Finally a woman that understands what a man wants from his mate in the bedroom!

I agree with most of the items you mentioned except the pornography. Pornography is dangerous as it objectifies women. It leads to a little more hardcore, that doesn’t satisfy as it used to, and then a little more hardcore is needed and on and on. Yes, it will sooner or later replace the wife and should never be allowed. It is an additiction. Please don’t advocate for something that degrades women.

I like making noise and talking dirty to my boyfriend, but when he still lives with his mom and step-dad at the age of 29, it’s a little hard for me to do that. I live in an apartment with my brother and it seems like he never leaves, so it is hard for my boyfriend and I to have any alone time. With money being tight for both of us going to a hotel for the night or weekend is out of the question. Any suggestions?

wow, so we’re really supposed to keep our mouths shut about bathroom stuff? well, sorry for being human, maybe you should think about maturity before a sexual relationship if you can’t handle it. and as for pornography? wow, that’s really something i want my husband enjoying….another woman instead of me. i don’t care how much men try to say otherwise, there’s at least ONE time you’ll be thinking about the blonde on the screen instead of your wife. not the best idea for a healthy marriage.

I agree with her 99%… but nipples? It’s hard to feel like a man when a lady is trying to milk you.

I would replace that nipple paragraph with having a girl spend a little time on youtube and educate herself on all sorts of sex fetishes. Most guys like something or another and it will increase the odds she won’t respond with an “ick” when faced with it.

Nothing is worse than someone you’re with judging you in a negative way…

this article is retarded. she obviously is not a mom, obviously never has been in a monogamous relationship, and obviously doesn’t think pornography is bad.

some of the items on the list are common sense, but most of them are just ‘cosmopolitan’-type nonsense that don’t apply to real relationships. especially the pornography item - if a woman is not bothered by her man glaring at fake boobs and plastic sugery-enhanced models, then she’s living in a fantasy world.

I’d say that the “bodily function comment” type stuff cuts BOTH ways. In fact, MEN are far more likely to discuss their latest bowel movement than are women. Where does Yvonne get this stuff?

“Strive to stay trim and look your best, and apparently effortlessly at that. While he wants you to be the girl-next-door in so many ways, he also wants to eternally see you as his sex goddess.”

While I agree with most of the article, why does one have to be trim to look their best? Big girls can be just as confident as “trim” girls in and out of the bedroom.

Face it ladies, we’re only here to be the mans fantasy and to be used for his every whim. Yeah right.

Porn is unacceptable and cheating. You don’t have to put up with this ladies! Why should your man enjoy watching other women when you can dance for him? My man doesn’t need porn to get aroused… maybe if these guys need porn they should try some Viagra!

All great info!!

im just going to go ahead and repeat all that mark said because this is a terrible article- it would be better placed in those celeb magazines not on the fox news website, wow.

this article is retarded. she obviously is not a mom, obviously never has been in a monogamous relationship, and obviously doesn’t think pornography is bad.

some of the items on the list are common sense, but most of them are just ‘cosmopolitan’-type nonsense that don’t apply to real relationships. especially the pornography item - if a woman is not bothered by her man glaring at fake boobs and plastic sugery-enhanced models, then she’s living in a fantasy world.

I’m not into my nipples being sucked on - i have never asked but I’m sure most men would not like it either.

Porn is not an addiction unless you would rather do that then have sex with your wife. Those that think it is are the women that this lady is trying to help

To the woman who thinks her man will think of other women while have sex with you. You are right we do. But if you were truly honest with yourself you would admit that you think of other men too

100% Correct on all counts.

Especially number 6…being unable to own your body. You couldn’t be more right that attitude is as big, or bigger a component of a sexy woman than simple outward appearance.

As for pornography, I see several women have already cried objectification and decried fake breasts and other surgical enhancements. What a narrow view of erotica that is. The truth is that, in my experience, the material I find most enticing are amateur films…and I mean truly amateur. Woman/couple next door types of images that I could envision actually happening somewhere on my street. These things are more closely related to events that take place in my own bedroom and much easier to relate to. I and the men to whom I’ve spoken on the subject over the years agree that perfectly lit, perfectly made up, cosmetically and surgically enhanced Barbie dolls are too unnatural to carry much psychological weight in a real intimate situation.

