I have to say this article is a bit disturbing, because i see it as another excuse for people. Are we in capabile of taking responibility for our own actions anymore. Thats like saying that because a kid watched a violent movie or listens to heavy metal was a reason for shooting an actual person. Instead of looking at the actual problems such as parents and friends. Do we lay down this smoke screen of BS to make us feel better about our selves. A persons is capabile of making up there own mind, choses to do something and everything we do has a effect on us some different than others but we should not blame what we did for our problem when the real problem is looking at us in the mirror.

Author’s note: This is not an article on whether or not erotica is morally wrong. It is not an article on whether porn use is an addiction (I’ll get to those great debates at another time).
Like it or not, porn has become a problem in this country.
Well sounds like someone is telling us that porn is morally worng in the first few sentences doesn’t it? if its not wrong, why did they refer to it in the next line as a problem? isn’t a problem indicative of something wrong?

Well i got news for all of your people out there. i am married for 12 years, been together since highschool. we have 4 kids and a porn collection that would make Anne Sprinkles blush. We have never cheated on each other, or even spent a day apart for that fact (1 day 14 years ago). We love watching porn TOGETHER. thats the key, if you have to hide it from your better half, thats the only real problem. get her/him into it and its all good. we have 4 kids, i pay for every aspect of their life, no state aid in any way, shape or form. i pay my taxes and i vote and neither of us has broken a law in our lives (driving not included) We ARE model American Citizens, we help anyone one we can anytime we can. So bug off, we watch porn almost every single day, together, and we are ideal Americans. So don’t refer to porn as a problem ok? if you need to refer to it as a problem, please start the sentece off with “i Have A problem with” and keep to shunning to yourself. you would be so lucky to have a life as good as mine. and in case your wondering, 1 child is to young for school, 2 are getting honors for the 3rd time this year, and the third is up to reading her 40th book this year, books most adults stay away from mind you too. so yes, all the kids are smart, my wife is a stay at home mom, and i am a network admin. Problem my butt, YOU have a problem not me, and yes we are deeply religous too, and not one where porn is treated like the devil himself. were just realistic here, and so should you. but we are discreet, we don’t wear our Jenna Jameson t-Shirts in public just yet.

I dated a man for 4 years whom I believe was addicted to porn. He hid it all the time from me, and when I would find out, he would obviously get upset. We would watch porn together once in awhile, but he would be more into the girls on the video, telling me that I should act like them and lose weight to look like them. He liked to brag that he had the “Largest Asian Porn” collection. He downloaded (asian) porn at work everyday and would make it a point to tell me about the newest girl he downloaded or would make a comment like, “Oh, another girl to download!” if he ever saw an attractive asian woman on TV. He would post up pictures of asian porn stars and models on his desk, but never mine. When I asked him about it, he said that I didn’t make him happy and he told me to stare at them and get used to it or else he would leave me. He spent money he didn’t have on porn, even buying videos that cost about $50 by themselves. When we would make love, he was never intimate, it was always rough and just plain f*cking like you see in porn movies. He would get upset because I never would make the move to pleasure him in the morning and he would get upset if I didn’t pleasure him at night before bed.

The ironic part about this was that the guy I dated after him, had Playboys, Hustlers, Maxims strewn throughout his house. Thank God he wasn’t obsessed with asians either. He always, always, told me how attractive I was and my God, we had the most amazing, passionate sex, ever! I never saw his porn, and I didn’t need to b/c I just didn’t care! He made me feel comfortable, wanted, and loved.

So my question here is, was I just acting like a jealous paranoid freak like my ex of 4 years said? Or do you think he really had a problem?

The people in America are being hit over their heads with so much sex that men won’t need Viagra, they’ll need hydraulics.

I think your choice of porn is perfectly fine when you haven’t a partner. Saves you from going out with the wrong people for the wrong reasons assuming you’re looking for a life partner rather than
just sex.

By the same token, I think a long-term monogomus relationship is a matter of choice as well. It is not required for personal happiness (unless in it is, in YOUR case). Having a single sexual relationship with one’s self while spicing it up with your favorite porn isn’t damaging to anyone or anything, IMHO. I’m 65′, single today, still active sexually and have lived with five girls, married 3 (airline pilot as a profession, so not surprising considering how many days we’re away flyin’ the friendly skies!).

