Comments on: New Jersey Hospital Throws Baby Out With Trash

By: Kristi

Kristi — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 18:28:37 +0000

Thank you for recognizing the fact that even if a baby is stillborn it is still a human being. I lost my first son at 29 weeks gestation, he was stillborn. Perfect in every shape and form, just not a beating heart at delivery. The pain never goes away, the memories never fade, and the love only grows.

By: Ace

Ace — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 21:30:19 +0000

In a country that supports late term abortions (or any for that matter), this incident does not surprise me at all. The babies don’t look any different whether they are wanted or not. Whoever discarded the body probably thought this was just an aborted “fetus” and not somebody’s beloved baby boy.

By: TDavis

TDavis — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:21:05 +0000

I completely agree with the article by Dr. Alvarez and as a mother of a child who was born still. The bottom line is that he was still born and he is STILL a member of our family.
The days of hospitals and doctors hiding the babies from us for “our health” are over. These are children that we wanted, love and miss everyday of our lives. We are the moms who had prenatal care, and took every precaution to protect our children.
The I know of moms who still mourn their children after 40 years.
I was able to hold and love my son for 12 hours and had beautiful pics taken by Now I lay me down to sleep.
How can my son not be considered a person when I could feel him kick, hiccup and move?
If my son is not considered to be a person then why does the law require burial or cremation?
If my son was not considered a person then why did over 100 people come to say goodbye to our son at his funeral?
If my son was not considered a person then my is our families heart broken?
The laws need to be changed and the hospitals need to understand a parents grief is the worst. Don’t understand it? Imagine you in the shoes.

By: Toni

Toni — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 02:50:59 +0000

It is horrible that this baby is missing, but why did it take so long for the funeral home to get the deceased baby? By my count it was 10 days? Did this woman think the hospital was going to hang on to this dead body indefinitely? I am not trying to justify what the hospital did but maybe the hospital wasn’t given any indication someone was coming for the baby. Someone may have thought that the dead baby was abandoned and they disposed of it. I don’t know, this whole thing sounds screwy from the get go.

By: Pelle

Pelle — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:01:04 +0000

Christ Hospital was once the best hospital in Hudon County, New Jersey. However, it has become the a hospital that has declined to do poor management . Fire the President Of Christ Hospital !

By: lynn lenardon

lynn lenardon — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:53:37 +0000

My sister lost her baby the day after birth. The picture lady came to her room to take a picture of the newborn. A nurse came to check on my sister asking how the baby was. They put a mother and baby in the same room with my sister while she was recovering. At her six week check, the doctor asked how was the mother and baby doing. Hospitals need to do a better job of flagging charts so this type of insensitivity never happens!!!

By: Sherri

Sherri — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 17:14:57 +0000

This is very upsetting. I gave birth to my first child which was full term and she was stillborn.
That hospital owes that family there is no excuse for that. Although the hospital that I had my
daughter could have been a little better about taking care of me I had her at 9:00 a.m. and was released the same day at 5:00 p.m. That was in 1997. That was still a human being and they need to find that baby. I got to hold my baby and my family and friends did also and have graveside services for it. All your dreams and hopes are gone and there is not a day that don’t go by that I wonder what she would be like.
There is no replacement yeah you can have more kids but nothing takes the place of that child there is no replacement. I also heard the saying you can have more kids but that doesn’t help.
People don’t understand until that has happened to them.

By: lynne

lynne — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:57:01 +0000

I think I read in the article that NJ does not consider a stillborn child as a person. My question here is, was the baby actually stillborn as thehospital indicates, or was the child alive at birth and died very shortly thereafter; there seems to be some question and discrepancy. The other thing I ask is if the child was alive in-utero. Many laws will convict someone of fetal murder if a fetus is a certain age. So how can NJ say a stillborn is not a person when in fact a viable fetus is considered a “person?” I know I have seen stories of similar incidents and I ask the same question..how can a hospital be so incompetent?

By: Eleanore

Eleanore — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 17:09:38 +0000

I had a still born child in 1961. I didn’t know or was I told that I could have buried my child.
I was told that we had to pay for disposal.

They didn’t even tell me if my baby was a boy or girl and been worrying about it since that time.

Hospitals don’t for some reason tell you that you can have a service for you child even if its not full term.

By: Pro-choice

Pro-choice — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 15:45:30 +0000

I am truly sickened by this story and think it is unbelievable that the end of this sweet baby’s life was not taken more seriously by the hospital. That being said, I think it is unfair that the anti-abortion nuts who are commenting here have apparently decided that people who believe in a woman’s right to choose whether she has a child also believe that it is ok to throw out a body with the trash. I firmly believe most of us who are pro-choice are against abortion after the first trimester and certainly against disregarding human decency and respect for a grieving family by not taking tender care of a tiny baby who did not live to enjoy a mother’s love. You cannot equate a baby who was apparently wanted and born at or close to full term with an unwanted pregnancy a woman decides not to go through within the first 3 months. Even though I have a 16 month old daughter who has completed my life, I would never dream of telling an unprepared woman to give birth to an unwanted child. I am far more sickened by the stories of abuse, neglect and even murder of unwanted children than I am of legal abortion. I actually believe even more in a woman’s right to choose now that I have a child.