Cathy… pornography cannot a replace a living breathing person. It’s simply illogical. I understand how it can be threatening to woman, but how do you think men feel when ever tabloid in the supermarket has Matthew McConaughey shirtless on the front or when you have shows like Sex In The City glorify the objectification of men?

Basically, we should try our best not to judge based on our own insecurities. A woman is not going to find me unattractive because I don’t have a movie star chest and a man will not stop loving you because some 20 year old is doing naughty things on a DVD.

My advice is to go find some porn you’re into and have a little fun…

Dana … I have an idea for you. Record the dirty talk on to an mp3 player and both of you can wear head phones when you’re together. Blast it on high volume and you will feel like you’re completely free.

Touching a man’s nipples (sometimes have to remember we have them) is NOT a turn-on, no matter what she says.

I thought this was a well-thought out, well written article, though I was (pleasantly) surprised to see that many of the suggestions could be assumed to have been written by a male.
I will see that my wife sees and reads it. Thank you!

#3 is incredibly important. I don’t take that to mean women should try to achieve an unrealistic, June Cleaver, standard. Just please, remember who you were that attracted your husband to you in the first place. Physical appearance and decorum count. They don’t count nearly as much as Hollywood and the media would have us believe, but they do count.

She is right on the money. And Cathy your comments about pronography are as out there as saying anyone who drinks alcohol is an alcoholic, or anyone who takes pain medication is an addict. If it’s not for you that’s fine but don’t judge and please don’t generalize. And what about those steamy love novels that so many women love to read? Are those addictive also? And what about when you fantasize about being with someone other than your spouse? You will never be able to stop your husband from doing that, at least not if he’s a human male. Yeah Ok I just generalized but do you get my point!

As usual, Yvonne is right.

The people who object seem to be thinking about their feelings, and the article is cleary a generalization of what men would like in their women. Not everyone will like everything that is suggested, and the people commenting above obviously have their own hangups instead of having the thought of pleasing their lover (isn’t that what love is about?).

And people should not degrade into name-calling when Yvonne is just trying to give her opinion on what she has observed in her studies and in ther practice.

Frances… are you kidding? How mature do you expect everyone to be? Yes, A poop joke is not supposed to make me laugh at 35 years old, but it does. Forgive me, but if my wife cuts a cherry bomb in the room, I don’t have the urge to suddenly strip naked. If you enjoy hearing about how gassy your husband is before sex, by all means have a good time with it… but it’s a sex fetish and not a maturity issue.

As far as your hubby thinking about the “blonde” instead of his wife… if my wife is thinking about Brad Pitt instead of me, maybe the problem is with me and what I’m bringing to the table. Everyone in a relationship has a responsibility to be there for their partner. If one person abandons the other by getting huge or not caring about their appearance, then it’s only natural to seek help in keeping interested.

Sex is an animalistic trait in humans…. It’s got little to do with maturity. When you find Ralph Kramden sexy.. then you can talk about how your husband should accept anything. If the pretty blonde in the video makes your husband want you a little more in bed, what’s so terrible about that? It saves you the trouble of having to excersize.

Frances…discussions about digestive or other bodily issues in a clinical context or that of an illness are perfectly fine. Adults shouldn’t be embarrassed about these kinds of things, but as a general rule routine bodily functions should be kept discreet. I’m perfectly aware of the things my wife does on a daily basis, those that we have in common and those she must undergo and endure as a woman. They are all natural…and so is a pack of lions evicerating a water buffalo, but that doesn’t mean I have any desire to be in the immediate vicinity while it’s taking place, or to discuss the details of the event for any reason.

Mark… there is no way on earth you a man. Do woman like it when their husband becomes a “dad”, gets fat, lets the hair leak off the head and starts dressing like a grandpa? Didn’t think so! I know it’s hard to rasie a kid and have time for grooming… but life is hard. You earn happiness in life..

The child should see well groomed, happy parents, not asexual, insecure people who have lost the connection to each other.

The more we hear about sex…the less interesting it becomes.

Banana.. you’re my hero!

Extremely weak and generous compared to the male bashing column from a couple weeks ago. This article should have been called “The blatantly obvious mistakes that WOMEN think women make in bed”. This article should have been written by a man to be of any real value.

Things like:

1. You could learn a LOT from porn. (Men buy and watch porn because THAT is the kind of that turns us on)

2. Fishnets….they’re not just for fishing anymore

You forgot number 11–don’t expect that your partner will be happy with celibacy.

