I have heard of sickos in my day but this about beats all. Not only the question but the answer are both absurd. How about the woman performing this “act” is apparently a weirdo or the question would never be posed. Hello lady, ever heard of LISTERINE or maybe Clorox and here is a new word for you it is called MORALS!!

Yummy

This is absurd! Is this real or are you just testing to see how many hits this column gets? Of course, I looked.

It did make me rather disgusted……this woman needs to get a life.

lady she said husband not someone else’s husband…the wife’s body is her husband’s and his is hers

Sandy needs to broaden her horizans! Dr. Fulbright is exactly right about all of her suggestions listed. But as far as morals, the person asking the question is in a long time marriage. Yeah to her for exploring healthy expressions of love for her husband. I’m sure there are more husbands out there, including mine, that wish their wives were more “giving”. Go for it Noreen!

Sandy,

It is her HUSBAND. He has been over seas fighting so that you don’t get attacked by terrorists. If a wife wants to “pull a Monica” on her HUSBAND she should. If she is going to do that he is going to finish. It might as well taste better. Morals have nothing to do this this. Grow up and respect other people. If you find it offensive, don’t look at the sexpert site.

Sandy, I think your definition of a sicko is very close-minded. I applaud married couples being experimental in the bedroom, and this is pretty tame in my mind. A healthy sex life is important to a good marriage. Great answer, great (and common) question. Thank you!

Wow Sandy, lighten up! She’s a married woman and that’s her right as his wife. You need to let loose and probably have oral sex yourself!!! There’s nothing IMMORAL about oral sex or asking a sex professional for advice on bettering her oral sex abilities!

Sandy, respectfully, you don’t go down on your man, huh? Is there someone on the side that might be….who knows? Take a walk into the 21st Century and try it. You both may be pleasantly surprised at the results. I believe if you’re committed to each other, sex is not immoral; hell, it’s supposed to be fun!! Where you go depends on your comfort level and communication between loving partners. Dr. Yvonne is right…lemon and pineapple work wonders…it’s my girlfriend’s personal favs.

Hey, Sandy. If it bothers you, why are you looking this up? I found with my ex-husband that his acid reflux also caused him to taste bad. So maybe Noreen’s husband should have his stomach acid level checked. Stress can add to heartburn, so she might want to let him relax for a week or so after he firsts gets back. Just a couple of thoughts.

So Sandy… How does your ex-husband feel about it???

Just because you are repressed and have serious issues
don’t “blow” it for others.

Smile (It’s the second best thing you can do with your mouth!)

Thank god there aren’t more people like Sandy left in the world. If there was we’d all be talking about how John McCain just won the election.

Sandy,
You silly woman. the discussion is not the taste of HER mouth, it’s the taste of his sperm.
I don’t any man should wash his lovely body parts with Clorox or Listerine! Or drink it to make his body fluids taste good.
I prefer my men to drink raspberry tea for most of the day before they come to me at night.
‘=)

I don’t think Listerine or Clorox is going to make his sperm taste bettter.. ;=)
i prefer my men to drink raspberry or peach herb tea throughout the day to make his happy finish yummy when they get to me at night.
sandy, are you sure you’ve given a happy finish successfully?
lol

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your expertise with the masses. As for the comments Sandy made, oral sex may not be for everyone but it’s just another way for a loving couple to show their desire for each other. I think it’s interesting that different foods can affect the bodily fluids. I hope Noreen and her husband can enjoy their time together again without any problems from serving over there. I wish them all the best. Thanks again for sharing and have a great weekend.

“Comment by Sandy
November 6th, 2008 at 1:31 pm

I have heard of sickos in my day but this about beats all. Not only the question but the answer are both absurd. How about the woman performing this “act” is apparently a weirdo or the question would never be posed. Hello lady, ever heard of LISTERINE or maybe Clorox and here is a new word for you it is called MORALS!!”

Hello Sandy, ever heard of minding your own business. If that is what floats their boat, rock on Laureen.

And on another note, many thanks to your husband for his service to this country.

“I have heard of sickos in my day but this about beats all. Not only the question but the answer are both absurd. How about the woman performing this “act” is apparently a weirdo or the question would never be posed. Hello lady, ever heard of LISTERINE or maybe Clorox and here is a new word for you it is called MORALS!!”

Ever heard of minding your own business lady. If that’s what floats their boat, rock on Laureen.

And on another note, many thanks to your husband for his service to this country!!!

Ever heard of minding your own business lady. If that’s what floats their boat, rock on Laureen.

And on another note, many thanks to your husband for his service to this country!!!

Sandy, ever heard of minding your own business? If that’s what floats their boat, rock on Laureen.

And on another note, many thanks to your husband for his service to this country!!!

Sandy, hate to burst your bubble but most women do this and all men want it. You may want to broaden your horizons to keep the spark in your relationship.

