Comments on: Study: Teen Virgins Likely Not Having Oral Sex

By: Margot

Margot — Sat, 24 May 2008 01:13:37 +0000

My husband and I were virgins when we married. We abstained from sex for eight years while we dated- no heavy petting, even. We did this to honor God. Now, after eight years of marriage we are still abstaining from sex to honor God. We have never had a sex life. I no longer want to abstain- I would like to have children at some point, and realize that a divorce and remarriage are inevitable. So, abstaining from sex before marriage doesn’t always work folks. You never know what you are going to end up with.

By: Cynic

Cynic — Fri, 23 May 2008 08:17:02 +0000

What a lot of hoo haa this is! The study is about as objective and believable as believing that the the laws of physics would allow me to leap The Empire State in a single bound with no propulsion.

As for correlation between successful and not successful relationships having anything to do with premarital sex… or that sex in marriage is wonderful and can’t be improved upon outside matrimony… C’mon now. Be serious… please! Why then are so many people addicted to extra matrimonial relationships? I suspect there’s a few here deeply indoctrinated who have never actually thought his one through or tried alternatives themselves and simply have no idea!

I guess it’s the same old FRIG Principle at work: fear, repression, ignorance and guilt! Worked in the 16th century! Indoctrination into a belief, not allowed or fearing free discussion or challenge, and definitely no experimentation because that may disprove the point! … and then being expected to nod in acquiescence whenever a “moral crusader” opens his mouth.

Sex has 3 functions: procreation, pleasure and means of communication. Matrimony has no relevance to the quality of sex. But if we are to discuss sex stats… please let’s be objective and stop misquoting either the Bible or facts, and it would be nice to have objective studies.

So where in the Bible does it teach against premarital sex? Better still… where in the Bible does it teach against polygamy? Shock horror! It doesn’t. How misguided we have become! A case of “back2the future” via the Dark Ages it seems.

By: LALA

LALA — Thu, 22 May 2008 16:16:46 +0000

So would it be immoral of me, Amy to make sure that my kids know proper condom use? or is thta bad parenting to ensure the safety of my children?

By: Robin

Robin — Thu, 22 May 2008 14:42:34 +0000

Yeah Amy, how “immoral”, how dare they teach 17 and 18 year olds how to properly put on condoms. Oh my lord, now they will definitely run out and have sex, and maybe even SAFE SEX!!!!!
GASP!!! Complete and total trash…
They should have this in 9th grade imo. Senior year is WAY too late.
Like I said, welcome to the real world.

By: Delphene Morris

Delphene Morris — Thu, 22 May 2008 14:31:22 +0000

“People perish for lack of knowledge.” Young people are misinformed about what being a virgin means. Young people are making up their own definitions and misinforming each other. The adults in their lives must sit down and communication to them what sex is all about and the true meaning of virginity.

By: LALA

LALA — Thu, 22 May 2008 11:55:56 +0000

I can honestly say from a medical standpoint that teens are not staying away from oral sex or nartural intercourse. I work in a lab and I see alot of STD’s, in cluding STD’s of the throat and eye…..

Sex Ed needs to stap it up and inform these teens that while oral sex may prevent pregnancy and preserve virginity, it is not safe. You can still get STD’s and stuff from oral sex. Parents need to step up and educate their children as well, and for those parents that have had the “talk” with your kids, good for you

By: Amy Orrico

Amy Orrico — Thu, 22 May 2008 04:40:41 +0000

This reminds me of what my daughter learned in her health class ( a senior in HS) “How to put a condom on & how many FLAVORS to choose from!!! The principal of the school told me that this was government mandated!!! I let him know how immoral this was and strongly suggested he look over this “Planned Parenthood” organization who came to teach our children this garbage!!

By: Sharon Peters

Sharon Peters — Thu, 22 May 2008 02:37:00 +0000

Amen Robin, this discussion is raging with jesus freaks. They are ignorant to reality.

By: Kath

Kath — Thu, 22 May 2008 01:34:05 +0000

Those brought up in homes with strong moral values are more likely to be happier adults. As a family counselor for over 20 years, those who wait to have sex until they are married are much happier in their marriages in the long run. Sex is not for experimentation – it is a gift for a husband and wife.

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 21 May 2008 21:52:06 +0000

Yeah, Jeanie, in fact they are. If sex doesn’t happen in the confines of “holy matrimony” the way they believe it should be practiced by them, as well as EVERYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD, whether you are a christian or not doesn’t matter, what is right for Christians in their view (and yours I’m assuming), is right for everyone, because “god” said so. I didn’t say I thought everyone should run around like “raging animals” having sex with everyone in their path. I’m smart enough though to figure out that a lot of teens ARE having sex whether we like it or not, they know as much about sex as WE teach them. Many of the Christian groups would like to keep them all ignorant in the hopes that if we don’t talk about it, they won’t do it. Teens, actually starting before the teen years, (my kids have been talking and learning for years, we don’t treat sex as if its something “bad” and shameful, just a a part of life that everyone is ready for at different times) need to be educated, very educated, about sex, and yes, they can make their own choices about it. Some will wait, many will not. And yes, some of us live in the real world, and others choose to live in their own little fantasy world of denial.