This is a great article. Unfortunately, most parents will continue to make children feel ashamed to be sexual, and that only ensures they’ll never be open and honest. Or they’ll focus on abstinence only education which, let’s face it, never worked in the first place.

At 17, my mom told me to get in the car to run some errands. She went here and there, clench jawed. I wondered what was up.

Finally, halfway home, she blurted, “I want to talk to you about fornification.”

“Mom, that’s fornication,” I helpfully replied.

“Well, if you know so much, why am I talking with you!” she said, slamming the conversation shut (for all time) crimson-faced.

Very few people actually succeed at abstinence. I applaud those that manage it.

The genie is out of the bottle, no amount of biblical values will put it back in either.

In the past few months I’ve seen people commenting that “KIDS/TEENS” do not come on here. I guess they don’t know what there kids are doing and that is scary. I will continue to pray for this column to be removed. It has no place on a respectable news site. There is enough “TRASH” in the world that a Top News Site does not need to support the Doc. Please consider taking this column off of here and put something worthwhile in its place. Thanks.

I think this is a good article, My mother spoke with me about sex, and reinforced the need to be SAFE not the need to abstain. So when the time came, i used a condom. IMO forbiding your child from doing something is one of the best ways to get them to do it.

INFORM your children, dont COMMAND them

With 2 children just reaching their pubescent stages of life it is always great to see different ways to communicate difficult topics such as this. This is a very good article. The lines of communication need to be kept open with your children. As they get older they will need to make more decisions that will have an affect on their future. Educating your child will better prepare them for decisions that they will make.

I’m a Christian (in the pure Biblical sense – I take the Bible literally and I believe Jesus is who He said He is). I hate this debate between the advocates of abstinence and the “their doing it anyway so just teach them how to do it safely and leave morality out of it” crowd. Generally I find both to be wrong, but it is mainly my fellow believers that I want to address here. I have nothing to say to the others because I don’t expect unbelievers to have a clue, much less see my view of this issue.

I appreciate Dr. Fulbright and I enjoy most of her articles. I have not found her entering into moral or religious issues and I don’t expect her to. I don’t consult my automobile mechanic about whether I should or shouldn’t obey traffic laws. That is not his domain. When a car salesman tells me how fast a particular car can go I don’t take that as advocation of speeding. Similarly, I don’t consult my doctor about whether I should or shouldn’t fornicate or commit adultery and if he gives me something (advice or medicine) to enhance my sexual performance I don’t take that as advocating promiscuity. Dr. Fulbright enters in on issues that are within her domain and stays away from those that are not. For that I highly respect her.

Look: sex was God’s invention and not the “forbidden fruit”. Read your Bible! The Bible it self speaks unabashedly about the subject of sex in too many places to mention. Why are some of my fellow believers so opposed to a news site including practical advice on the subject?

With regard to this article specifically, I’ll share with you how my wife and I approached this issue with our four children (two daughters and two sons). When each one reached the age of ten, we sat him/her down on the couch between us and opened the Bible. Right or wrong, we chose that age because it was just before puberty and we wanted to prepare them for the changes that were about to take place both physically and emotionally. Our children were home-schooled for the first few (most impressionable) years and we don’t have a TV in our home. I suppose if that were not the case we would have started at an earlier age. So, we started by reading Genesis 2:21-25 and 4:1. We explained in detail and in clear anatomical terms what it means when it says “they shall be one flesh” and “Adam knew his wife”. We didn’t just explain the physical part either. We made sure they understood that it feels unbelievably good and that God intended it to. We continued to elaborate until we felt that they were comfortable and happy with the whole idea, but we consistently reiterated that “Adam knew [had sexual intercourse with] his WIFE”, and that marriage was the proper context for it and that within that context God intended it to be enjoyed uninhibited. By doing this we were attempting to be the first source of information about sex and make them feel that they could always come to us about the subject without fear. According to the same Bible, the feelings of shame, discomfort, and embarrassment that human beings naturally encounter when it comes to sex are the result of sin in our nature. Those negative feelings have a positive purpose and should not be ignored nor should any attempt be made to remove them. They help protect us. On the other hand, if we understand the truth about sex and its purposes (intimacy and procreation) we can manage those feelings and, within the context of marriage (Biblically defined), dispense with them in the bedroom and enjoy the uninhibited intimacy, and ecstasy, that God intended and which, also according to the Bible, is a model of the spiritual relationship between Jesus Christ and His bride, the Church (also Biblically defined – the whole aggregate of those who have believed in Him and who will all be resurrected as He was and gathered together to Him prior to His second coming). See Ephesians 5:30-32, where the Holy Spirit refers to sexual intercourse as “a great mystery”. I can hear the unbelievers laughing at this. As I said – they don’t have a clue. They should be pitied for what they are missing out on.

