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Dr. Keith: Those Who Watched Internet Suicide Have Problems Too

ablow05278The last moments of Abraham Biggs’ nineteen years of life were broadcast live via the Internet on Justin.tv. 

 Biggs, a Broward College student who reportedly suffered from bipolar disorder, had posted a suicide note on BodyBuilding.com before overdosing on a combination of opiates and benzodiazepine tranquilizers in front of his webcam. 

Just as shocking as Biggs’ decision to end his life publicly was the fact that strangers encouraged him to do it.  Some in the virtual audience texted entries like “lol” (for “laughing out loud”) and “hahahaha.”

Other viewers did contact the Web site, and police were eventually notified.  They found Biggs dead 12 hours later.

The lesson in this tragedy is the same whether we think about the lead actor in this made-for-the-Web reality drama or his viewers.  All were lost in a hall of mirrors that deprived them of real human connectedness.  When Biggs shared his overwhelming desperation with strangers, and when those strangers treated him without humanity, they were laced together—each and every one of them—in the peculiarly potent kind of depersonalization that today’s technology breeds. 

When we broadcast our life stories over and over again—whether on Justin.tv or Facebook or YouTube—we run the risk of slipping the bindings of our real feelings and experiences and becoming, in some small or greater way, actors in our own lives.   And as actors, some number of us will feel free to do and say things that are not a reflection of our true, deep character, but of the characters we have created for public dissemination.

Abraham Biggs may have committed suicide alone, without an audience.  But broadcasting his overdose may have made it seem just a little less real to him, a little like acting out his own death without having to really die, like an actor reading a script who stands up after the death scene and walks off the stage.  And those who watched and did nothing, or who watched and laughed out loud, or watched and egged Biggs on, might never have behaved that way were a person standing in front of them ready to end his life. 

While some may have believed Biggs was faking his death, I believe others were rendered inhuman by the fact that a camera turned the last pages of his life story into entertainment.

We are past due for major research into the psychological effects of the Internet on human emotion, behavior and relationships.  With tens of millions of Americans participating in online social networks and dating sites and photo sharing sites and (perhaps most toxic of all) Second Life, some percentage of users may be gradually disconnecting from themselves and others and reality.

Maybe it isn’t too big a leap to wonder whether that’s one reason Americans seem increasingly drawn into “bubbles” of fiction that eventually burst, causing real suffering.  Think about the near-delusional thinking that fueled the Internet stock bubble and the real estate bubble.  Think about the fact that our government is now injecting staggering amounts of capital into failed businesses to make them look like real businesses, in hopes that they will eventually become real businesses.

Biggs’ story is shocking because it captures the last minutes of a good and decent young man’s life.  It is all about private suffering turned inside out into a scripted, public spectacle in which the pain was meaningless to many of those made privy to it.  The Internet wrung the truth out of it. 

We’d better find out—and soon—how “connecting” through today’s technology may be disconnecting us from ourselves and from others.

Dr. Keith Ablow is a psychiatry correspondent for FOX News Channel and a New York Times bestselling author. His newest book, “Living the Truth: Transform Your Life through the Power of Insight and Honesty” has launched a new self-help movement. Check out Dr. Ablow’s website at livingthetruth.com or e-mail him at info@keithablow.com.

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2 Responses to “Dr. Keith: Those Who Watched Internet Suicide Have Problems Too”

Comment by HELEN WOODS

It’s a shame that the young man had to die like that disconnected from reality,human contact,family and life. It’s troublesome to know that so little value is placed on human life. It seems that in todays society our young people are becoming more and more disconnected to the humanity of others. So little feelings seem to be displayed for another persons plight. I can’t help but fell that tv and video games have a lot to do with our youth appearing not to have any compassion, or real feeling for another human being. When it becomes ok to sit and watch another demoralized,and suffering to give someone else a sick and twisted pleasure, I find that troubling.

 
Comment by becky

I my self have bi-polar and no how desperate I have felt at different times in my life and yes even to the point where I was sucidial. The pain is real for us with the illness, I almost hate being around anyone other then my family or those people that have a disorder that I meet at support groups because regular people think anyone with a mental disorder is damaged and worthless.

We didn’t ask for the illness we were given and we deal with it the best we can and some days are easier then others but for someone to watch this kids death and not believe it was real has more of a mental disorder then I do. Why would anyone not automatically think there was an off balance in someone for even talking about suicide? I can guarantee if anyone is talking suicide I am going to be on a phone to a hotline or police department immediately. IF A PERSON IS TALKING ABOUT SUICIDE MY GOD PLEASE LISTEN TO THEM. THIS IS NOT A GAME TO PEOPLE WITH A DISORDER. THIS IS REALLY WHAT THEY FEEL WILL SOLVE THE PROBLEM AND GOD LET ME TELL YOU THEY ARE TIRED OF THE PAIN AND HURT THAT THE DISORDER CAUSES THEM AND THEIR FAMILY.

My prayers go out to this kids family and friends and may he rest in peace in your heart and know without knowing him personally but living with bi-polar my self he didn’t mean the hurt he caused his loved ones and he loved them very much I am sure of it he was just tired of the fight he was fighting and he was tired of the pain he was feeling.

Education and Common Sense is need

 

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