Abstinence only sex education is clearly working! /sarcasm

VERY Amazing. !!! I believe that these high school children are UNDERAGE.!!! Underage sex, very
accepted in schools across the nation, but if we think it is happening in a RELIGION, Well, lets take
away the children. I hope America isnt so stupid that they cant see the writing on the wall. Our great
grand parents would have hid their faces in shame to read a report like this.. Are we advancing as a
nation or are we DECLINING.???!!!!

Why dont we clean our own closets first. !!!!

Where do they teach “Abstinence only”? Maybe in some private Christian schools, but certainly not public. Abstinence is taught merely as one option among many, and it’s been a huge fight to have policies enacted that require the value of abstinence to even be mentioned.

My comment is for Bob. You’re right – they are UNDERAGE in high school. But they are having sex with other UNDERAGE students. Your reference to the polygamist sect seems a bit off base since those are UNDERAGE girls having sex with much older men. I don’t care how many wives these men have in the name of religion, but we should absolutely care if they’re having sex with children. Your comparison is completely off.

We can not trust kids to drink responsibly, but they can have sex responsibly. That attitude has served our kids well, no?

I’ve taken those surveys before. No one tells the truth, but not in the way you might think. Everyone is ticked off because those surveys takes and entire Homeroom class(and an opportunity to do the homework that has to be turned in 1st period). So instead of answering honestly or under-reporting because of guilt, most kids(at least the ones I knew) answered worse than reality.

I changed my gender and ethnicity. I also answered as if I was an slutty alcoholic cocaine and heroin addict.

Peer pressure takes on a whole new meaning. I am speaking mostly about Hispanic youth.
I have personally observed hispanic youth trying very hard to fit into the U.S American scene.
However they are not prepared or have the advantages to fit in the proper way. So with the cards
stacked against them they opt to fit in the wrong way. Crime, drugs,gangs,disrupting in school,
are their bad choices. “Que Lastima”.

As a sixteen year old girl, i know that a lot of my friends are having sex, but are not educated on sexually transmitted diseases and how to protect themselves from them. They are also unaware of the truths and lies about pregnancy and STD’s. These girls have also been through my school system’s sexual education program and still don’t know the means by which to protect themselves. They often come to me for advice, because as a young woman, if i do decide to become sexually active, i want to know just what i am getting myself into.

Because of what i have seen and heard, school systems should change their approach on educating teenagers by teaching them at a younger age and not teaching ‘comprehensive sex ed’. They should teach mainly on STD’s and the contraceptives as opposed to my community’s mainly abstinence program.

bottom line: Teens arent going to stop having sex, so the best thing that can be done is to teach them about sex, not teach them about not having sex

With all the crap to which our kids are exposed is there any wonder about the staggering levels of sexual activity and other destructive behavior? Look at the garbage on MTV or even prime-time networks to see where kids are learning those behaviors. There is no sense of shame anymore. In some areas of this country having an illegitimate baby is considered a badge of honor. Never mind how screwed up the baby’s life will be. Mama (barely more than a child herself) has her status symbol.

All you can really do as a parent is keep reinforcing to your kids that these behaviors are wrong, wrong, WRONG! Help your kids fight peer pressure. Teach them that just because other kids are doing it doesn’t make it acceptable. Get involved in their schools. Get involved in church. Get involved in their lives! And yes, teach them abstinence. Abstinence works. A teen who practices abstinence will NEVER contract an STD or become pregnant.

Sex should be seen as a very natural and a beautiful thing. It shouldn’t be considered something bad or shameful. Kids and teens will always do things they are told not to do. If teens are educated about sex, protection, pregnancy, stds, and the benefits of waiting I think it would help out a lot. My mother was always VERY open to discuss sex and the benefits of waiting with me. I never had sex while in highschool and I always used protection while being a sexually active, legal adult. Parents shouldn’t be so hush hush about something that humans are biologically made to do. Parents should be open to discuss the topic with their tweens (once they are curious and learning about puberty) or teens and let them know their opinion about it and then listen to their childs opinion. Communication and knowledge about sex is always crucial.

It is all about parenting. Parents who care about the health and emotional well being of their children will monitor their behavior and their activities with others. Parents who are self absorbed and care only for themselves will allow their teens to do anything. Instead of being the parent, they want to be their child’s “friend” or “pal”.

Time for parents to be parents and clue kids into the destructive nature of premarital sex including the diseases and emotional costs that accompany such risky behavior. Just looking at the list of STDs (we called them venereal diseases when I was growing up) and the lack of a cure for many of them was enough to make me avoid sex before marriage. If you think a condom is all you need for protection, think again. I wonder if the CDC has studied disease transmission amongst condom users. I would venture to guess that it is pretty high.

I live in a middle class community (predominantly white), and I work with high school students on a regular basis. I can say with confidence that the numbers here for sexual activity are too low – students are doing more than they are saying. I would estimate that half have had sex by the beginning of their sophomore year, probably around 95% by the end of senior year.

Sex in high school is a part of growing up. I did it, you probably did it, and the next generation of kids will do it so get over it. If they choose not to protect themselves then it is there own fault if they get STD’s or pregnant. The government has spread the message and provided the tools for protection.