I still like woman….more than ever today, rather than yesterday. Guess I’ve grown as I’ve aged, myself. But unless something real special comes around the corner, I’m not looking to get together being perfectly happy to go it alone at this point in my life. After 3 wives, I’ve earned a rest!!

Phaleg, my primary concern would be how your children - especially any girls that you may have - react to the porn in your house. It may not effect how you and your wife relate, but it may effect how your children learn how to relate sexually and socially to others.

I think the best judge of how a parent raises their children is not how well they do in school, but how they date - who they choose to be their mate. Just be aware that there may be problems and to be careful.

HAHAHAHAHAHA to all those who think porn is not destructive here is your proof. would love to see what the porn lovers from a few weeks ago have to say now
what a mess this world has become
take personal responsibility people…….
i love a man who doesn’t need porn to turn him self on or teach himself new tricks!

I look at porn and sadly I think it makes it hard for me to become arroused as easly with my girlfriend. We have gone out for almost 4 years and have had intercourse no more than 10 times. She is from japan and I was her first guy so this makes it even harder.

Its hard but untill she is ready to start being more intimate, i feel I need to hold on to my porn.

Is there any online places that will help?

It’s nice to see Dr. Fulbirght reversing her prior uninformed comments. I hope that in the future she continues to fully examine an issue before she makes comments that are both uninformed and harmful.

While porn is tody’s scapegoat for sexual dysfunction, people haven’t changed much over time - with or without the internet. Mistresses, concubines, whores, prostitutes, call girls, etc…have been around since the beginnings of recorded history. And while the internet does make sex more accessible, it doesn’t change the fact that people will exploit whatever’s available. Perhaps the argument should be framed more in the context of the how electronic media, in general, desensitizes us to everything, including sex.

I can tell very easily that the article was written by a female…she was shocked and considered it a problem that a man would look at a woman and try to picture her naked or how she would perform in bed. Men have been doing that forever - even before there was ever porn!

Then she goes on to say that visiting a prostitute was the same as watching child porn or animals and warranted a need for help.

Porn is not a problem at all for 99 % of the people who view it…it’s just that some women have a problem with it.

I have the obligatory bachelor party porn flick stashed in my dresser drawer at home. I must admit that about ten minutes viewing time is my limit. My soon to be wife was married to a man that was heavy into porn. He got irritated with her because she objected to attending porn movies and strip clubs with him. She commented to me one time that he told her she wasn’t good enough in bed and he “needed” more than what she could provide. That comment really hurt her and I felt terrible for her. I admit that I do fantasize about what I consider to be healthy normal but abit kinky sexual encounters with my partner, yet I am cautious to bring them up because I do not want to rekindle any negative memories she carries about the past. My thought is that should she bring up the topic to me then she is ready to discuss it. Till then I will remain as I am very sexually satisfied and content to live my life with a healthy sexual partner as opposed to some large breasted blonde humping and thumping herself away on my television screen.

larry you are so misguided. the proof is that it is a problem for more than the 1% you are showing. When are men going to take responsibility and admit it is a problem, but then they would have to admit they can’t perform on their own without the porn help, how sad for the partners and lovers of these men.
men can let themselves go and still expect the porn whore for themselves. what hypocrites, it is harmful it does destroy relationships and the fact that those who truly have addictions to it can say with a straight face it isnt harmful are only deluding themselves. poor children of these parents. there is nothing normal or healthy in letting others into your bed with your partner, whether it is porn or real people.
of course the seriously deluded will argue it is, shows the delusions

KT Star you said it best nad more men are like your example than will admit that love their porn
selfish to say the lest is what they are
i am so glad you are rid of that dog and with a real man who doesnt shove it in your face

