Sexpert Q&A: Early Valentine’s Day Shopping
Dear Yvonne,
Given the state of the economy, I’m already planning ahead for Valentine’s Day, and I want to take advantage of the after-Thanksgiving sales. I was wondering what I could get my girlfriend without breaking the bank. Any ideas would be really appreciated.
-Lance
Dear Lance,
While many advertisements would have you think that expensive gifts, like jewelry, are going to make you her prince for the day, lots of ladies are a bit easier – and easier on your wallet – to please. “Think of me” gifts, with a sexy/romantic note, are one way to win her over without putting yourself in debt. For example, get her a pretty sun catcher to hang in her window with a note stating that you hope she’ll think of you every time she sees it. This will let her know that you want to be on her mind. Framing a picture of the two of you will give her a warm glow in reinforcing her confidence in the relationship. Get something that compliments what you love about her most. For example, if she has amazing locks, get her a pretty clip to pull up her hair, with presentation key, for example, let her know it has greater appeal in allowing you to better nibble on her neck.
If you want to go for something traditional, give the tried and true gifts, only with a spin. A bouquet of flowers can be professionally preserved so that she’ll always have them around. Chocolates that are homemade from a gourmet store are going to be more appealing than ones from traditional candy makers.
Remember packaging is a way to make a so-so gift much more special. Just the right wrapping paper and bow – basically presentation – will go a long way and shows that you’ve put a lot of thought into the gift. That’s what’s going to be priceless come V-day. And if a woman ends up giving a guy a hard time because something isn’t expensive or lavish enough, then you may want to rethink why you’re involved with her. Nobody should have to be that hard to please.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
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What have we become? It seems that all we think about is sex. Love has been given a back seat, sorry for the referance to were it all happened 20 years ago. Don’t get me wrong, that 5 minuits to 5 hours is great, but what about the rest of the time? Dr? Fulbright may be an expert on the physical act but falls way short on the relation aspect. She seems to think that the gifts are all given with the idea of getting a job well done . In the 40+ years of my marrage, gifts were given to to show that I loved my wife, not to have her give me lewinski. If sex was impossible due to medical reasons, would she say “lets look elsewhere for that release?
We need less sex experts and more love experts. Would have loved to find more women like the good Dr? when I was single, my pipes would never need cleaning.
Dude, did you even read Dr. Fulbright’s response? Not once did she mention these gifts as a way of getting a lewinski. She came up with some strange, but innovative, gifts that have way more to do with the emotional than the physical. Just because she’s a sexpert doesn’t mean everything she says has to do with the bedroom. Cut her some slack and try a little reading comprehension. You’re old enough to have mastered it by now.
Valentine’s Day, by definition, should be a day to celebrate the love you share with your significant other. This does not by any means say that you should be considering it a day to get a free pass into the sheets. The only reason you would be upset with what Dr. Fulbright answered is if these gifts are not getting you the action you feel you deserve, and in your 40+ years of marriage the sexual aspect is lacking. Anyone who knows anything about anything will tell you that sex is not everything, and that giving a woman a gift on Valentines Day, no matter what the price, does not have to lead to a “happy ending” for the giver. As a woman, I found her response to be very thoughtful and a good helping hand for those who may need one. Let’s be a little more positive and not so quick to jump on people who are just giving advice.
Get over it people….. When you all have been married for 40 years then feel free to be overly critical of someone elses opinion.. meantime- there is only a fifty fifty chance that you will still be married to the same person in 20- if you even last that long.
Society and media today- including miss sexpert Q&A- are so focused on how you satisfy yourself and the “it’s all about me” syndrome that you jump all over this guy for a thoughtful comment…
I am glad for your response and I enjoyed your OPINION- since that is what these are anyway.