brings consequences and too those are hers. Dropping charges against him is the right thing to do.

atleast the pipes never had a chance of freezing during the winters. She kept the flies warm too i bet.

She is mentally ill, when in this state of mind, you may appear at times to be aware of what you are doing, and what you are saying, but others do not know this, so we really cannot judge her, even if to us it seemed she knew what she was doing….hey folks…really now….sitting on the toliet for two years, you can’t be right mentally. I just pray and hope that all will be ok for her, and that she will get sufficient help and care.

Is this really news worthy?

I’m with most others; why is boyfriend charged with anything AND why are they not REPORTING the reason he was charged. This is about the 3rd story indicating he was charged, but no one ever says why.

I agree with wondering why boyfriend is charged AND why no one is REPORTING why he is charged. This is the 3rd story that I’ve read about him being charged, but no one says why

I am shocked that this poor woman’s name has been publically mentioned. Obviously, she has mental health symptoms. It’s a shame that she was not given any dignity or respect during this difficult time. People need to stop reading about this and just pray for her that she becomes well. Hopefully the professionals will provide her the counseling and treatment required for her recovery.

So what did he do when he had to use the crapper???
Sit on her lap??? EWWWWW, had to be messy.
The bright side is that at least he didn’t have to sit on a cold toilet seat early in the morning.
I think the story is hilarious; make a great reality TV show!

You have got to be smarter than the toilet.

the women surfers from mental illness, for sitting on the toilet for that long and refusing help.
its very ez getting sick it just takes a little bit of time and problem with your diet or eating habits
then its just talking your self into doing something that is not normal a low level brainwashing or
Condishing. it happens in life to much. mostly she made the decision.

You have got to be smarter than the toilet

Where did he go to use the restroom this whole time? Is this why his yard is full of dead grass?

This is just a rediculous story. I am utterly speechless. Im not completely heart-less, I really feel for this broad.. but who sits on a toilet for two years? This is so sad it’s hilarious. I hope she had alot of good magazines to read and a laptop with a wifi connection to play World of Warcraft….

OK…….It isn’t funny. It is sad. It is something only a mentally challenged person would do. The boyfriend also must be mental. But, those that didn’t get involved before this was discovered, then I feel family or not….stay out of it now…you didn’t seem to care to find out WHERE this lady was in two years? oh come on ….if everytime you called, he says…oh she on the toliet…..well…THAT WOULD BE A HUGE RED FLAG TO ME!!!!!!!

Of course the boyfriend should be charged, as well as any relatives that knew about it and did nothing. Yes, this woman is mentally ill. And she is still not out of the woods. Her boyfriend is one sick puppy to not have told someone. This is such a crazy story.
I love that her family is now so CONCERNED about her, where were they before?

I also do not understand why the boyfriend is being charged, not only did he call for help, but I was under the impression that he was also mentally challenged. Something else had to of went on that is not being made public and I am fine with that, this is a terrible situation and I hope she can get the help that she obviously needs. And what great timing for the family to show their concern.

Like many of you have said on here……..for every story we hear about (child locked in closet for years, women held hostage as sex slave, trailer park resident keeps 100 cats in 10 x 35 foot trailer……and so on and so on) there are people going through the same things right now and nobody has found them yet. The funny thing is, they interview neighbors and they always say…” they seemed like very nice people….kids were nice and so forth. I can tell you though, if anything strange happens in my neighborhood, my girlfriend would be all over it and on the phone to the police.

Anyway, I feel for this women…..but there is another one just like her out there somewhere. There always is someone worse off and eventually they find them……hopefully!!

IF YOU ARE GOING TO START CHARGING PEOPLE WITH NEGLECT FOR THIS ADULT DEPENDANT PERSON, THEN YOU ALSO NEED TO CHARGE THE FAMILY WHO CLAIMS TO “LOVE” HER NEED TO ALSO BE CHARGED FOR LEAVING HER IN SOMEONE ELSE’S CARE AND NOT CHECKING UP ON HER REGULARLY! GIVE ME A BREAK! AREN’T THERE ENOUGH REAL CRIMINALS FOR THESE PROSECUTORS TO WORRY ABOUT?

I think honestly of all things this story speaks to the disinvolvement and isolation of modern society. There used to be a time that everyone in a neighborhood knew each other; that if you needed to borrow a cup of sugar, there was an established relationship. It seems nowdays that neighborhoods are nothing more than a collection of houses in a group.