I struggled with an addiction to pornography for 22 years. I got hooked at 11 years old, because my dad brought it into the house. Pornography is as, if not more addictive than drugs or alcohol. It is destructive and demeaning. It destroys the natural sense of beauty and intimacy. It mocks the very sacred gift of procreation. It is a mockery of free speech. It has been known to be a major contributing factor in heinous crimes such as rape, murder, and child molestation. It demeans and belittles women. It desensitizes men sexually fragments the mind and perverts the values of what a family is. I have seen it turn good, honest men into lying, destructive monsters and rip families to shreds. If you watch, view or contribute to Pornography you DO have a problem. There are no positives to Pornography, period. It doesn’t help your sex life; it doesn’t make you a man, it simply destroys nothing else, and I would challenge ANYONE to prove otherwise. I lived it I know

Thank you IAN!!! I am so glad that you have taken the steps to beat the problem I am sure you struggle still

Ok guys, sometimes porn can be an addiction. I had a friend who’s EX husband was a freak, he hid them, rented them and “forgot” to return them so she got calls from the store, etc. BUT…
My hubby and I have been married for 20 years and we watch porn on the weekends. One night on the weekend is Whiskey and porn night and then we go have crazy monkey sex and it’s all good. Porn is a good way to learn some new techniques, laugh at silly stuff, do the head tilt and go WHAT were they thinking here. =0) Maybe the trick is not not take it so seriously. And yes, we do have sex during the week. Saturday night is our time to get drunk and silly and wild. We have the happiest, closest, most intimate marriage that we know of in our circle of friends and family. And our friends all describe us as “Disgustingly Happy”.
We just tell them that we’re still on honeymoon, after all these years.

Ian, just because YOU have a problem with porn it doesn’t mean that porn is the problem.

YOU can’t handle porn, so YOU need to give it up. Don’t go telling the rest of us how evil porn is because YOU have a problem with it. I’d like to see you try to explain to Phaleg up the screen here that YOU want all porn taken away from everyone because YOU can’t handle it.

There are people that can’t handle alcohol. We call them alcoholics. Just because there are alcoholics out there doesn’t mean that the vast majority of people have any problems with alcohol at all. We tried taking alcohol from everyone back in Prohibition days and boy what a colossal mess that was.

Ian, tammy, quit trying to run other people’s lives and worry about living your own life for once.

For those that want to delve into this topic more I suggest the following web site
http://npsupport.net/community/

For those that want more about this topic I suggest the following web site,
http://npsupport.net/community/

(My apologies if this double posts, but I wasn’t sure the first one posted)

Ian, you are very couragious to admit to this problem. I agree with every single thing you said and I’m very proud that you have for the most part overcome this. People don’t realize the PERMANENT damage it does to a person. Once you have seen pornography, no matter what form it is in, it will forever be burned into your brain. It will flashback to you when you do want it to and it can ruin a pure relationship with someone. Just like we have programs of rehabilitation for drugs and alcohol we need more programs for pornography. It is ruining so many relationships in this world whether people admit to it or not. It goes against everything that is good and pure that is intended for marriage only.

I’ve found two things help you get off the porn. One is peer pressure from your wife and kids. It is really hard to explain to your children why you are looking at that stuff. The other is religion. When you are saved, the holy spirit resides in your body. If you imagine that Jesus is looking through your eyes at the same monitor that you are, it is not nearly as enjoyable to surf porn.

Porn could theoretically serve a purpose, perhaps help “spice things up” in a marriage, or if a guy is in the military and needs something to view to relax a little.

However, I personally have struggled with an addiction to porn for many years. It has almost gotten me fired when I downloaded it at work, and it has almost ruined many of my personal relationships with women. I find myself battling it daily.

The real problem with porn is that it slowly desensitizes you, and you need harder and harder-core porn to get off. In the beginning, regular porn (”Playboy”) does the trick for you. Over time, though, you naturally get bored, want to see the girls do more (”Hustler”, etc.) Then, over more time, you need to see the girls doing crazier and crazier things, until you get bored with that, and start looking for really strange, bizarre stuff, bordering on the illegal and degrading.

All of this takes a toll on your sanity, happiness and finances. I can easily spend $200 a month on porn DVD’s. I have tried to deal with it in therapy, but it isn’t helping much. Be careful.

It is okay to watch porn as long as you turn it off once you are done pleasuring yourself.

If you keep watching after you finish you have a problem.

