We’re like little teapots. It takes us some time to get a steamed up! But when we do, here us shout tip me over and…….

Id like to meet Marie!

Warm up the engine first is always good advice. Whether it be your car, motorcycle, or woman.

Not the most important thing I ever learned on my long journey through sexdom, but certainly among the top five is that it is almost useless to follow oft-offered advice to “talk to your female partner about what turns her on.” The chances are slim to none that a.) she would know about something she’s never experienced (BTW, this is far more true of men), b.) even if she has picked up some ideas, she would probably not discuss them in an “unheated” moment, and c.) there’s no guarantee that something that works for someone else will produce the same results with her. As I once read years ago in a similar column, a certain activity (sorry, I can’t bring myself to write it) will either make a woman go mad or become angry; the only way to find out which is trial and error. A far more productive conversation re matters sexual would be: Him, “Next time we are making love, I would lilke to try a couple of new things that I read about, but was warned they would be spoiled if we discuss them ahead of time. The article also pointed out that some women dislike them, but you can’t know until you try. So, if sometime I do something you dislike, please tell me and I will never do it again, okay?” This conversation must take place in a general discussion, NOT when preparing to make love, and above all not during foreplay!!
The key to it all, men, is if you want to have the ultimate sexual experience (my opinion based upon more experience than a certain basketball player claims to have had), everything you do should be done expressly for the purpose of making her enjoy the experience; the rewards are incalculable!! It is–where lovemaking is concerned–far better to give than to receive, mainly because you’ll NEVER outgive her!!

Yvonne,

How about telling us about something we can’t read on Wikipedia, or find in a copy of penthouse? Honestly, I always glance at your column in anticipation of yet another newsflash from “Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright’s Department of the Obvious”. No offense, but I’m SURE you’ve got somethings to share us that we DON’T already know.
And I swear, if I see another article about how insensitive men are, or how unwilling men are to take things slow in building up a woman’s sexual experience, I’m going to scream! How about tackling the problems that GUYS face – for example, how about explaining to your eager audience the psychological problems that MEN go through when dealing with the O-So-Sexy issue of taking a bath with your socks on, e.g. wearing a condom. I think there’s an awful lack of consideration for how much pressure is put on MEN in that department. I use them, because I’m responsible – but women really have it easy in that regard, and I think women are way too quick to just say, “It’s a MAN’S responsibility.”.
And I can’t believe you actually had an article on how to put on a condom… Here’s a novel idea – READ THE DIRECTIONS!!!!!

Wavey Davey