Two years is a LONG time for no one to notice they hadn’t seen the woman. I feel sorry that her whole ordeal has been paraded publicly. I think I’d change my name after I got out of the hospital.

How big was this woman?

I agree with previous comments. Where was her family? If they are so concerned they are calling the hospital everyday, where were they when she was sitting in the bathroom for the past 2 years?

AHA!!!! I just knew it would happen! Some poor deluded Politically Correct person (probably from California) just couldn’t resist calling this dingbat “MENTALLY CHALLENGED”.
This loony just set a world record for sitting on the toilet; she’s a nutjob; bannanas; loony toons; whacko; crazy as a bed bug; candidate for a padded rubber room! And her roomie has to be just a short step behind her in the bats in the belfry catagory. lol
Perhaps we should start calling the Politically Correct “REALITY CHALLENGED”; or is that also Politically Correct?
Send them all to California where they won’t even be noticed. I still think this would be a great reality TV show; wouldn’t be any worse than the rest of that garbage that passes for entertainment.

For those of you who think this is funny-grow up. I know a neighbor of the boyfriend, and they had no clue that someone else was living there. They did share that he has a habit of exposing himself to the residents of that small community. There is another bathroom in the house by the way. They are both sick individual who need help.

I think it would be kinda cool to sit on a toilet for 2yrs. but it’s STUPID if you ask me!

From other things I’ve read, it has also been hinted at that the boyfriend was also of diminished mental capacity. He has a menial job at a furniture store to support them and they live in a house trailer. He was taking her clothes and food in the bathroom and was trying to coax her out daily. She had seemed ‘ok’ to him until the day he called for help. She was acting out of it and not responding normally when he spoke to her, so he was concerned enough to call for help at that point. This couple had also been together for several years (8-10), so yes, he deserves an award, not punishment. He was taking the best care of her he knew how and was trying to respect her wishes at the same time.

Other people who had known her over the years were aware of her having ‘mental’ issues, including neighbors. It is sickening hearing of her Aunt now calling the hospital every day, when she obviously did NOTHING to insure the welfare of her niece in the past two years. Now the aunt gets her name printed in the newspaper. She obviously had so little to do with the couple, that the boyfriend didn’t have anyone but the ‘authorities’ to call when there was concern. If her family cared more, they would have kept in better touch with her and known when something like this was happening. Now they just care enough to be involved in the publicity around the issue.

MIKE, I totally agree with you!!! It really seems people just do not get involved with other people anymore….no time….can’t be bothered….it is sad.

Very sad story, and I do believe that the family didn’t want to deal with the woman who had mental health problems, so as long as she wasn’t being a burden to them, they didn’t care where she was. Let someone else take care of her. Obviously the boyfriend had his own mental issues to deal with. Maybe he wasn’t the sharpest tack in the box, but he was there for her and did get help when he finally realized she needed it. I agree that he shouldn’t be charged. He did the best he could. No one knows how many times he tried to get her to come out of the bathroom or how many times he begged her to come out. It’s sad that he didn’t have any close friends or neighbors that he could confide in, so it would not have lasted 2 years. Shame on her family. They abandoned her. He didn’t.

Where did the boyfriend go to do his business? Perhaps she was mourning the death of Mr. Whipple. Maybe she had a phone in there with her and when her family called to check on her, she told them she was, OK. Who gives a sh*t? I’ll wait for the movie.

I think it’s amazing that her relatives are all of a sudden concerned with her well being and calling her every day when they didn’t seem to care that she was living in a bathroom for two years. Too little to late if you ask me.

I can definitely see both sides of the story here. But there is definitely some neglect on the boyfriends part. This woman was stuck to a toilet seat!!! Her skin had started to grow over the seat and when she was initially removed from the home they had to pry the seat off of her skin. You can’t convince me that this guy went into the bathroom to give her food and water everyday and he did not notice that this woman needed help. I mean if the toilet seat was stuck to her skin thats pretty serious. So yeah this guy should be charged. It does not matter if she chose to stay in there or not. If she does have mental problems, then he should be smart enought to figure out that something was wrong.

Wow, I will never again get irritated with my wife for spending too long in the bathroom. I thought an hour was bad.

It is ridiculous to charge him. I read in one story that they didn’t know with what to charge him with, so that mistreatment of a dependant adult charge is the closest thing they could find. It’s pretty sad when the DA are so hellbent on charging that they have to be creative about which charge to bring. I guess they figure the US jails are not full enough yet.