We go back and forth about porn…is it moral, is it an addiction for men? What about the women who have now come to see themselves as needing to be more like porn stars? You can’t browse myspace for 2 minutes without coming across a young girl portraying herself as some kind of sex toy. I am amazed to find so many of my contemporaries are not angry about the turn that womanhood is taking, and think I am “uptight” for being angry about it. Even if you have a “healthy relationship” and enjoy porn with your partner….how can you not think about the people being exploited for your “pleasure”? Even if they volunteer for it, even if they claim to like it. We are dragging humanity down to the level of animals. See it, want it, take it. What about respect for other human beings? What about dignity?

Theoretical question for those who don’t think there is anything wrong with porn:

If you believe porn is a legitimate form of entertainment for couples, how would you feel if you had a son or daughter who said that they would like to work for that industry? For many couples who use porn, their first gut reaction is to react negatively for having their own children involved in making pornography.

My question is why the gut reaction? If porn is a “legitimate form of entertainment” why would you hesitate to let your own children work for that industry since it is legal and they could stand to make lots of money?

Or even a horror question - how would you feel if during your late night Internet browsing of porn, you find a video or picture of your child?

My husband and I have been married for 25 happy years. He was in the servce when we were first married and while he was gone he sent me little books with hard core erotic stories. We began going to adult book stores together shopping for things to spice up our sex life. Porn has been a very small but fun piece of our sex life, now I sometimes go to amateur sex blog sites on the internet just looking before Jim gets home from work. If you have a problem with drinking, drugs, porn or what ever, I feel sorry for you but Jim and I do not have a problem, porn is just the spice not the life.

Have you ever wondered about the skyrocketing need for Viagra, Cialis, etc.? It’s not just old guys with poor circulation who need it. More and more men are finding themselves “suffering from” erectile dysfunction. And yet they never make the connection with their porn habits. Porn is highjacking normal sexuality and instead of turning men into strong, sensual, and sexy hunks, it’s making them incompetent lovers who are incapable of getting erections.

Hmmm.

I also am disturbed by those who claim to be “deeply religious” and yet can support an industry that preys on women–the statistics about the numbers of porn stars who were molested as young girls is beyond shocking. You’re deeply religious, and you’re willing to watch the survivors of childhood sexual abuse be re-abused countless times? Hmmm. Yeah, that’s deeply religious for sure!

The article about “pornography addiction” is a very well explained problem that many of us (woman) have to deal with on a daily bases. Meeting my current husband in a strip club 15 years ago should have been a sign of an early indication of his “addiction” but when you are young, porn is exciting and for the most part, an attractive alternative to spice up burning desires mixed with that first love often at first site.
13 years later, our marriage has suffered terribly. I caught him countless time but like most addict (most of us one way or another) Denial plays the most important role when it comes time to expose one’s integrity.
I find post that he writes, 10’s of thousands of explicit photographs stored on old drive, memory card, sim cards etc….it is bothersome but despite my efforts to try to face the problem and stand by him during that process, we are not going anywhere and the betray can no longer be overcome by love. As much as I love him and always hoped that we were to grow old together but alas, I guess I am facing other plans and alternative that will impact both of our lives and sadly enough, impact the one to the ones surrounding us that are our dear beloved.
When my husband became extremely impatient, locks himself in the bathroom for hours or in our bedroom using “smoking” cigarettes as an excuse, gets emails notifications about new post reply to his original post from a porn site forum/discussion, he is extremely selfish, no longer cares about looking attractive for me despite my multiple requests.
I am not one to judge but just like drinking, when it becomes out of control, used as an eye-opener, spend hours hidings and transferring data to secret place…when there are so many of them that he can’t even keep track of what’s around him….
I just ordered the “Porn Trap” (for me because I am the one apparently with the problem) and I am very thankful for that book to exist and feel much better that many others feel the way I do.

I agree with Paula about the hydrolics rather than Viagra. Although, will it begins on the day when men will get a stiff neck from swallowing a viagra that got stuck in their throat due to a lack of sufficient water intake???

