Sexpert Q&A: Making an Entrance
Dear Dr. Yvonne,
I’m being set up on a blind date with a very attractive man and I want to be one of those women who “owns” the room when she walks in. Any suggestions? -Sylvia
Dear Sylvia,
When meeting your date for the first time, go for the grand entrance. Pause at the doorway, holding your head high, shoulders back, and scan the room. When you find your date, hold his/her gaze for a few seconds before making your way over.
If you haven’t found your date, make eye contact with people close to you as you venture farther into the joint. If people aren’t responsive, shift your gaze as though you’re smiling at someone close to them. Have a slight smile on your lips the whole time as you make your way through the center of the room. More than anything, appearing confident and at ease helps anyone to own the room.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
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My husband and I were discussing your article and I wanted to write to you and tell you what I think about it. This was in reference to you article written on last Thursday evening.
You make it sound like if you have a body that is overweight that men will be attracted to you. Have you been out in the real world! I used to be overweight. I almost lost my marriage over it. So you need to tell me how men are attracted to overweight women. I had not changed inside as a person. I was still a mother to his two children. But he did not find me attractive, better yet did he want to have sex with me.
Yet in your article you say that size makes no difference. That’s crap! It was not until I started losing weight that our sex life was better and our marriage was better.
I don’t understand how anyone can say that men especially look at women for their “INNER” beauty. I bet if I weighed 350 pounds like I did later on in my marriage that my husband now of 35 years would not have proposed to me earlier when I weighed only 140. He was looking at my body then.
Sure maybe not only my body, my inner self too, but over the years, when I started gaining weight, my inner person did not change, just the outer person.
I guess you will have to explain all this garbage to me.
I guess I get real upset when a thinner person can sit and write articles like this who probably never had a weight problem!!
Teri
What ever happened to being natural and relaxed when entering the room on a first date. If someone made an entrance like that on me, I might just tell her I’m a restaurant employee. “What’s with her?”
Whatever happened to being natural when meeting a date for the first time? If someone made an entrance like that on me, I might just tell her I’m a restaurant employee. “What’s with her?”
Yvonne, how did Helen Keller make her entrances?
That is very sound advice! There are fewer things more attractive than a confident woman. Unless she walks in like this then that would just make the room stop!
You’re not going to own the room unless you look like a playmate.
A question not asked, that should be, is whether “owning the room” is a good way to make a good first impression on one’s date. Given that it is to more or less flirt with every man there, I would say “not.” Most decent men don’t want to feel the need to fight for every minute of a young lady’s attention.
DR. Fulbright, it’s never too late to read Dietrich Von Hildebrand.
If a woman entered a room like you suggested….i would definitely be turned off! That would make a very bad first impression with me.
What ever happened to humility? That (humility) is VERY sexy!