One last thing. My wife and I have tried to demonstrate our affection for one another in front of our children (to a limited extent obviously) so that they can observe such behavior in its proper context. My wife does not recall seeing her religious parents kiss or sensually embrace in her childhood, and we think that was at least part of the reason why she had so many sexual inhibitions which were a problem in our marriage for a long time. We knew our children would observe such behavior between unmarried people in the world and we wanted them to know that there is a context in which it is acceptable and in which there is no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed. With our approach there was no need to teach abstinence – they learned by example and observation. We are not fools. We know that this will not necessarily prevent fornication. Thankfully my oldest daughter was a virgin on her wedding day and my other daughter is twenty three, very attractive, engaged to a fine handsome man who is graduating from college with a degree in electrical engineering, and both of them are looking forward to being kissed for the first time on their wedding day. My sons are equally intent on making their wedding day an extraordinarily special day. No thanks to us. We attribute it to God’s mercy.

Monti, I agree but it should be the parents doing the educating not this column. There is nothing good that can come from this column. This so called doc worships herself and lets her breasts hang out so more teens will be attracted to her columns. Pure deception from the Devil. If you are letting your kids learn sex-ed from anyone else but yourself, YOU’RE STUPID. The world can’t teach my kids anything My wife an I haven’t already taught them. THis column is from the DEVIL. Remove this please foxnews so you will stop getting so many emails requesting this. I know of at least 30 or so people who don’t like it either and they are not believers in the LORD JESUS CHRIST. This should turn on a light. Get with the program people.

Hey RC, can you show us even one example from Dr. Fulbright’s column, or any of her columns for that matter, which endorses immoral behavior? As I said, she’s respected your religion and has not entered into that domain at all. This isn’t church – it’s the world. What do you expect? Why don’t you stop being so silly. I don’t see why a Christian can’t just accept Dr. Fulbright for who she is and value her advice as you might that of any doctor, whether s/he is a Christian or not. I find some of the news stories far more defiling than Dr. Fulbright’s columns. FYI, there are innumerable children and teens out there who don’t have the luxury of caring Christian parents to teach them about sex. To whom do they turn? As I said, at least Dr. Fulbright does not endorse immorality. We ought to be thankful for that, don’t you think? Anyway if you don’t like her columns then don’t click on them.

Am I understanding correctly that RC’s objection to this column is that kids will read it?

I hate to be the one to break this bit of news but this is TAME compared to what is easily viewable with simple Google image search. Kids who are looking for sex on the internet aren’t coming to FoxNews to do it. Period.

If you disagree with the ideas Dr. Fulbright espouses then by all means speak out and use this forum to share your views (no matter how asanine I may find them). If you don’t think it’s appropriate for children then don’t let YOUR children read them. It’s called being a parent and setting boundries… I encourage you (and I am sure the good Doctor would concur) to do just that.

“If you are letting your kids learn sex-ed from anyone but yourself, YOU’RE STUPID.”

If you think that you’re the only source your kids have (or will make use of) to learn about sex then, while I hesitate to call you stupid, niave is a forgone conclusion. Teach your children what you believe but more importantly teach them to THINK FOR THEMSLEVES. Otherwise they are just sheep, and while the thought of them following the good shephard is comforting to some the risk that they will follow the wrong one is too great.