Very interesting read. My wife and I actually have a great kissing relationship. During times when, for whatever reason, we are unable to have intercourse, kissing is a great filler.

However, out first kiss was horrid. Rushed, boring, lacking real emotion. We both comment on how much of a letdown that first kiss was. Once it was out of the way, however, we relaxed and have had great kisses ever since.

Ok I’ll agree with your part that males are more likely to do those things. But for me, if a girl cannot kiss, then sex is a no go. a good kisser is a turn on for me, and if she’s slopping on my face like my pet dog, then thats a definite turn off. most of my gf’s have been good kissers, but i’ve had a couple that were “tongue-happy” and didn’t have any skill or style. and its part of what makes a good relationship. its a small part but its one that matters. I can love a girl no problem for who they are, but there is the emotional and mental attraction, but then there’s also the physical attraction that every relationship needs, kissing being part of that physical need that everyone needs. I know most girls would push away from a guy who didn’t know how to kiss. and some guys are the same, I know I am. and yes, It is a way for me to relieve stress from my job. I work 12 hour shifts during the graveyard shift, and being able to kiss my gf makes my day so much better.

Bull… my first wife was a much “better” kisser than my second, who is much better lover, wife and mother.

I had been talking to an individual through work but had never met because we work in two different locations. We decided that it would be nice for me to visit the other location. The conversations had evolved to flirting through e-mail and phone calls. I didn’t believe it when I was told I was going to get the best kiss of my life when we met. That statement was so true and the kisses that followed were even better. I’m sorry to say that nothing came of this brief encounter but for me, a kiss is NOT just a kiss. That is something that will stay with me forever.

I agree with this article. A first kiss for me determines whether I want to have the relationship evolve into something more. It’s a deal breaker for me. If I have sex with a man, that’s all it is; unless there are lots of kisses, then it’s making love. Men have to pay extra for prostitutes to kiss them. Well, I don’t know that personally, but I’ve heard about it.

I totally agree! If a guy cant kiss chances are (in most cases) he is not skilled in other areas as well! Great column!

my husband and i had our first kiss when we were 14. I was his first kiss and he bascially smashed his face into mine and banged our teeth together…..very romantic. we then soon after broke up.
5 years and many kisses later we started dating again and got married.

I’ve always said that kissing is an art form. Anyone can have sex, it takes talent to kiss and kiss well.

Glad I’m so talented

There’s a lot to be said about good kissers. A bad kisser is a deal breaker for me, but not after just one kiss. My first kiss with “the one” really wasn’t anything to get excited about, but now!!!! whew, his kisses make my knees shake (still

I love this article! No guys take kissing seriously but to most women its very important. If a guy cant kiss chances are he is lacking in other skills as well!

When my husband and I had our first kiss, I knew he was someone special. Whenever I think back to our first kiss, even 3 years and 1 child later, I still get butterflies!