Good advice. Personnally I have a five to one rule. A man can really only have one orgasm in a half hour or even an hour if you’re a little older like me 50. But a woman can have an unlimited number. It’s only limited by your enthusiasm and effort. So I don’t even think about popping until she’s had at least five. All five might not be earth shakers but at least a couple always are. Trust me if she knows you have this rule she will be very willing to let you “run the table”. Mix it up, don’t stick to the same routine and she will do everything you want and you will do everything she wants. Be up front about it. I’ve never once heard hurry up and come before her number five. And rarely after number five either.

Good stuff. I would be interested to see a follow-up column regarding 10 mistakes women often make to see how it compares. Again, good stuff to know.

While Yvonne’s mistake list may cover lots of what women want, I think she may need to aquire another circle of girlfriends. That’s not to say the circle she mentions is bad, but I’ve know many women who will readily disagree with her on all points. And lots that will agree with her. It’s just that I have found that the desires and needs of women vary with each and there are as many different wishes as there are women. What works well with one, will get you kicked out the door with another. The last 50 years of my sexual life has taught me to get to know each before hitting the sack. That is unless she is the hunter and the man is the prey.

Thanks for the insights Doc. They do all make sense. When can my wife expect to be able to review the “10 Sex Mistakes Women Make”?

In my experience its not just the ladies that enjoy some playful fun leading up to the big finish. Maybe it comes with experience but for guys like me it really adds a lot to the fun to hold off on “diving right in” and allowing plenty of teasing and etc..sure guys can usually dive right in and perfrom fine but if you really want to enjoy it..savor it take the time to build up the excitement, you might find that once you do dive in you might be up to a repeat performance or two! Nothing keeps a marriage happy like a great sex life! Also about size, its not all that great being “big”. In my experience back in my single days you find out that if your not careful and get in too far and start hitting her cervix, the show is over and you just might not get invited back. I’ve been told it hurts tremendously followed by cramps atc….. So regular size guys be happy that you can keep pounding away like a bunny rabbit and not have to use a depth gauge.

You guys are stepping over the line on this article. I don’t mind reading this type of stuff in
Maxim, I just feel that it is not the proper article for FOX. I mean, My Twelve year old read the
article and asked me what a “G spot” is. Come on guys, I know you’re trying to be
mainstream, but this is too much.

Have a good day

Jeff

I had to comment, as I am a 42 year old woman who just discovered she really has a G spot. My fiancee is very attentive and explorative, and since the day we’ve met and I told him I didnt think I had one, or that I couldnt cum any other way than orally, he set out to prove me wrong, and last weekend, he did. It was such a wonderful, mind blowing experience, that I just wanted to lay there in his arms and enjoy the bliss. I had a huge smile on my face for the rest of the nite. I tried to watch him do it and his technique was pretty cool. As he would thrust in, he would pull out slowly, but push (scrunch) his butt in and his pelvis up, as if he was trying to “rub” the upper walls of my love canal, and it felt very different and I loved it and I didnt even realize it was coming until I was literally coming and I couldnt believe it. All these years! Who knew?

Sounds like Ms. Fulbright has some high maintenance gal pals. Most of this article is rubbish.

I wanted to make another comment. In my experience with men, I’ve noticed that they think they can take all of their old techniques that worked with their ex into the bedroom with me, and there is never an easy way to tell them that, just because your ex liked it when you pinched her nipples, doesnt mean that I like it,” or rubbing on your clit like they are trying to start a fire; ouch. The best lovers are those that take the time to slowly figure out what their partner likes, and its as simple as listening to her responses, and recognizing when she’s either pulling away or responding with pleasurable moans. It’s not rocket science guys. I mean, if you like your wanger pulled and yanked on, or teased slowly, your responses will let us know to speed up or slow down, (or at least I can tell), and with time, I’ll learn to perfect it; WITH YOU. So take your time. Explore one area at a time and know that every body part “can” be an errogenous zone, or she may not like something at all. Discover it, master it and drive on! If you can make your woman come more than once, she will worship you till the end. We can be quite loyal creatures when we know you are giving it your all, and we will return the favor!!!

