Sexpert Q&A: Giving the Gift of Sexual Self-Confidence
Dear Yvonne,
For Christmas this year, I want to give my gal one of those sexual empowerment courses she’s always talking about taking with her girlfriends. Which one do you think would be best as far as boosting her sexual self-confidence?
—Hank
Dear Hank,
Hands down — she should try belly dancing. It’s a form of self-expression that builds body image, self-esteem, and sexual self-confidence. She’s celebrating herself and her gifts — making a statement about her passion and pride. Belly dancing concentrates her body’s energy into her abdominal and pelvic areas — areas of great sexual and creative energy — helping her to bring out her sensual, inner sex goddess. Plus, belly dancing has many (health) benefits that are going to make for better sex, like improved coordination, flexibility, posture, and muscle tone.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
Hank:
You should throw your girl a sex party. Have plenty of nice little toys and what nots. Have someone to come in who knows alot about giving those type of parties and give them an experience that they will never forget. I promise she will really enjoy herself.
Dear Dr. Yvonne,
Please how can i achieve orgasm during sex,this is really frustrating my husband.
Your reply is urgently awaited.
Rose.
i need some information about best sex with my wife mith picture
thans alot.
Dear Yvonne:
I am that lesbian female who needed some help. You know the one whose in a relationship and can’t help the way I feel about getting out and wanting to (I don’t know) have some fun with another female outside of my relationship. Well I can admit that I am still having thoughts but not as bad as before. I guess I probably won’t fully get rid of these feelings, but deals with them. I have not cheated on my significant other because I’m not a cheater. I love her very much and I won’t hurt her like that. I can admit that I would like to maybe play a little, but I guess sometimes you can’t always get what you want. Its a crime of passion. I guess I love women too much.
Hank, Yvonne is right! Belly dancing really brought out the inner goddess of one of my former gfriends who had confidence issues. Besides I enjoyed watching (and participating) and we both lost a little weight.
Rose – relax and try to empty your mind of anything not associated with the sex you are having at the moment. Remember sex is fun. From experience, both for me and my lover, if your mind isn’t into the moment, the reward won’t come (so to speak) or will not be as rewarding (sorry for the puns…it’s too early for me today…). You could also try porn to get you and your lover in the mood. One thing that helps me when I get off track is when I think about the first time I had sex with my current gfriend – puts me right on track again. You can also try exercise shortly before sex…it helps get the blood pumping and can help get you in the mood. I’ve personally found that women who claim to not be able to orgasm during sex have psychological rather than physical issues.
here’s agreat article from the Boston Globe talking about ways couples are finding to add more romance, sex and intimacy to their relationship. Good Stuff!
http://www.boston.com/lifestyle/family/articles/2009/01/01/putting_the_bliss_back_in_wedded/