C’mon Tom and Brad, step out of the “manly” stereotype and check those nipples again. You’ll have more fun when you realize more of your body can turn on than just between the legs. You might even discover natural multiple male orgasms.

Hey Stoney, before you kick that hornet’s nest I definitely would NOT show this to your wife. If you have preferences regarding “bedroom” activity man up and tell her. Dropping this article in her lap will have the opposite affect you are intending. Just my thoughts.

The article, was so-so. I too don’t like to have my nipples played with because it just doesn’t turn me on. We all want our significant others to be the way they were when we first fell for them, but age (and kids for the ladies) happen. We should accept them as they are, if you want to change someone then work on yourself. Maybe if they see you making an effort to improve yourself, physically, mentally, etc., then they may follow your lead.

I would expect this article to be on cnn not fox. Enticing people to look at porn should be on the Clinton News Network. Whether married or unmarried porn is destructive, and can become addictive. Why would you encourage something destructive and potentially addictive? The eye is the lamp of the body.
I agree that some people stop looking their best when they get married, but that should be a personal discussion between couples. Additionally, this society has become so sex hungry that they take their eyes of more productive thoughts. Personally, Im tired of all the male driven commercials. When our young daughters see this stuff and we have to explain it to them, it becomes a little sickening. When will we get back to civility?

What does it say that all men agree with the article and most woman seem to disagree? It means that the article is dead on correct. The article is about what woman usually overlook when wanting to become more desirable to their husbands/mates. Every man on here mostly agrees with everything and most woman raise their insecurities up like a flag to the article.

That’s basically the entire point what the writer is talking about. Woman… you will never be able to change a man’s nature, much like we will never be able to change you. We all need to accept each other and try to see the other point of view. You’ll never stop a man from looking at the pretty blonde, but if you make a big deal about it… it will become a big deal. We can never stop you from looking at the shirtless guy on the beach either… why should we? Nobody has the right to ask another human being not to be human. We don’t own our partners.

I am sorry to see Fox News sink to the low level of MSNBC. These sex articles are for trashy news sites and don’t belong here. I wish there was one news site I could let my children read that only contained real news.
I’m disappointed and disgusted.

yes to most of the tips but pornography is not ok. it makes women objects not human. it also leads to men wanting more than just visual stimulus and then they are doing everything in sight. don’t make it sound so innocent it is far from it and has ruined many a life and relationship. when ted bundy was asked as he was lead from the court room what started him on the path of killing and rape he said one word PORNOGRAPHY

Funny to see how jealious some woman can get over the fact that their male partners enjoy watching porn or looking at playboy! These women should
realize that these items are not designed just for men. Maybe they should take a small interest in these tools and learn MOre of what makes us satisfied. Women you do these and we (males) will notice your actions more, and yes PARTNERS should learn and evolve together ESP when it comes to the SACK. (unless your to old and set in your traditional ways of boring sex) cant teach a old dog new tricks, unless theyre willing!
Thanx Sexpert we value your input..

wow, i agree with so much yvonne is saying. it’s about time, too. my husband & i have been together 26 years, have two kids (college) & still have great sex. we’ve always made time for love. we never let our children take over our bed — they had their own. we never had any qualms about getting childcare for an evening out or a weekend away (no guilt here). we’ve always known that we needed to take care of our relationship & not forget that we were a wife & a husband first, parents second. while we love our children heart & soul, we’ve always known we had to provide a solid foundation for them. we both stay fit & strong. and altho i’m not waifish like i was when we married, i’ve tried to keep my weight in check & not just let myself go because i already had a husband “snagged.” we have occasionally shared porn. my husband HATES having his nipples touched! and even tho my husband share EVERYTHING, sometimes a little bathroom modesty is not a bad thing. when i wasn’t working full time, i tried to clean up & look good when he walked in the door … i wanted him to be excited about coming home to see me. and he does the same for me … he dresses in shirts or jeans he knows i love, wears the great cologne. mmm!! folks, just make the effort for the person you loved enough to marry.