So, where is the clitoris?

Great sex is also an emotional experience compared to good which is just physical. Feeling “in love” with her transmits desire for her. Communication afterwards is most helpful, although time it wisely.

You know what? Long before the internet, People managed to make love and have Babies; or fun from the beginning of time.

Without you telling them just how to find a womans Clitoris

With all of the Socioeconomic problems that that this Article and others like it cause; Teen Pregnancies, Pre-Teen Pregnancies, STD’S and every other Sexually
related problems that arise on a daily basis; Why exacerbate it? As if you Discovered the Atom, or the Cure for Cancer !

I can’t believe that you actually get paid to write this pablum…

Well, I would say you’re certainly talking like a woman and not a dr. or expert. typical responses on all 10. #1, weight gain??? that certainly goes for both!!!! and I have news for ya, all this in the 8 to 15 minutes??? yea right!! my wife expected all those things, and was very verbal about telling me. it’s like, when a horse starts to take a drink of water at the well, and he gets hit by a 2×4, he will finally stop drinking!! my wife and i haven’t had sex in 15 years, and I sure don’t miss it, at least with her!!!!

I think this article is inappropriate in any context, but most certainly on the front page of Fox News. My children read Fox News. And Fox is supposed to be conservative?

I think I love you.

I’m thinking of posting this article in my blog and showing a copy to my husband and to my lover (we’re polyamorous). Both men are great, but need to remember a few of the things you’ve listed here.

Thank you!

I believe in TOYS. Thanks for your advice i really did save money on my car insurance.

Hey guys, it’s the simplest thing ever. If you’re a good lover, you will always put her pleasure first. If you are great lover, you will derive as much pleasure from this as she does. The vast majority of women will want to return the favor as enthusiastically.

“So, where is the clitoris?”

I think it’s somewhere in Vermont.

Good article but then again I’m never really critical of Dr. Yvonne cause she is so dang cute I can’t stand it.

Yeah, we men have a lot to learn and remember to apply everyday. It is a two-way street though and to be fair you need an article for women. They blow it just as bad as men but they have an “out” in the way that a man will continue on for the physical release.

Ladies, respectfully talk with your man. Yes, talk - don’t play mind reading games. Show him once, twice, three times if you have to what works for you in regards to pre-foreplay, foreplay, in the sack.

And for goodness sakes get over the “good girl syndrome” - we’ll still think you’re a lady and we’ll still cherish you but please, please talk dirty to us. Just let go. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom talk-wise.

Thank god I’m not in any sort of relationship with her or some of the women on here.
A very selfish me me me attitude of blaming men and accepting no responsibility.
Remember women a mans only as good as the woman he’s with.

Please don’t tell me you think you are anywhere near perfect in bed or so good you can place blame or pass the buck.

If you want something done right mention it or show him, and do it in a nice way remember he has feelings as well so if you want him to be receptive to yours you have to be receptive to his without making out that it’s his ego thats in barrier. (a statement that shows who’s ego really is fragile).

Foreplay is just as important for men and the comment that it’s an all day thing and she wants to feel desired and wooed is just as applicable to men.

It takes two and communication and participation is required from both sides.

Yes I’ve had some very selfish lovers.

Funny how FOXNews advises against sending obscene email to the “comments” section when in reality this entire article is obscene for the front page of this website.

I am waiting for some man to detail ten things that ladies miss in sex which hurt/hinder mens’ side of the act.

I’m sorry, what’s news here? Dr. Ruth was giving this same advice 30 years ago. I guess her books are part of the Sexpert cirriculum.

This articles assumes that men actually care one way or another whether a woman enjoys sex.

While I understand this article is advice for men with good intentions. I see it drift at the end towards what we men should be doing for women and calling our expectations into question; not merely what mistakes to avoid.