I am a female who has a small porn collection and occasionally enjoys watching porn either to get off by myself and to enhance the experience with a partner. I agree with other posters that anyone who continues to watch after their “moment” may have a problem - I immediately lose interest and turn it off. But I do understand how some people can become addicted with the availability of porn in the privacy of your own home being so prevalent on the internet. When I got my first home computer back in the 90s, I became fascinated with internet porn to the extent that it would have become a problem had it continued. Thankfully, after about a month I got bored with it but I understand how it can become habit-forming for some people and I don’t think they should be judged. Sex, gambling, food and porn can become addictive because of the way they makes people feel, just like addictions to drugs and alcohol. People with a problem deserved to be treated with compassion, not disdain.

I don’t need porn, I have a wife who takes care of me. I don’t need jill (look at your left hand) or some blow up plastic. It’s about control. You probably have watched naked men and gotten a thrill (now that would be disturbing) –>Tell the truth “Capistrano”. Do you get into animals too?

Those of us who have or had addictions, we recognize others who do….Capistrano. You had better reread Ian’s comments he never said anything about controlling others lives, just his own. Get off the porn Capistrano, it seems to be making you a lier, anti-social and distressed and not very attractive.

For Gary Nutter - I wish that you would cite where Fulbright has delivered “uninformed and harmful” information. She’s been right on the money in every article I’ve read. Just because you may not agree with her that doesn’t make her wrong. Furthermore, I’d love to know what makes you the expert. Fulbright is the one with graduate degrees in sexuality. Something tells me you don’t. I’d trust what she’s telling me over you any day.

Sounds like Capistrono has a few problems of his own with porn. Among other problems.

This is a truly childish and narrowminded look at porn addiction. Besides, if one is really addicted to porn, one wouldn’t find out by reading a silly, two minute article on Fox News.

My experience with my dh porn issues boil down to this: He would rather satisfy his selfish needs in 3 minutes than take the time to make love to his wife. What used to be a “harmless” look see turned into a situation where he became so narrsistic about his own sexual desires that he turned away from an attractive woman who loved him very much. About every 4 months he’ll take about 5 minutes to do his “duty” with me. He won’t even look at me in the eyes.
As far as I’m concerned, he can have his little porn girls. I got the best of him anyway in the form of a 6 year old daughter.
Its sad, I divorced my 1st husband due to a porn addiction that got out of control. That poor sap just ended another marriage due to this and the fact that he took it to the next level of cheating with anything that could breath. thought I married a great guy the second time - but nope - he’s got the same problem 10 years later.
So many men are broken these days. And I hate the women who encourage them by taking money for a picture or movie. I suppose there is a special place in he** for people like this.
When you take your vows you say “…and forsaking all others”. This includes porn. If you are lusting after another, you are a cheater.

What I want to know is what the solution is to this? I suppose therapy could help - but only if you are totally committed to going through the process of figuring out why you are so broken that you would rather look at a picture than make love to a woman that loves you.
Porn addicts are narcistic, self-serving, broken, disrespectful lazy pigs. They deserve to be left by the women that are sick of waiting in the bedroom after dolling themselves up half the night in hopes that their man will shut off the computer and come to love them.

Dr. Fulbright
I find it very interesting (and just a touch disgusting) that you wrote this article and include a typical “opening scene” picture of female “doctor” ready to solve a lonely man’s intimacy issues. Those black rimmed glasses touching your slightly opened mouth and clevage showing almost your belly button is EXACTLY the image average women like myself have to contend with every day on the internet.
Get your own house in order before you go writing about porn. Or at least give yourself a credibility boost by getting rid of the fake glasses and showing us half your breasts.

Hi tammy. Thank you for sharing your comments with the group here. You remind me of a charcter portrayed in “The Devil In Miss Jones” and I pleasured myself while thinking about you playing the part. Thanks, and “keep it up”

Sorry Mary B, porn stars chose to do that stuff and they get paid tons of money for it, the word “exploitation” is cliche at best in a world of consenting adults.
I think what drives me crazy the most is that all all these experts day in and day out explain a man’s sex drive, yet us women are still surprised that men enjoy watching it on tv? Hello people! I think banning porn from men and trying to teach them how “they” think a man should act toward sex is oppressing. I use the word “banning because there is a bill out now to take it away from our service men. Poor guys aren’t even allowed to be aroused anymore?
Sad, and while this article is supposed to be about the addiction, I think its hiding the bottom line message of “its bad”, period.
Sorry I just don’t believe an addiction to porn is real. I believe in self responsibility I only see it as a symptom to a real mental problem if porn affects someone that badly. Eveyone of those tattle tale signs are symptoms of real mental disorders that should be treated. You can tack that list to any behavoir and call it an addiction.
I have dated guys that love porn. Some are just mental cases that are better off left alone with their videos. I just don’t feel sorry for them. Others have had the right head on their shoulders, and finally after much patience, one of whom I have been happily married to for a long time.