A Canadian (who is confident he will never be thrown in jail for no good reason)

The prosecutor in this case is obviously seeking his 15 minutes of fame by charging the boyfriend.

First of all, on what basis and authority did he classify her as a “dependent adult”?

That sounds like a prognosis a doctor or psychologist should be making, not a lawyer.

It seems that this classification came AFTER the boyfriend reached his wit’s end and called for help.

Wouldn’t she have had to be classified as “dependent” before the alleged violation occurred?

Let’s think about this!

What about these people who become so obese they can’t leave their beds. Are we going to start classifying them as “dependent adults” after the fact and charging the people who cared for them with crimes, too?

Yes, he should have called the authorities earlier but he wasn’t holding her there against her will. The only thing keeping her in that bathroom was her own mental illness, which by all accounts, he did not have any role in.

This guy may not have used the best judgment by not getting help earlier but he’s practically a saint for sticking by and taking care of her all that time. Most people would have washed their hands of the whole situation alot earlier.

Charging the boyfriend is absurd! What ever happened to free will? I thought we all had the right to do whatever we want as long as we aren’t harming others, no matter how self destructive. I guess the first examples that come to mind is should McDonalds be held liable because some guy thinks its a good idea to eat 10 big macs a day? Or the people who feed people who have gained to much weight to get out of bed? Oh and why are cigerettes and alchol legal to sell when we all know they will kill you in the long run?

I, too, wonder why nobody noticed this woman missing from society for 2 years… where were her family members, neighbors, friends…? I also think that her family has a whole lot of nerve going public with how they are checking on her every day since she was admitted into the hospital… Hello… she is under the care of professionals now!! They don’t have to become concerned now

I think they should check to see if she was super glued to the seat. The boy friend is either mentally ill himself or a real sick-o.

this happened to me once after a to go meal from Taco Bell. It wasnt pretty.

I have tear gas grenades. If the boyfriend had just called me, I could gotten her out of there.

It seems like the woman is very ill, both mentally and physically. Unfortunately, if other people around her are not capable of offering proper support, situations like this develop. My guess is that the boyfriend is either retarded, and/or mentally ill himself. Other people are “enablers”, or they simply don’t care enough about others to act. I bet that we will start to hear more about the woman’s history, in terms of her history of mental illness, or recent descent into mental illness. Also, mental illness requires the intervention of professionals as soon as possible. Well meaning family members can sometimes make things worse.

if she could sit on a toilet for two years straight, i am sure a little tear gas would not do anything to make her budge

GET THE HEADLINE RIGHT

Media sensationalism run rampant. She was in the bathroom for two years and possibly on the toilet for a month. The first few lines of the article contradict the headline. Irritates the hell out of me.

I digress, if my husband suddenly refused to come out of the bathroom, I would have called paramedics in a few days and gotten him some help. Obviously this woman was not in her right mind and because of that, she became a dependant adult - dependant on her boyfriend for food and shelter. The fact that she was in there for so long is negligible and downright stupid. Yes, her dim-witted boyfriend should have know better and, yes, he should share some accountability in the severity of her illness and neglect. What, if anything, was he thinking?

What’s the point of charging the guy? She confines herself to a room boyfriend brings her food and water (vs. using starvation as a means of getting her out), he eventually calls for help, but by then toilet seat is stuck to her. Seriously, you want to charge him for what?

Had he called 911 the day after(”my girlfriend won’t get out of the bathroom”), he probably would have been charged with abuse of the emergency system. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Where was her family at these last 2 or more years? they should be held just as accountable as her boyfriend.

If she is considered by the court system to be a “dependant adult”, the person who should be charged is her legal guardian. If you are the legal guardian of a dependant adult, you have a legal responsibility to get help. I assume her psychiatric condition is the cause for her being deemed a dependant adult. As such, the guardian should have called long before now. It is not a stretch to assume that the boyfriend probably also had some degree of mental illness. I cannot imagine a mentally healthy person allowing someone to live in a bathroom for two years and never try to contact anyone for help.

idiots!! How can someone become so mentally ill that they don’t leave a toilet. I don’t get it!!
I am sick of hearing about this. Isn’t there more important issues to discuss??

kory was busted for playing with himself while watching the neighbour’s girls in the hot tub next door.
i can imagined why pat would hide herself in the bath room for 2 yrs.

this sounds more like midwest white trash more and more now.

the only thing is they were too dumb to become addicted to crystal meth.