Was this intentional? I won’t argue that. However because it does get away from the point, I felt the need to answer as a man.

I do take care of myself. I stay fit. I don’t act like stud with a muscle car either. I realize women have needs. The best sex is where two people share enough attraction that touching is pleasing in-itself. If I see this, most men do. Your article can be confusing to any men that take it literally, Number 7 and 8 are not exactly diametrical but do conflict. Number 9 is just silly and is a dead giveaway that this article wasn’t well thought out. Number 10 is a laugh. Look, if my woman has just climaxed, and I’m not saying I’ve been all over… but every woman I’ve been with will push my head away after that. She is far too sensitive to do it again. I’m sure an exception exist, but this is a bare few. A woman like a man, needs time to recover and yes perhaps do it again. I’m not saying you can’t go forward with sex, but going down… right after. I have yet to meet a woman with that demand or desire.

Give us men credit for reading the desires of our women, and it can take time to really open up such delicate lines of communication. Yet we men are not selfish apes in bed. It’s always the worst of men that are illustrated. I’m a single full time father of two that was cheated on for years because my ex wife thought life was her Apple to bite, not to share. Despite that, I still love women and still enjoy sex where my good habits are now appreciated instead of taken for granted.

Men are just as sensuous and thoughtful as we are rugged and smart.

The bottom line is the article reeked of man bashing in waiting. The only point I really thought held onto was the point about we men should take care of our bodies. I’m right there with you on that. If we men expect women to maintain beauty, we should be held to the same bar.

Kare

Of course men take what they used to do with their ex into the bedroom, don’t you do the same?

Or are you telling me with 3 billion women there are 3 billion different techniques you can use down there.
It’s not that big an area down there (at least for you I hope) and only so many things that can be done or are you saying everytime a couple gets together they should ignore what they did with previous lovers and do something completely different.

Why? you learn from experience but your saying with you forget that experience. Don’t be intimidated by the fact the men you are with have had previous sexual partners, its a good thing.

Once you start having a relationship with someone it’s up to you to say or show what you like so it becomes unique to you not to be silent but then pipe up with everyone but the person your with, the person your supposed to care about.

What a stupid comment.

First of all #6 (weight gain) goes both ways and women, primarily, are the biggest offenders. I’m sure I’ll catch flack, but it’s the truth.

Also, according to #7 as a male I’m supposed to indulge in her fantasy, but #8 tells me that any fantasy I may have isn’t realistic?

Can’t have it both ways.

This article is so one-sided that it’s not even funny. It generalizes men in a way that I don’t even like to think about. My sex life is great. My wife and I enjoy our time together… and no, it doesn’t just start in the sack. And why is it that (according to your conclusions) men have to go around wooing the woman, spending time and $$ on her in order to arouse her, then once the steamy stuff begins, have to spend 90% more time on her so she can have multiple orgasms. An average man takes about 8 min to obtain orgasm. An average woman’s FIRST may take about the same amount of time, but after that it seems as if the time doubles over and over. I’m ok with going for a few, but to be honest, once nookie is over, I’m ready to take a 2hr nap.

Now let’s think about things women shouldn’t do before sex; Don’t ever ask a man if he wants “pity” sex. Don’t lie in the sack and claim that you’ve orgasmed when you’ve really only made some erotic moaning noises. Don’t try and act like a porn star… not unless some serious role playing starts. If performing oral sex, be careful where your teeth go. The list goes on. Why did this article have to include 100% focus on how us men can improve a woman’s sex life but not on how women can help make ours a little more enjoyable?

Since when did sex become ALL ABOUT HER ?!? Good sex, just like any other part of a relationship is about give and take, and yes….compromise. My turn. Your turn. Special rewards for good behavior, etc. This article is just another example of how many “modern women” (aka - feminazis) think that or years of sufferage, men now should exist to serve women. There definitely should have been a counterpoint list of “The 10 (as if there were only 10) Mistakes that Women Make in the Sack”.