I agree with Capistrano, there are people who can’t handle it, just like alcoholics can’t handle booze. If that is your problem, deal with it. Get a 12 step program. Whatever. If you CAN handle it, it can be a fun little addition to your sex play with your spouse. Are we a bit more adventurous after all these years? Sure, what’s the harm in that. Sure can’t say we’re BORED like most couples we talk to.
And as for “people being exploited” - oh give me a break. It’s not like they aren’t getting paid to do a job. I wouldn’t do it, but I also wouldn’t be a chicken sexer. (This is an actual job where you seperate out the males from the females. YUCK) It’s a CHOICE people, just like renting the DVD’s and watching it. Personal responsibility anyone?
If you don’t like it, or think it’s a BAD thing, don’t watch it. Up to you. DUH. This is America, and you get to make your own decisions and you have to take responsibility for them.

I am addictions counselor by trade so I can say without any doubt that porn is indeed becoming a problem FOR SOME PEOPLE. For people who use porn without problems presenting themselves within their relationship, work, or social activities, more power to you. However, just because you personally haven’t experienced problems with becoming addicted to it, don’t paint a broad stroke like you are an expert on addictions.

Pornography is a real addiction, a chemical addiction to naturally produced hormones in your brain. These types of addicitons are referred to as process addictions (gambling is a process addiction most people are familiar with). It is a real problem for many people and the porn generation will prove it. I find it sorrowful that this generation and the next will be the proverbial proof in the pudding for they are unwillingly being ginea pigs for a society that believes pornography is harmless.

The innocent chlidren that are being exposed to porn at a young age make my heart bleed for they will never have a chance to explore their true and natural sexuality (exposure at a young age is one of the ingredients that plants the seed to this addiction) . Their mind and hearts will be hijacked by porn. They will learn and model their sexual behavior from what they see. A true sex addict leads a lonely and emotionally volatile life. They will risk jails, institutions, and death to get their ‘fix’.

Just like with all other addictions, there are people that can use porn and it not cause them problems or harm. But a true addict struggles in shame, fear and isolation. Many aren’t even aware that there is help for them because this society hasn’t accepted their plight as real and the topic of sexual addiction is more taboo than pornography itself.

For the Phaleg and his wife, I pray that your girls don’t struggle as teenagers with self-image problems, eating disorders, and sexual promiscuity as they try to model themselves after the women in porn that you are so furiously defending. I challenge you and your wife to give up porn for a couple of months and see if you present with any challenges caused from the removal of the porn from your life. If you can freely and easily give up porn for an extended period of time, then I would say you have no risk of dependency. If you are afraid or defensive about my challenge, I would say you already have a problem for it shouldn’t cause you any pains to live without it for a short period of time. From what have written, I would also challenge you to give up alcohol for a couple of months, my guess is you also have a dependency on alcohol.

For the rest of you that may just be using porn on a limited basis, I would caution you to handle it with the same care that you would alcohol, drugs or gamling. This is not an attack on pornography, it is just the facts. If you are still defensive, replace the word porn with cocaine and see if it causes you as much emotional turmoil and defensive verbage.

Whatever problems — real or exaggerated — that porn is causing now is NOTHING compared to what will come (no pun intended) when ‘virtual sex’ REALLY gets perfected. Imagine the ability to use a virtual-reality helmet that lets you interact with holograms, or some kind of other device that interacts directly with your brain to create a sexual experience that is truly indistinguishable (in your mind) from the real thing. Given the huge numbers of spoiled, self-centered ‘perpetual adolescent’ members of the ‘Me Generation(s)’ that have been produced over the past 30-plus years, it doesn’t take much imagination to foresee a future where a significant portion of Western (at least) society will largely withdraw from normal real-world social interaction and focus on this new form of self-pleasure. And people think current video-game addiction is bad! Just wait for what technology will offer in the next 10 or 15 years.