Are you kidding me? Numbers 3 and 6 are a bit contradictory. One says “own your body.” The other advises that you stay fit and trim to keep him interested. Whatever! As far as keeping bathroom stuff private….Letting a man know that you have cramps is the best way to get a foot or back rub! These, in turn, can lead to some really nice lovemaking!!! I find it extremely sexy when a man acknowledges that a period is what makes a woman a woman and jumps in there to “help out.” It’s can be a messy, but it’s also when some women feel the most amorous.

Regina… a news site your kids can read? Are you kidding… news that is broadcast on a commercial avenue is rarely good. It’s all about violence and deception. Why would you want your kids watching the news anyway? This site and most news sites are for adults. It’s not the world’s job to shield your kids from the non-Disney side of life.

Tammy… Ted Bundy? Really? C’mon… that’s a little extreme.

Relationships die for real reasons… pornography is just fun. I know a LOT of woman that watch porn.. what’s the big deal with a little objectification? Woman objectify men ALL the time. If you’ve ever thought about a man’s job, a man’s wallet, a man’s body or a man on anything other than a cerebral level.. you’ve been objectifying men. I’m not going to crucify you for it, but don’t judge others by a different standard then you hold yourself to.

I guess it depends on how you are reading this. I think it’s mostly about having a “sexual relationship”, and not about how to maintain a lifelong “relationship”. I can tell you as the wife, porn is an insult. You can try to justify it all you want, but the truth is, looking at porn just for the sake of looking at it is insulting. Especially since most of it is the airbrushed, surgically enhanced 20 something girls, and most of us “mommy” 40 somethings can’t compete. And we know it. It is especially insulting because men are apt to send the porn around to each other, and the stuff with the “over weight, cottage cheese, 40 something” women is more apt to be the “joke” email.

Also, nice to say stay trim, don’t talk about bodily functions, blah blah balh……Wouldn’t that be a nice “fantasy” place to live….But the realities of life are, both men and women loose their youthful figures, and if you live with someone long enough, you are sure to hear about (if not witness) their bodily functions. That is part of life. Get over it. Yes, you may want to stay healthy enough to have sex, and you might want to avoid talking about bodily functions during sex, but really are we so shallow as a society that we can’t handle a mature relationship that includes being comfortable with each other???

Oh, and which is it, worry over staying slim, or own your body? These are a little conflicting don’t you think?

Auggie… it’s no surprise you’re happy. You sound really evolved.

Nikki… Most men like giving back/foot anything massages even without a reason. A period doesn’t have to always be a gateway. Just sit next to him and entice him a little.. it will just happen. Even just ask for one because you’re a woman and you’re giving a guy a chance to have a little fun.

Most woman don’t realize how naturally sexy they are. They don’t have to be in peek physical shape.. just be confident and look within reason like you did when we met you.. and you’ll be fine.

I know most woman have no idea what we like about their bodies beyond breasts… but just trust me… if you’re not 75 lbs overweight, have hairy legs or are have nails growing out to Canada … your partner and most other men will find you sexy for more reasons than you can imagine.

Tammy…citing a literal psychopath is inflamatory, to say the least. Are we really supposed to believe that a deranged psychotic serial killer was able to give an apt appraisal of the impetus for his obsession? Addiction to pornography was only one component of a complex psychosis Bundy developed.

Pornography has existed at least since the ancient Egyptians and it always will. As long as we are biologically driven to pursue sex, the vast majority of us will be interested in sexual imagery to at least some degree. If your personal makeup finds no stimulation from images of sexuality then that is simply your preference. It could be religion based, it could be trauma based, or it could simply be a strong opinion, but generalizing a stereotype and linking it to murder doesn’t help illustrate your point of view.

Items 3, 5, 7 and 10 are ridiculous. Actually, pretty much the entire list is ridiculous because it isn’t universally applicable advice. But those items in particular are highly subjective. Some men like teeth to be used during sex. Trash-talking about other women (in private and not to their face) isn’t necessarily an indicator of insecurity. Many men are offended by trashy women, too. Also, #7 implies that if your man’s eye wanders, it’s your fault. That’s an outdated and absurd notion. #5 is similarly outdated in assuming that men like women who are “nasty” in bed. It goes back to the whole Madonna/Whore dichotomy. Guess what? Plenty of men are turned off by dirty talk in the bedroom.

It strikes me that the entire list is just as offensive and sexist against men as it is women. It makes assumptions about what men like that are simplistic and animalistic. It also attempts to reinforce the “women must be like porn stars in order to satisfy and keep a man” myth.