Regarding the comment by Sandy, obviously you read the question AND the ANSWER in order to make our on sided comment. To each his (or her) own. Thou Shall not JUDGE!!!!!!!!!

Regarding the comment by Sandy, obviously you read the question AND the complete ANSWER in order to make a comment. To each his (or her) own. THOU Shall not JUDGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, Sandy maybe you get off reading articles like this. There is a lot of truth about the taste. MMMMMMMM

SERIOUSLY, I GENERALLY FIGURE MYSELF CONSERVATIVE. THIS RESPONSE FROM SANDY-IT SADDENS ME. THIS SEX QUESTION AND THE ANSWER HAVE BEEN POPULAR FOR MANY YEARS. MOST OF US JUST FORGET WHICH FOODS DO WHAT, HENCE IT MUST BE ASKED AGAIN. IF THIS BEATS ALL FOR SO CALLED SICKOS…YOU REALLY NEED TO TRAVEL, OR READ ABOUT LIFE OUTSIDE YOUR OWN BOX. MY WIFE OF 13 YRS, SADLY TO ME, DOESN’T ENJOY THIS ACTIVITY AS MUCH AS I WOULD LIKE, BUT IRONICALLY I THINK IT STEMS FROM TIMES WHEN THE TASTE WASN’T WHAT SHE EXPECTED OR LIKED. AND IF PROPER MORALITY ARE NOT FOR MARRIED WOMEN AND MEN ENJOYING EACH OTHER IN THE PRIVACY OF THEIR HOME-THEN I GUESS I MAY NOT HAVE ANY.

Oh my gosh Sandy–I hope you are writing tongue-in-cheek (no pun intended) because if not, I pity your “man”. Giving sexual pleasure is one of the best gifts of a relationship and if you’re talking morals, read the Songs Of Soloman in the Bible. Try something besides the missionary position with the lights out—you may really enjoy it!

Dr. Fulbright, I am Sandy’s husband…..could you talk some sense into her before I explode??? Please!!

To Sandy:
Are you serious?… You’re reading a sex article, and you are going to say that talking about oral being unmoral? haha You’re in the wrong place making comments. We love oral around here. To quote Michele, “Yummy” yum yum yum.

I’ve read that kiwi, pinapple, and other sweet exotic fruits really improve the taste. You also want him to stay away from anything with tomatos, like pasta sauces.

sandy, how is oral sex on the person you’re married wrong?

Sandy, I bet you and your spouse sleep in different beds.

Pardon this long married couple for actually enjoying sex.

OMG, Sandy please go back under the rock you came from. This is not 1940 anymore and you are needing some serious therapy, if you are to proud then maybe you should watch more Dr. Phil. Heaven forbid any married women performing ORAL sex on her husband, and if you read the story Clorox or Listerine wont do YOU any good. HMMM well maybe drinking a gallon of CLOROX might do you some good. Let me know how that works out. Its all about what the man eats and the reaction is called in the lines of BIOLOGY,,,I guess you never heard of that one I guess.

I totally agree that this world needs more MORALS, but you should really think your answer through before you post it or at least read the story again to see if what your thinking makes sense. I think you forgot that step.

Dr. Fulbright, you are way off base. First of all most fruit and vegetables are alkalizing to the body whereas meat, milk, grains, and fish are acidifying. So you have that info backwards! There are to my knowledge no studies, only anecdotal, urban legend, evidence that any of this works.
The more important subject for the sake of her emotional health, is that she is uncomfortable with something her husband obviously wants. No one said she had to swallow. She needs to talk to her husband about her feelings openly and discuss what she really wants to do verses what he wants.

To Sandy: Anything done with a married couple of 29 years is not sick or weird. Marriage that lasts that long in this society and they are still doing that, is very impressive. People often are embarrassed to ask their pastor, doctor, friends, or councilors these type of questions and they can be hurtful in marriage. Don’t judge other people, it probably took alot of guts for her to ask it. I never would have!
Noreen:
If this is something that is unbearable to you, there may be some options; but how to keep it family friendly (to explain it) is a tricky one! Men who “prime the pump” (masturbate to ejaculation right before intercourse) have less objectionable odor and taste. There are flavored gels and lotions sold in stores to enhance taste. May wives have told me that sucking on a peppermint or cherry lozenges during the activity helps.
But most of all if this is something you simply cannot stand, don’t do it! Be open with your husband and he will understand if he really loves you. Judging by the 29 years, her does!

I guess Sandy, is the weirdo, or has a very borning sex life. What comes natural i guess she has not figured out.

what do morals have to do with it? Most women find nothing wrong with it, it’s their own choice to do it and it does not make her a weirdo for asking a question. The answer is not absurd either, pineapple juice does the trick, so if oral sex is not your cup of tea, fine, but don’t criticize others for what they do.