I’ll kick it off:

1. Your expectations with regard to foreplay may simply be unrealistic.

2. Not going south NEARLY enough. (Or with enough enthusiasm)

3. Focusing on Big Jim, but ignoring The Twins

4. Not acting like a porn start - He has fantasies too

5. That ratty house coat and dirty bunny slippers are NOT sexy !

6. You get the point

I plan to continue to disregard numbers 1,2 & 6.

Hate to nit-pick, but it’s “belle” of the ball, not “bell.” And it’s a wonderful analogy.

You know, it would be nice if we got a little communication. Something like, “That’s where it feels the best.” I like this, I don’t like that.
PS. Men are visually stimulated. Maybe wearing something sexy would help? Don’t come to bed in an Army blanket and expect to get instance arousal.

Now that I have read some of the other comments, I get it. This was to draw out all the sexually frustrated bimbos. Me and mine never have these problems, sorry.

Good article!

Dr. when are you going to get this through you thick head that we the public don’t want this column on here? Or should I say a good percentage! Teenagers come on here to look at news and you post this stuff. Hey Doc, do you have a relationship with Jesus Christ? If not, you need to. You’re in our prayers.

Fox, remove this junk please unless you have another agenda…

All I can say is….DUH!!!! STUPID!!!!

Fox news has by far been the my best source for news in the last 6 years I’ve really been paying attention. Most people close to me would agree and say the same. I didn’t choose Fox news as my web homepage or my favorite television channel so I can learn about the sexual appetites of women, men, or anything else. Please stick to what made you # 1 and not what makes everyone else and their trendy reporting a “flash in the pan.” Kids read this page. People that want to view sites without pop culture sexual connotation read this page. PLEASE, PLEASE don’t go down this path. Thanks! Fox is still the best and again without seeking to be negative, let me again ask that you please stay true to what made you the best.

This country is currently fighting a war, facing terrorist and foreign threats, is in an economic crisis, and is in the midst of one of the most important elections in modern history. Foxnews, how dare you have the audacity to post this on your website. Why would you possibly think that someone would come to Foxnews.com looking for this type of information? Do you actually call yourselves journalists? This is not news. If you want to write about this subject, then go work for Cosmopolitan Magazine. I have been a loyal Foxnews follower for quite a while now, and this is all I can take. I would rather get my news from the left-wing news websites.

Thanks Yvonne!

My wife has been in Iraq for over a year, so I needed a refresher/update!

I have lost count of the number of articles written about what men to wrong. How about what women do wrong? Yes, women can make many assumptions as well and some seem to think that all they have to do is “let” you get some and do not work at making the experience mutually enjoyable. It takes two for the sex to be really good but only one (either one) to make it something less.

I thought it takes two to tango…Lets get real here…. Yankee Trader

As always, most of these comments left by men pinpoint exactly how they feel…sex is for them and should be about them.

Please…we should enjoy the fact that the men we are with have been with previous partners? Why? In the age we live in? The more partners = more chance for HPV (which equals cancer for women). Thre’s too many STD’s to worry about to “appreciate” the fact that men have been with so many other women previously. I actually think it’s rather disgusting and dangerous to be with a man “so experienced.”

I appreciate the article, however, I do believe there needs to be more focus on the dangers of sex and the consequences that come out of pre-marital sex (e.g. STD’s).

Why is the Americn male singled out as a ignorant, caveman, not accountable, sex crazed idiot ?
Take any channel on TV, look at any commercials , who is fits the above desciption they PORTRAY…………………………………………..To this combat wounded warrior , this is the most
bias fecal data to win a buck !!!!!!! Suck up Commercial idiots, wonder why TV viewing is hitting all time moral decline of America !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 100% total perm. Disabled Combat Vet

I still prefer my toys.They do a better job,and I don’t have to deal with pigs..Tip-a clean fresh mouth is nice and welcomed-no fun kissing a smelly coffeefoodcig piehole.