#4 is a little tricky. Pornography is not evil, and it’s perfectly normal for a man (or a woman!) to continue to enjoy porn while in a steady relationship/marriage. Don’t get excited about it as long as it’s something like Playboy. If, however, the porn he seems to prefer is unusually violent or disgusting (poop/vomit), you should probably have a conversation about it to find out if it reflects a deeper disturbance in his personality or is simply fantasy.

Frankly, this list is a series of assumptions that women shouldn’t make. Generalized assumptions are never a substitute for actually communicating with your mate and talking about what you like and don’t like.

And in case anyone cares about my “qualifications” for saying all this, I’ve been happily married to the same man for 11 years now.

Interesting article, but I disagree with your view on pornography. If a guy has to look at another woman in order to want to have sex with me, I would consider that an insult. I have been married 31 years and I have three daughters, and I consider pornography to be demeaning and insulting to women. I believe that more and more men are developing an addiction to pornography due to being inundated with it from everywhere. I also believe the sexualization of our children at earlier and earlier ages is a direct result of the massive volume of pornography available today to anyone and everyone. Somehow it has become cool to be a stripper or a prostitute and even the 10-year-old kids are dressing like them. Sorry, but I couldn’t disagree more.

Great article! This is a woman who knows more than most about what a man wants.

Nikki…3 and 6 don’t contratict one another.

Number 3 says not to utterly abandon caring for your appearance and health.

Number 6 says not to let one’s flaws inhibit you from achieving an attitude of sexual confidence.

And letting your husband know you’re uncomfortable because of your period is fine. Rambling on about ruined panties and making sure the bathroom door stays closed so the dogs aren’t tempted to tear it apart is another thing entirely. We’re talking about discretion regarding the actual unpleasantness of the bodily function itself. The fact that it’s natural doesn’t mean a man should care to bear witness to the graphic realities, just as you shouldn’t be forced to witness the masculine unpleasantness men are capable of.

This is great! My wife is beautiful, cares about how she looks, and takes great care of the kids and myself. To put it bluntly she is a Betty Crocker in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. She knows everyone of those ten items and keeps me perfectly happy at home. Therefore she does not have a thing to worry about when it comes to me cheating on her. News flash for the ladies that do not agree with those ten items, if your not scratching your dog someone else is.

The only thing I have to strenuously disagree with is the porn thing. I’ve now known at least a half-dozen women whose husbands used porn as a gateway for internet chat, and eventually cheating, marriages destroyed. For my married friend who turned up with Chlamydia while she was pregnant, from her “monogamous” husband… or the friend whose ex-boyfriend could not maintain an erection if the porn wasn’t on or he wasn’t self-stimulating… porn is not an innocent thing. It messes up mens’ minds, gives them unrealistic expectations about REAL sex, and makes them unable to be pleased by the same woman for a long time.

Studies show that men who see porn before they reach maturity end up having sucky sex lives later, because they can’t maintain an erection without the visual stimulation, never learn how to have a give-and-take relationship with a real, live woman, and are extremely selfish in bed.

I thank God my hubby thinks porn is wrong and has never watched it… and we have an awesome bedroom life, even after nearly 10 years! It’s still getting better all the time.

I will agree with some that the article generilized in some fashion. However as a general male, I have to agree that most of what was written is true.

I like the ocassional porn, but an addiction? Perhaps for some… not for all!! If we banned and got rid of everything that could be addictive, then the US would be a country of robots! Here is a short list of things that are addictive: TV, video games, exercise, food, soda, driving… almost everything we do even work can be addictive for some. That doesn’t mean it is wrong or that no one should do it. We are the rulers of our own bodies. If someone wants to pose naked so some stranger can look at thier body so be it. We are not on this earth to judge, we are here to live and enjoy life as each individual sees it for themselves!!

Nipple play is good sometimes, not always. I really need to be ON for it!

Someone mentioned that 3 and 6 where contradictory. I don’t think so… 3 says to own your body meaning use your mates desires for you by accentuating your features a bit. My wife likes my chest and but, I will occasionaly wear tight jeans and a shirt that shows off my chest and shoulders. #6 talks about taking care of the finer points of your body. Maybe add a little perfume or makeup or such to give that extra umpf… along with stay fit enough as not to be a log in the bed! Stamina is an important part of love making and in order to have stamina you need to do a little extra physical work, like excersise in order to stay tip top!