To the few people who had a strong reaction against those who warned about the dangers of porn, NO ONE IS TELLING YOU HOW TO LIVE YOUR LIFE!!! Most of us posting here are simply acknowledging the fact that porn has a harmful side, and has the potential to hurt people on both sides of the camera (don’t think for a second that every porn star is making Jenna Jameson kind of bank, many feel trapped and taken advantage of).

It would certainly be too strong to blame stuff like sex crimes on the availability of pornography, but it would be the pinnacle of blissful ignorance to dismiss it as a non-factor. I believe the social sciences will bear this out in relatively short order, providing empirical evidence that on a societal and an individual level, porn’s got more adverse effects than it does useful ones.

Well, like it or not, it’s a pervasive part of our society. My wife and I watch it about once a month together. I look at it during the week from time to time, but try not to go overboard. While attracted to it I try not to get immersed in it. Like everything else: in moderation.

For me the biggest problem is how much time it wastes. I ask myself: do I really want to spend two hours after work looking for porn? The answer is no.

Your mileage may vary.

Yes mary B these people do volunteer and enjoy their bizzare occupation. We are abolve the level of animals because we have the power of choice. This applies to those who participate in the making of these films and those who chose to watch them. You probobly do not want a lead role in a porno, so you chose to persue a differant career. Even in my opinion culture these days has its values all mixed up. However when it comes to the freedoms to do what we want, this is what seperates us from animals. If you prefer we can go back in time to where instad of going to a movie on sunday we would instead watch some poor fellow hang by his neck because he made off with someones daughter.

Porn is the largest problem we are facing in todays society. Behind every rape, porn is associated. Behind most abuse porn is associated. Behind a lot of women murders, porn is associated (i.e. Ted Bundy and many others ) If you listen to testimonials from prison inmates of the most of the violent crimes of america that deal with women, porn is associated. Porn is addictive it actually physically alters the proper growth of the brain (www.innergold.com). It is true not everyone is addicted but to find out if your not, stop looking at it. You will be surprised!

If porn was not such a problem, why has it become one of the biggest problems for companies? (currently 20% http://internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com/internet-pornography-statistics.html) This number is rising quickly. Most pornography viewers gradually increase what there tolerance level is and allow more and more to come into their house. Child rape, incest, molestation and sex trafficking increases because of the problem of pornography. A lot of the people in the videos are coerced, forced, threatened and beaten to perform exactly how the perpetrator wants them too. Many say pornography is victimless read this article explaining how pornography breeds sex offenders.
http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/1441

Again, pornography is awful and is destroying our society from inside our homes because we allow it. I dread the fact that my children will have to deal with this as they get old enough to get married.

when a man knowingly jeopardizes his marriage, his life with his children, his job, etc… THAT is a problem. when a man knowingly hurts someone he claims to love, over and over and over again… THAT is a problem.

i’ve heard men say “I’m an adult, i have the RIGHT to view what i choose.”…. well, many porn films are actually footage of very real rape (you think they can’t dub over the sound of the woman begging for it to stop?). i can think of a prime example that is extremely well known. it’s RAPE and you have the RIGHT? what about child porn? you have the RIGHT there too? if you have the RIGHT… then every woman and child on the planet has the RIGHT to string you up by your b@lls.

and viagra? it exists because men broke their own willies. it wasn’t meant for your hand, it was meant for a woman - dumba$$. but any chronic P viewer is too pathetic to keep a real woman, so they keep a little viagra handy on the off chance they might find a woman dumb enough to be interested in their limp noodle.

any woman with an ounce of self-respect would refuse to tolerate a man who needs P for ’spice’. that’s a lie. a real woman can keep her H happy in the bedroom all by herself, thanks.

I contend that porn is not an addiction, but may be an excessive compusive disorder. It is no more an addiction, than running, working out in the gym, watching television, playing video games, and etc.
Not viewing or reading porn will not cause one to have any physical or mental withdrawal reactions that will affect their ablitity to function. Calling porn an addiction, I contend, helps business. The so called addiction helps line the pockets of individuals in the “treatment” business, expert article business (newspapers, magazines, books, talk shows), provide material for political and law enforcement bias, and etc.

