Sepert Q&A: Sex is No Laughing Matter – Or Is It?
Dear Yvonne,
Sometimes my girlfriend will laugh during sex, which weirds me out. Is it because I’m doing something wrong?
— Tad
Dear Tad,
Sex is a fun activity (and if it isn’t a good time, at least most of the time, you seriously need to question the relationship and what you’re doing). Inuit Eskimos refer to sex as “laughing time.” So is it any wonder that lovers aren’t always serious in the sack?
Sex involves feeling good, expressing yourself, and sharing amazing, positive moments with somebody you care about. Laughing can be a great compliment because it indicates your lover is letting go of stress and getting into the moment. While many people worry that their lover is laughing at them, it is more likely that such an expression is due to tickle sensations, disbelief at what is being experienced or simply joy.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
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Unless she’s POINTING and laughing, calm down…
Yea for fun sex! My husband and I have been married for over 30 years and we are still “loving” it”. Laughing is one of the most fun things we do! Of course all of it is great. We are glad to have Dr. Fulbright and the great way she can put into words what we find “normal and good” about sex.
LOL!!! this is funny. My wife was married 22yrs.. I was 26yrs… when we came together it was magic. We had never experienced anything like our life together.. Many times during the cool down period one or both of us would suddenly and uncontrollably burst into laughter…
It’s great…
Relax!!!! Laughter is the 2nd best medicine…right after sex. That being said, my gfriend frequently laughs during sex. If I’ve had a particularly stressful day, it makes sex even more enjoyable. I never know what the heck she is laughing at but we have fun anyhow, and wouldn’t have it any other way. Just enjoy the moment. Cheers!
My wife and I the other night had a funny occurrence while having sex, and it resulted in both of us laughing our heads off right through the “peak” time. The laughter actually made the whole thing much more intense and we both really enjoyed it…
I think it’s pretty normal. Both my wife and I sometimes have unctrollable laughter near the end of the orgasim. It’s not very often, and it’s usually one or the other of us. Just keep in mind that her laughter is not laughing at you, it’s just an uncontrolled, emotional reaction.
Just got around to reading Yvonne’s comments on The Art of the Quickie. Interesting–she even used my title. Yes, I wrote the book (Quiver published it in 2006) and I think Yvonne may even have interviewed me on it–that’s a vague recollection. But I do know she knew of me and my work. We have spoken and corresponded via email.
My beef? Hey, if you use my work, at least give me a mention!
I know, she’s gonna say the Quickie’s been around for mega centuries. I realize that, and I am not suggesting that I invented it.
Do this: Check out my book and then read her piece on Quickies. If I’m wrong I’ll be the first to apologize. But if I am right…
If you can’t ask your partner about this, then you probably have no business having sex with her. Please, find a person you really KNOW, then start thinking about sex. Makes life so much better and less complicated.