I hope I got my points across!!

Oh… one last thing! pornography only objectifies women who think they are objects!! Our society needs to move away from the puriten point of view we seem to have been stuck in for the last 200+ years!! There are plenty of materiels… photos, movies, books etc. that men could say objectifies them. I personally say to those men if any would say it… grow up and be a man! Because my first statement rings true for both sides.

How can a woman feel sexy when her man is looking at pornography?

Half her advice is urging a woman to be comfortable with her man’s porn habit, to not speak up against women who dress like pornstars, and yet perform like a pornstar in bed by talking dirty, making loud noises and playing “head games below the belt.”

Dr. Fulbright even advises women to not even bring up that she needs to deal with hygiene problems like anyone else because it would disturb a man’s fantasy that she’s some sort of “goddess.”

How can a woman feel confident in herself if she can’t even be human? How can she “own her body” when at the same time she should reject her humanity?

Dr. Fulbright’s advice is very self-defeating.

Paul I think it illustrated it beautifully. when men use it to the point of making it more hardcore and then having affairs or cheating it is a problem i wouldn’t expect a man to get it so go watch your porn I am sure it has enhanced your relationships so much!
Besides if that is what started Ted bundy to objectify women and treat them like objects and things then it is a good point sorry if it hit too close to home for you.

Maybe Brad should be writing this article, he sure has a lot to say. As far as the pornography thing goes, I really don’t see that it’s a problem, unless you make it a problem. My husband and I watch it every now and then (gives us new ideas!) And while the women in porn are more attractive than I think I am, I have no problem w/my hubby watching it. He’s not going to turn around and have sex with them, or someone else for that matter. As long as someone’s secure in their relationship and sex life, it shouldn’t be a problem.

Paul I also think comparing porn to ‘images of sexuality’ inflammatory and very sad. Wait I know next you and your ilk will call it art or instructional tips, sadder.
I like men who don’t have to watch porn to be turned on to their partner, real men!
Am I naive enough to think men I date don’t watch it? No but they also have enough respect to keep it to them selves and not use it as an excuse to make our intimacy ‘better’.

You can ABSOLUTELY hang up #s 4, 5, and 8!! I’ll even go further to say that attitudes like that are part of what’s wrong with our society as a whole.

Not a bad compulation of tidbits. I’m going to have my wife read this and I’m going to find the one about men. Because, if you don’t keep improving, you’re failing.

These 10 tips are all correct. For pornography, couples must find their balance, men making sure to give their women what they need too. Hey, take away the pictures and we still have images of women at work, on the streets, etc. etc. etc. Men are quite capable of “multi-tasking” between a woman’s physical and other qualities. Most of the bites against pornography are stereotyped and unfounded scientifically. The bites are for male bashers to feel good and angry.

I also need to add this. If Dad is going to witness childbirth, then this could be a psychological shocker. It was difficult to see the vagina “as aor sex” instead of “as for birthing” for me. We overcame it with a little nudging from my wife.

I would like to send this to my wife, but I don’t dare if don’t also include your previous column on the
10 mistakes Men make in bed.

Lately my husband’s been complaining that I am boring in bed and we haven’t had sex for 3 weeks. Please Help!

What a bunch of crap!! So women are supposed to be wrapped in saran wrap with a rose between our teeth after a long day of being mommy??? Give me a break. A REAL man understands mommy mode, and doesn’t expet Glamour Girl 24/7. According to Ms. Sexpert, you’re not allowed to just be yourself, you have to be ready to roll in the hay at any moment, look perfect, and ooze confidence. Don’t be human! Give me a break. Let me tell you– I’ve been married over ten years, and I have a husband who accepts me for ME, including my fatigue at the end of the day, my days of simply NOT feeling like a porn star, and understands what it’s like to have had a rough day of being a mom. He is my best friend, he loves me for me, ALL the time (not just when I’m tied up in the bedroom dressed like a hooker), and yes, we still have an absolutely wonderful sex life.

I totally disagree with #4. I shouldn’t have to condone his looking at pornography, and I shouldn’t feel guilty for being threatened by it either. I do think it’s a form of infidelity, and (less importantly) I worry that he’ll compare me to the tramps on the page or on the screen. He should respect me and our marriage and refrain.