Sandy probably experienced a man who forced her and now she dislikes this act. She sees no pleasure in giving and receiving, poor Sandy…missing a good thing. Open your mind…

I feel sorry for Sandy’s husband. She is obviously from the middle-ages, or some religious cult that believes anything other than the missionary position (done to produce offspring only) is a sin. She should read the Song of Solomon sometime. Who died and made her the authority on what is weird or absurd. My guess is that she is a 50-ish year old prude, with no husband, and obviously no LIFE. The statement about Morals really cracks me up. How does asking a question about sex equate to being immoral, and by the way, the man she wants to please happens to be fighting for our country. I bet Sandy’s husband daily contemplates putting a pistol in his mouth.

You know that exploring your sex life with your Husband is absolutely wonderful!! Noreen it is great that you and your husband are still in love and not to mention open minded, especially after 29 years of marriage. You go girl!! As to the person Michelle telling you to get morals, I think it is sad that she is not sexually happy and if she has a problem with learning maby she didn’t know that education is everything. I guess if Michelle doesn’t like it then maby she shouldn’t read this column. Ever think of that Michelle? You should not judge and if you thought it was so sick too bad for you, your the one missing out!!!!(Not to mention your poor Husband)

Geez, Sandy… you’re such a prude. It’s obvious that you must either be really old or live in a Mormon cult. Either way I feel sorry for you because giving your husband or partner oral sex is a great way to get him to pleasure you also. Maybe you’re bitter over your relationships? If you don’t want to be offended and think that this is “sick” or “weird” then you shouldn’t go on the internet. Stay at home and wear your “prairie dresses” and quilt something. Better yet, go to your “temple” and get laid more by your polygamist prophet. I bet he’s lousy in bed.

So sorry Michelle I was actually talking about Sandy.

Uh, I think this is a perfectly valid question. The woman is married and in a loving relationship with her husband. They’re committed to each other and they’ve made vows to honor, respect and love each other for the rest of their lives. What’s wrong with oral sex in the context of marriage, a lovely, pure, honorable thing in which sex is blessing and can only bring two people closer together and strengthen their bond? Nothing. That’s what marriage is all about – true oneness with another person. This woman is perfectly legitimate in asking her question.

Since when is oral sex = to lack of morals? I prefer not to be a prude, but hey to each their own. Thanks for the tips Dr. Y!!!!

Quitting smoking made a huge difference in my husband! He is a lucky guy that comes home from war to a welcoming and hot wife with an open mind. There are guys over there that would actually prefer to stay because home is such a boring dismal place.

In ref to Sandy’s comment:

Oral sex has been done since the beginning of time but only in the last 20 years has this been so open. I congradualate Yvonne for asking this question as I’m sure thousand of girls ask it. I think Sandy you should look at yourself, and judge yourself! I strongly believe you think oral sex is disgusting, and most likely have sex in the dark! We are born with these bodies and should explore them for all the delights they give us, and we should explore our partner’s bodies in the same way. Oral sex is a big part of the exploring, tasting, etc….

I hope one day Sandy, you will wake up and taste the semen!
Michel

Sandy,

The Song of Songs speaks of oral sex! For example, in verse 7:2, the word translated “navel” in many Bibles actually means “vulva” in Hebrew. Clearly God’s word cannot speak of something immoral in a positive way.

This woman loves her husband and seeks to use sex to build their relationship–one of the purposes God gave us sex in marriage!

Yet you would criticize her. Before you go around criticizing others, you need to actually read the Bible.

You’ve given me a great idea. I think we’ll turn off the TV tonight and I’ll read portions of the Song of Songs to my wife and work on building up our marriage even more!

To Sandy, What is wrong morally with her question? She is talking about a perfectly acceptable act with her HUSBAND. She’s asking a medical expert. It’s not like she wrote in to Penthouse. Just because something isn’t to your tastes doesn’t make it wrong.

For Sandy to be so sexual repressed in this day and age is saddening. She (or he) seems to think that to be sexual active is a sin and that to try and enjoy a healthy relationship is akin to being a barnyard aminal. Grow UP!

Some people do really enjoy the pleasure of sex and all it has to offer. The doctors advise was spot on.
And the troop coming home, he’s one lucky guy. And thanks for your “tour of duty”.

Thank god that most women aren’t like Sandy. Maybe you should move to the middle east where women like you are the norm. If there were more like you, I imagine you would have all women wearing burkhas.

Morals? MANY believe oral sex to be Biblical as referenced in Songs of Soloman or Song of Songs depending on the version of the Bible you read. “Morals”.. puhleeze

Tina: “Mormon cult” is redundant…

Noreen: You might try asking your husband to “alert” you to when he’s about to ejaculate so that you don’t have to answer the age-old question of whether to spit or swallow. My husband likes it when I give him oral until he feels he’s about to come, then we take a brief break and have penetrative sex where he can finish.