I hadn’t thought of it that way Dr. Easton. That does make sense though.
Wow, there’s a lot of angry women on here. They’re probably not very attractive and that’s why they hate the competition. It did say competition in the article. Ha! If these women had their way they’d eliminate all other women from existence that way they’d be the prettiest and “their” man would only have eyes for them.
Let’s see. Take a natural and normal thing like being attracted to the nude body of a women. Demonize it by telling some sad anecdotal tale of how “he wanted me to lose weight” (oh, the horror, fatty) then call it an addiction and get a “counselor” to confirm it as such, then pay them exorbitant rates to be “cured” of finding women sexually arousing. Sounds like a good racket.
Oh, and it is funny to see this “Like it or not, porn has become a problem in this country. Forty million Americans visit an Internet porn site at least once a month” AFTER we’re told that “This is not an article on whether or not erotica is morally wrong. ” So porn is a problem because Forty million Americans (out of three-hundred million) visit an Internet porn site ONCE a month. Again the HORROR! Ha! Big problem. Sounds to me like someone just read a book by a buddy and wants to sell a few so she thought she’d write a nice controversial article talking about how much “sense” it made.
Let’s see if my child said they wanted to be in porn someday I’d be proud of them for being a very liberated and secure adult. Now to ask a similar question back how would you feel if your child said I want to join the military so I can kill people. You’d probably be proud. Even though they have a higher chance of being killed than a porn star. By the way I’d be proud too. I just thought I’d contrast the two career choices. I’d just feel much better if they chose porn because they’d be safer.
Lastly let’s think about why some would hide their “stash” from others. Might it be because the others have a very ignorant and abusive opinion on said “stash” (such as those written above) and not because the porn is wrong. Are homosexuals addicted to something because they’re afraid to come out of the closet because of the ignorant opinions of their families? Or because they might lose their jobs or some “friends”? Let’s see if someone hides something it’s a sign of addiction. So I want everyone to post they’re pictures (nude or otherwise) their weights, social security numbers, birthdates, credit card info, home addresses, greatest fears, personal secrets and any other pertinent info about yourselves that you don’t want anybody to know. And if you don’t you might (very likely are you scoundrel) be addicted to a little thing called privacy.
Listen I’m not making a moral judement, but porn is good. I hope you get the irony of that last sentence, if not that’s fine too.

Okay Lily I’m calling BS. I know which film you are referring to and you’re right the actress was under age and therefore a crime was commited and I’m sure some people were held responsable. Can you point out another example? If you’re looking for examples of sexual abuse of a minor I’m sure you can find more numerous incidents in other professions… I have an idea let’s examine the record of Catholic priests or teachers perhaps. I’m sure you can find more than one well known example with a simple google search.
Why no outrage toward the clergy or teachers? Are all of them molesting kids? No but a couple did so let’s just shut down every church and school in this country. Makes about as much sense as your argument. And before you give me the “But they perform a vital service unlike those smut peddlers.” I want you to add up all private donations to schools and churchs and stack it side by side with how much Americans spent on porn last year. Money talks.
Lily porn seems to make you REALLY angry. I have some advise… don’t view it. Like it or not depictions of sexual activity between consenting adults are legal to purchase and view in the United States (not withstanding variations in state laws) and it’s not going to change anytime soon. Get used to it.
I’ve been viewing pornography since I was about 14 (and I’m not the only guy here who found his dad’s stash) and I’ve not been warped in the least. I’m married (ten years this August) to a wonderful woman and we have an incredible sex life (as far as the intergrity of my “noodle” I haven’t had any problems or complaints yet). I wouldn’t trade a sexual experiance with my wife for one with any porn actress I’ve ever seen or will ever see. Porn is an occasional sex enhancer in our house not a replacement for actual intimacy. I actually let my wife suggest when she would like to view an adult movie because if she’s not into what’s going on on the screen I’m not into it. It’s an US thing. Sort of like candle-light dinners and strolls by moonlight but raunchier.
You want to string people up by the testicles? You might have a future in porn yet… try the BDSM section of your local adult video store.