Why must it be that ONLY MEN are singled out for being non-knowledgeable, biased, idiotic, non-caring individuals. This singling out of only one gender, is an ongoing display of commercial
“dollar marketing” like 9 out of 10 TV commercials displaying males of the above “unfair descriptions. I’am so greatful to have a friend and marital partner for 36 years who not only
loves my solid male attributes, but shares our love for 4 great kids and 3 grandchildren. This
soldier warrior is dismayed to see FOX support “another one sided” attack-”need to be better
at…….”sex”……………………where is your love life ??

bias ?

Most men are morons when it comes to knowing how to please a woman in bed (ask any woman)
They need to learn about the buildup to the actual act itself, and all the little “side dishes” that go along with it. They’ll get a lot more pleasure if they do, and so will their partner.

Just as Youtube and Google Video has been slowly taken over by soft porn vids with raunchy videos that push the moral envelope and get the greatest number of hits, so too is Fox on the web. Stick to the news and leave the smut to other websites. This kinda of crap is uncalled for.

“Top 10 Mistakes Women Make”

1. Thinking that foreplay is all there really is to sex.
2. Not going south, period.
3. Ignoring the scrotum.
4. Missing the rectum when using digital stimulation.
5. Becoming too diffuse in your efforts– eg, talking about work during sex.
6. Gaining weight ands insisting we think you’re still attractive, or at least saying so.
7. Not being naughty.
8. Not acting like a porn star.
9. Not looking like a porn star.
10. Not staying on top of your own orgasm needs. (cf: Dr. Ruth)

Wonder if we’ll see this list in an article as the topic of the article any time soon?

“FOX News encourages you to participate in this discussion; however, comments that include unlawful, threatening, libelous, or obscene content will not be allowed…”

The whole article is obscene.

I hear my friends comment all the time that all they really want to do is go to sleep. They say that they don’t care if they ever have sex again. With enthusiasm such as this, it would be difficult for any man to want to dedicate his time and body to please a woman. Since when did all of the responsibility for foreplay, attentiveness and affection, and amazing sex fall solely on the man???
Ladies, wake up. You can sleep when your dead. Men, insist on the EXACT same demands that this article makes of you!!

And Fox News….this article is not appropriate. There are children and very young teens who read this stuff! When there are people divulging the private details of their sex experiences such as KARE did, (WAY TO MUCH INFORMATION SWEETHEART), it crosses the line.

If #10 is reallly true then its’ the women using men for sex, not the other way round.

Man, you really know what you are talking about, thanks.,

Good read…so now we know the mistakes guys make…what about the mistakes girls make? Let’s make this equal here!

I have read similar articles with the same message. No new news to tell! I believe that the women who pen these articles are trying to get a message to their lovers. Reading between the lines, the doc is trying to inform men that women can’t communicate their needs, desires and wants. Think about the rewarding sex life you would have if your lover whispered her fantasies to you, guided you to her g-spot, and showed you how she wanted to be handled.

Men don’t need the doc to share her thoughts on the 10 mistakes that women make. If you want more from your babe, tell her what you want and ask what she wants. You may be surprised!

This isn’t news.

Give me a break! This is the crap I’m trying to protect my kids from on the internet. And it’s on your website.

This is the funniest article I’ve read in a long time. Is this article geared toward making women believe their happiness is paramount and men should kiss their backside on a daily basis? Or, is this a subconscious “Wish List” indicating what a poor love life you have? Maybe you should work on honing your laundry skills or sandwich making skills? Maybe then your love life with “perk-up” so to speak?? With women like you around no wonder men have all but thrown in the towel over the idea of marriage.

P.S. Don’t forget the “Be Quite skills” when I’m watching TV

And the news is ?!?!?! I’m disappointed [too] in FOX that this is appearing. There’s a time and place for this but not front page on the Web.