The article starts off with:
You wanted it. So I’m giving it to you. When “The Top 10 Mistakes Men Make” ran a couple of weeks ago, readers were like: “Fair enough. But what about the mistakes women make?”

Why is it that I can’t find the Men’s Mistakes anywhere? I’ve used fox’s search engine and nada. I’ve looked at the ” LATEST SEXPERT COLUMNS” and the ” MORE FROM THE SEXPERT” and nada.

I’d love to share this list with my spouse so we can discuss both lists!!!

Like most everything that comes out this column, it’s insane. Pornography?! Talking dirty?! Next, you will be suggesting that infidelity will improve your marriage. (Yes, I have seen that claim.) This column is generally about as low as it can get but I think you advising people on how to conduct their marriage should be considered criminal at best. Our morals and sense of decency are fading rapidly in this country precisely because of the growth of this sort of drivel. What the hell kind of marriage would it be based on pornography and trash talk? I’m at loss for words on how stupid this is.

I agree with all but point #4. Studies on pornography have overwhelmingly shown that it has very damaging effects on relationships and marriages. If your going to give advice, you should make sure you have done your homework. Pornography has no place in a marriage relationship and should most definately be challeneged and discussed in a loving understanding manner.

My wife is a picture of each and every single one of these mistakes.

1 - She NEVER acts sexy, and thinks it is improper to do so. She wears the most totally covering outfits to bed at night. Several layers of it.

2 - She ALWAYS just lays there. She will not ever do anything BUT missionary.

3 - My wife reached 270 lbs last year. She knows that I do not respect people who gain a lot of weight when they do not have any sort of medical condition (she does not). I have stayed fit and trim my entire life. I am very muscular and have a 33 inch waist. I considered it my duty to stay this way.

4 - My wife is TOTALLY against my even seeing women in a bikini, much less nude. The problem is, I do not even get to look at HER. I do not see how she can justify not showing herself to me, while at the same time getting angry when I look at someone else.

5 - My wife will only use the clinical terms for parts of our body. Period. Anytime I use other words, she is offended.

6 - My wife would NEVER walk around naked, and even bathes in the dark. She ALWAYS wants relations in the dark, as dark as it can get. I have tried to talk to her about it, to no avail. She is uncomfortable with my looking at her nudity in any thing other than a neutral way.

7 - My wife will never miss an opportunity to put down the way other women dress, when she feels that it is too immodest.

8 - I have frequently thought of outside affairs. Who wouldn’t, given what I have just described?

9 - My nipples ARE very sensitive and I like it when they are touched. Just because yours are not does not mean all men are that way. We just do not talk about it with our male friends. I would never mention to my best friend that my nipples are that way. How would he know?

10 - My wife does not even like french kissing and will not allow her mouth anywhere near my genitals, so excessive use of teeth is just non applicable here. I wish I had that problem.

We have kids. I can’t just leave them and her behind. I am their sole support. Sexually, I am at the end of my rope. I no longer even think of my wife in sexual terms. If and when I look at other women, it is because I am still a MAN, and was born that way.

Ya know, I’d propose a different list of mistakes women (and a lot of men in some instances) make in bed.

1. Sharing it with someone besides your husband or wife, whichever is appropriate.

2. Introducing e coli and his friends to your relationship.

3. Exchanging the tenderness of marital love for pornography.

4. Forgetting that we have nerve endings all over our bodies that respond nicely to various touches.

5. Forgetting that one’s spouse has needs, even if you aren’t quite “in the mood.”

6. Introducing brutality and domination into the bedroom.

7. Relying on mind altering substances or entertainment to get “in the mood.”

8. Forgetting that marital sex is supposed to be fruitful–as in being open at least at times to having children.

9. Following the advice of a seller of sex toys who has apparently never married, instead of the neighbor who has lived the sweetness of married life for longer than the first person has been alive.

Porn is good for the relationship.

When a man looks at pornography, then he thinks about those images instead of his wife. When he is making love to his wife, he does not see her, he sees the perfect, plastic blondes. This is coming from a man, not a woman that has no clue how pornography affects a man.

Point #1: Humans were not meant to only have sex with one person. It is human nature to have sex with multiple partners. Marriage/Relationships DO NOT stop this human trait

Point #2: This article reinterates the FACT that men want Stepford Wives…even though they refuse to admit it…