Mother of four sons here (9, 13, 16, 18). I confess I did not wait until marriage and I wish I had, but this isn’t about me. This is about waiting. My husband did (and twenty years and four kids later, I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt, that things worked just fine from day one). A number of his male friends waited as well (were very proud of themselves for it and said so, because it wasn’t easy at all). It can be done and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

We talk frankly to our sons as they approach adolescence and begin dating. We remind them that they need to remember that the girl they are dating are someone else’s future wife and that they should treat them the way the want the guys who are dating their future wife to treat her. We tell them that they are responsible for the girls they date.

We teach self-discipline and we’re very, very direct about the responsibilities of sex and why it’s better to wait until they’re married, but at the very least until they are adults and are better prepared to handle the potential problems (like pregnancy).

We have open lines of communication and we make use of them. Our sons talk to us and ask questions and voice worries. They have adults they can confide in if they don’t feel comfortable talking to us. We know it’s tough out there and we know that they have to deal with mixed messages everyday, but we remind them regularly that they’re strong enough and smart enough to make the right decisions.

Are we out of the woods yet? Not hardly. But I do believe we’re on the right path.

Our world needs Christ. He is the only one that can help our teens. You cannot teach abstinence and the truth of sex without Christ and his teachings.

Frankly, I can kind of see why sex is on the rise. Look on the television; practically every single show has A) sex or a make out scene, B) sexual jokes, C) encouraging sex or think make it seem like sex is what everyone is doing. And frankly, it is. At my high school, I can tell you more than 75% of the kids had sex, and we’re in a suburban town, not a city. It’s getting bad. But people don’t seem to care. Our morals have gone down so low we don’t hold anything with respect anymore. And we can’t force someone to accept a religion or a practice; they’ll just rebel against it. So, in short, just teach the straight facts about sex and protection. You can’t change an entire generation’s mindset.

IT DOES NOT MATTER IF THEIR BLACK,WHITE OR HISPANIC IF THEY THINK THEY CAN THEY WILL, WE AS A SOCITEY ARE FAILING THESE KIDS BY NOT EDUCATING THEM ON THE SAFER SIDE OF THINGS. IF THE PARENTS WOULD STOP TURNING A BLIND EYE, DUE THEIR PARENTAL DUTIES AND TEACH THEM WHAT SCHOOLS CAN NOT THEN MABEY TEEN SEX AND PREGNANCYS WOULD GO BACK DOWN. WE AS A SOCITY NEED TO TEACH OUR KIDS BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

why is everyone on this discussion board so fearful of sex. Sex is an enjoyable and beautiful act shared between 2 humans. Some people might regret having sex to early or they might regret having sex with a particular person but people move one from regrets. Everyone has regrets along their lifelong journey but we usually learn from them.

To nick: Come on… “Our world needs Christ. He is the only one that can help our teens.” Last time I checked, people have the ability to help themselves.

I work with teens everyday and we teach them about all forms of safe sex and abstinence. I know they are still pushing the boundaries regardless. For me the fault lies in what society has made normal, the reality shows, people becoming famous for nothing except a sex tape, etc. I think we all need to take a little blame even if we’re doing something to curb the behaviors with our own kids. If we support the media that distributes this “crap” are we modeling healthy behaviors? It’s like saying “do as I say, bit not as I do.” Check out teenlineonline.org.

It’s no wonder. They are having sex everywhere in every corner of the school, underneath stairwells, counter tops, etc. etc. This starts in middle school and goes on to High School. High Schools are promoting it by having daycares on campus. By the time a teen reaches 15 years old they already have at least 2 sons. The parent must teach their child they are very special and unique and being so they must wait and put a hold on pleasure and focus on education. The schools need to help by keeping the students in the classroom until school is officially over instead of giving them random access to all corners of the school building.

Restraining pleasure until teens are more responsible would be ideal. This would need to be accomplished with the parent letting the child know how unique and special they are. Sex is to be done with someone they deeply care about and in a very special place. Their emotions and body are very special and not to be taken lightly. The schools need to have a more structured environment and more supervision starting in Middle school and ending in High School.

I believe this article and those appearing throughout the media are misleading. See PDFpage 35 (publ. pg. 33), http://www.cdc.gov/HealthyYouth/yrbs/pdf/yrbss07_mmwr.pdf. CDC did not find the 1.5% drop in condom use significant. The lead-ins are designed to get you to read the article.

One of my professional contacts has said that individuals and groups are using these articles to push abstinence out of public school classrooms. Any program that doesn’t include meaningful abstinence education is incomplete and developmentally inappropriate.

This report is being spun by the media. The CDC did not consider the 1.5% drop in condom use statistically significant. Read the original report, PDF p. 35.

http://www.cdc.gov/HealthyYouth/yrbs/pdf/yrbss07_mmwr.pdf

My colleagues are seeing these stats, and others, used to push any abstinence education out of public education. We are not talking about “abstinence only,” but rather restricting the options presented to only birth control methods that have been researched and published in scientific journals, excluding abstinence entirely.

And this is EXACTLY why I homeschool my children….

Now, when someone asks about a perceived lack of “socialization” among homeschooled children, I can refer to this study and reply, “Is this the standard of socialization I should be striving for?” I don’t think so!

What a bunch of prudes you all are