Number six and eight are so correct. However, I seriously disagree that sex should take up an entire night. Every girlfriend I have hate it when men read advise, which cause them to be completely unnatural and mess around for hours before getting down to business. If you are not an absolute looker, turn off the lights and just do it!

Here is the number one for any woman that wants the 10 you talk about. SHE HAS TO TELL YOU WHAT FEELS GOOD AND WHAT SHE WANTS! No we don’t want to be like porn stars we just want to know that we are doing it right. That is why we ask the question: Was it good for you? Right depends upon her. We are not mind readers and women just don’t want to talk about it during the act. Woman should use the following:
1. That feels good.
2. Up or down/left or right a little
3. Yes right there
4. Keep that up / don’t stop
5. etc
There are many more reasons that men have no idea what any specific woman like. COMMUNICATON is the key. Men know and agree that to be a great lover SHE must be satisfied.

This is right on, had to be written by a woman! One more important thing and most definite is this is where “Ladies First” came from and she should always be taken care of first. She needs to feel assured that your most important pleasure comes from giving pleasure to her. Nothing assures you to have more opportunities in the future with her than letting her know her pleasure is your pleasure!

If a man listens to what she is saying, most women will let you know what pleases them and whether they want you to surprise them or not. Remember cleanliness is extremely important and go easy on your aftershave or cologne, what you think is great may just not be so!
John

Some of ya’ll remind of the lady who gave her son-in-law two sweaters for his birthday. When she came over to visit, he wore one of the sweaters. She demanded “What’s the matter? You didn’t like the other one?”

I suspect if Dr. Fulbright had written “10 Mistakes Women Make” first, people would post comments saying she was catering to “selfish-pig men.” And speaking of selfishness, if you’re not selfish, you’ll try hard to please your mate–sometimes even when you feel they’ve dropped the ball for a bit. This column offers some tips on how to do that.

Personally, I thought this was one of Fulbright’s better articles–much better than the one on whether people will have sex with robots (even if I disagree on her suggestion promoting erotica within marriage). She’s on her strongest when she write practical articles like this one.

I saved a copy of this column. I know I’ll be needing it.

This is a great article. I learned many of these techniques only after many years of marriage and a lackluster sex life. These tips are a great starting point for men who really want to try to improve their own sex life. You reap what you sow … treat a woman right and she will definitely treat you right. Selfishness begets selfishness.

Remember, listening is a big part of communication.

This is one of the many reasons why I choose to stay a virgin. I’m tired of men being blamed for everything bad that involves sex — from STDs, to not satisfying women sexually. Men have too many responsibilities when it comes to sex. Since women are so complicated to please sexually, why don’t they take the lead in sexual situations? Wouldn’t it be wiser if they did, so that they could show their male partners what pleases them? I’m certainly not going to go through all of this just to have sex. It’s not even worth it.

No sex for me, please; I’ll just stay a virgin!

Regarding sex issues.
Women never go for sex looking for orgasms.

Women never experience strong somatic emotions towards the opposite gender and what women call emotions are actually thoughts, because they don’t have the hormones to produce such emotions. The “strongest emotions” towards men result in giggling and off-topic laughter.
Women can be put into altered states where they can experience feelings towards men. However, such trans states do not lead to emotions but rather to thoughts.
The only somatic emotions women can have are produced by oxitocine, and this high is directed towards their own children, not to men.
Female bodily sensations unrelated to children are weak, and when it concerns sexual sensations are almost non-existent. The “strongest bodily sensations” towards men result in wetness (not pleasant a sensation )
In other words, all female orgasms and women’s sexuality in general are fake, no matter what women want us to believe.

Bean,
you are about the biggest (ignorant) idiot I have ever come across. Women dont go for sex for the orgasm? You’re kidding right? Do men? I’d assume so, and women are no different, other than wanting a bit more emotional “stuff,” (holding, caressing, etc). I almost feel sorry for you; almost.