I also have this same problem but it is far, far worse.

Treat her to a pedicure at a nice salon! She will love you forever!

If you object to the smell, you don’t have a foot fetish. Duh.

uh…. not a subject for Foxnews …. perhaps some other forum … but it’s gross on a family news site

I wish Yvonne was MY wife. Horace’s issue is not all that uncommon.
A foot fetish is something most women don’t understand nor respect, but it’s a perfectly natural preference… much like breast or anything else. You’d think with the amount of nerve receptors there, women would embrace it more, but usually it’s met with more disgust than anything else. From a personal standpoint, I’m a really likable and approachable guy (decent looking too) and I still remember the horrified or amused looks I got the few times I tried to be honest about it. If a girl suspects it… the tone is usually accusatory. Woman tend to put men they like up on a pedestal and they seem disappointed if you don’t fit their ideal Knight in Shining Armor.

I’ve felt a need to hide a thing for feet for years… it’s kind of sad to not be able to share experiences with people you love, but when you know someone’s doesn’t enjoy something… how do you crate an environment where they need to do it all the time? Also, it’s hard on my self esteem to have people I care about think I’m strange.

Yvonne.. the footbath is an idea, but the issue is you don’t want feet to smell like soap either. When a guy develops a fetish, he doesn’t get turned off by natural scents. The issue Horace is having is “smelly feet”… basically a fungus/ neglect issue. There’s really no way he can get his wife’s feet in the shape he’s looking for. Calluses come from bad walking habits, a taste for uncomfortable shoes or unlucky bone structure. I doubt she’d be able to do enough to attain what he’s after.

I believe his real question was “Is indulging in a foot fetish with someone beside your partner cheating?”

A foot fetish is something most women don’t understand nor respect, but it’s a perfectly natural preference… much like breast or anything else. You’d think with the amount of nerve receptors there, women would embrace it more, but usually it’s met with more disgust than anything else. From a personal standpoint, I’m a really likable and approachable guy (decent looking too) and I still remember the horrified or amused looks I got the few times I tried to be honest about it. If a girl suspects it… the tone is usually accusatory. Woman tend to put men they like up on a pedestal and they seem disappointed if you don’t fit their ideal Knight in Shining Armor.

I’ve felt a need to hide a thing for feet for years… it’s kind of sad to not be able to share experiences with people you love, but when you know someone’s doesn’t enjoy something… how do you crate an environment where they need to do it all the time? Also, it’s hard on my self esteem to have people I care about think I’m strange.

Yvonne.. the footbath is an idea, but the issue is you don’t want feet to smell like soap either. When a guy develops a fetish, he doesn’t get turned off by natural scents. The issue Horace is having is “smelly feet”… basically a fungus/ neglect issue. There’s really no way he can get his wife’s feet in the shape he’s looking for. Calluses come from bad walking habits, a taste for uncomfortable shoes or unlucky bone structure. I doubt she’d be able to do enough to attain what he’s after.

I believe his real question was “Is indulging in a foot fetish with someone beside your partner cheating?”

How about putting something on this website that is of use. All I ever see is this nasty doctor giving sex advice when there are more important issues at hand. I guess you need an example. Is a foot fetish answer going to help you when you stand before the Lord and He judges you? NO, OF COURSE NOT. So let’s talk about truth instead of lies there doc. Teach something that has meaning instead of this nastiness. You just don’t get it.

I agree with Brad. I love my wife’s feet, and she lets me indulge myself with them whenever I want. She keeps them looking great year-round because she knows I enjoy them. My fetish is similar to Horace’s, but a step beyond that because I get aroused when women drive barefoot. My wife never did this until we met and I told her about my interest in feet. Now she drives barefoot almost all the time because she prefers it (doesn’t matter if I’m in the car or not). The key is being honest and open about it. But, my wife is just awesome in every way and is a big blessing to me, so her being understanding about the foot thing is a bonus. I do struggle with staring at other women’s feet and feel like I’m being, in a way, unfaithful sometimes.

As far as the odor, there is a fine line, KC. When my wife wears sandals, there’s a slight odor which is a turn on, but with closed shoes where sweat builds up, yech!

If the soap smell turns you off, trying bathing, massaging, and rubbing them in a hot water bath, sans soap. That should take care of most of the “smelly feet” smell without adding the soap smell. Personally I like indulging (and even being indulged) in this every once in a while. My wife was hesitant at first, but gets into it now from time to time, and even enjoys it. The key with this is compromise. Marriage and sex are about self giving. If you have the unappreciated fetish, don’t expect your partner to indulge you every time. And if you are the object of a fetish that’s not really your thing, it’s an incredible gift to indulge your partners desires from time to time, unless the fetish is something too painful or gross for you to be able to bring yourself to do it ever.

To Concerned and Sam Jackson .. Did you not notice that this page is titled SEXPERT?

My guy likes my feet. He likes touching and kissing them and even sucking on my toes. I love it!! I do take a little more special care of my feet now.

BTW .. pumice stones do help get rid of calluses. It takes some time for them to go away completely. It also softens the skin on the balls and heels.

“If you object to the smell, you don’t have a foot fetish. Duh.”

WRONG! He’s got a foot fetish, not a horrible smell fetish. Many people enjoy performing oral but not when the gear hasn’t been washed since who knows when. Same thing.

Just because YOU love the smell of stank, nasty, unwashed feet, doesn’t mean everyone else has to in order to fit into your definition of what the fetish should be. It’s a visual and sucking attraction, not a disgusting smell and salty taste attraction. Clean, smooth feet are the only way to go! Just like most people who like performing oral like it shaved and clean, not 6 months of hair and smelling like they’ve got an STD. Same exact thing here.

To Concerned: “when you stand before the Lord and He judges you”

… that’s gotta be one long a$$ line. If you don’t want to wait on line to get judged, can you go do something else… like mini golf? Also.. what do you win if you get judged with like… 80 points or even a good score like 92? I hope you get to not be dead…

…no wait, that’s not the way the game is played. I’m sure you’ll be great at it though. The lord gives extra points to the intolerant religious right (they say so as they have access to the manual). Extra points also if you don’t enjoy sex, hate gays and want to keep the human race from evolving. You know god wants us not to not create, not expand and not have sex… that’s why life is built around those things. So we can reject them and worship a book from 3,000 years ago.

Dave: There needs to be more education on this topic. I think a lot of woman who reject the feet thing think about our nasty feet and never noticed that ladies feet are a whole different animal. Also, I guess if you have bad feet… you want the entire idea of the fetish to disappear.

Man am I lucky!?!? My wife has no aversion to anything sexual except anal and doing other people. She loves for me to suckle her toes. She gets as much from it as I do. She loves the tingle the nerves get from it and actually asks me to do it when I don’t. But a person with a foot fetish can still have Foot fetishism & not enjoy the smell of someones feet. The smell is something that can be fixed. Have your wife bathe he feet in powdered Alum. It causes the pores to shrink and the feet to not be as sweaty in return reducing smell. As for the roughness, since you enjoy rubbing her feet then get a good lotion made specifically for feet like the one Avon sells. It will have them softened within a couple of weeks if you apply it once daily. So get that and start giving her nightly foot rubs. If you are afraid she may think something is up just tell her “I just want your feet to be as comfortable and pain free as possible.” If she were a diabetic you could tell her it is just good foot health. Hell tell her that anyway that you want her to have healthy feet. She probably has a job where she is on her feet allot.