Dr. Beth Dupree:
“The more important subject for the sake of her emotional health, is that she is uncomfortable with something her husband obviously wants. No one said she had to swallow. She needs to talk to her husband about her feelings openly and discuss what she really wants to do verses what he wants.”

Did you read Noreen’s question? Here: “He loves getting oral sex and I love giving it to him…” So where in there does she express that she is uncomfortable or being coerced into doing something she doesn’t want to do? Try a little reading comprehension.

Sandy, you’re a tard.

Sandy, you were so quick to respond to Noreen and not your own husband and noe he wants Dr. Fulbright to please talk some sense in to you. Think about this obviously he is unhappy.

Im glad to read that sex doesnt have to get boring as i get into my fifties, Im showing article to my wife tonight as we have a pineapple for desert

I agree with Sandy – there should be plenty of “adult” website where one can find such information. General sexual questions should be allowable, but this one crosses the line.

Hey Tina @ 6:46am,
You are really confused about Mormons. We don’t wear prairie dresses and aren’t polygamists.
The prophet isn’t in our bedrooms either, literally or figuratively.
As in any healthy marriage relationship, couples should be considerate and respect the boundaries of comfort and readiness. When my wife and I were first married, I wanted oral sex, but she was not comfortable with it. I didn’t press the issue, but accepted whatever she was comfortable giving of herself. Over the years, as we’ve become more familiar and comfortable with each other, certain inhibitions have fallen away and we’ve experimented a little more. The great thing about this is that lovemaking has never gotten boring. We’ve advanced together a little at a time. Our sex life is wonderful and healthy because we’ve been patient, loving, considerate, and we’ve been mutually concerned with the other’s pleasure.

Clorox and Listerine? Oh yeah – THAT’LL improve the taste! But why not Lysol, rubber gloves, and a clothespin on your nose, too? And you’re calling everyone else a weirdo?

If you don’t want to do it, fine. But when your hubby finds someone who *does* want to do it, don’t be surprised. There’ll only be one person to blame, and you can see the real culprit in your mirror.

Is it too late to pile on Sandy? =c) My wife and I are devoted Christians, and this is a fantastic part of our 10-year marriage. Because I am physically disabled (but not in THAT area, and thank God I got a vasectomy), we have to be creative in how we have fun because when it comes to intercourse, we can really only do it one of two ways. My able-bodied wife is awesome about this! Unfortunately she has to help me dress below the waste (because I just can’t dress myself anymore), but sometimes she “dresses” me in the way that Sandy has a problem with. It’s a nice part of getting ready for work! And I enjoy doing the same for her sometimes – no moral problems because we’re in love and committed to God and each other.

My wife enjoys giving me oral sex all the time. She has never felt comfortable about tasting my semen. So to take care of that and still be able to enjoy the moment, we use flavored condoms that you can order from Adam and Eve. They are very thin and sensitive and come in a mulitude of flavors. As a result, I get all the oral sex I want, and I do the same for her, and we have wonderful sex together, plus she doesn’t have to worry about the taste at all.

Oh, by the way, we’ve been married 30 years and we’re still experimenting all the time!!! So Sandy, all I can say to you is, either you get with the program, or someone else will!!!!

After reading all the posts about Sandy and everyone’s opinion, I wonder why it was missed by all of you. Sandy is obviously scared of the “big dog” because she is probably gay.

Thank you all very much I really needed the laughs! First I am female, been in this same relationship with a man for 11 years and was married 13 years prior to him. Whoever said I am Sandy’s husband was actually joking folks I am not or ever will be “married” again. Never had a partner that was not 110% pleased for those that think “someone else will” that is always standard and always the case regardless of whether a him or her. Women that fake enjoying something so vile are strictly lying to you my friend because no REAL woman could enjoy such perversion. Again thanks to all for giving me the good belly laugh we all need ever so often and for you that didn’t quite understand – Listerine and clorox was meant to clean that filthy mouth but nothing would clean that! Go eat a banana, pineapple, mice, skunk or whatever it is that trips your trigger and keep on fooling yourself and your man or woman. Obviously morals can only be understood by those that have them so I doubt it can be explained to you that do not.

WOW!!! Glad my name isn’t SANDY!! That would suck,
or not!!

‘Women that fake enjoying something so vile are strictly lying to you my friend because no REAL woman could enjoy such perversion’

…. bahahahahha Boy are you ever confused. and you should see some of the other perversions us ‘not-real’ women are into. Like positions other than missonary, but that might be too wild and dirty for you to think of. Cause you’re so pure and all. And isnt’ it unmoral to have sexual relations out of wedlock? … Didn’t think of that one did you.

and that poor bastard, he probably WON’T marry you. I know normal people like openmindedness in their mates.