Sexpert Q&A: Super-Sized Sex Toys
Dear Yvonne,
My wife has several sex toys, some of which we both enjoy. However, she does have a few in the phallus department that are somewhat large. I am concerned these will stretch her vagina out and her sensitivity to me will diminish. She says she will shrink back to a smaller size. What are your thoughts?
—Jeff
Dear Jeff,
Given that a female’s vaginal canal can stretch to handle a baby, you really don’t have much to worry about. Whether she’s planning to give birth or use a large object when self-pleasuring, a woman can maintain her pelvic musculature and sensitivity by practicing Kegel exercises. Learning to properly flex her pubbococcygeus (PC) muscle, a.k.a. pelvic floor muscles, a woman can have a “fit” vagina, which allows her to better grip phalluses of all sizes for more amazing sensations — for both of you!
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
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I discovered early in my marriage that my wife really enjoyed being filled to capacity, and I initially had the same concerns as Jeff. My worries were completely unfounded. We’ve been using over sized toys ever since, and neither of us has had any trouble climaxing during intercourse. That was over 25 years ago and our sex life is better than ever. Just relax and enjoy each other in whatever ways you find mutually pleasurable. After reading this blog for awhile I have come to the conclusion that I am a very lucky man.
I once dated a girl who would insert two toys into herself at once. I know that sounds like it would stretch the vagina into an unimaginable size, but believe it or not, I never had a problem with the fit, or how it felt afterwards.
I know this might sound a bit bad, but what if the woman doesn’t do kegel excercises? I mean it looks like the real point of the users question was not if the woman’s vagina would stretch to fit the sex toy, but rather whether or not it would stretch her out so much that sex would be less pleasurable for both parties. I know many men that have told me sex was never the same with their wife after they had a couple of vaginal births. Does that mean that if the woman doesn’t do kegels either after childbirth or after using really large sex toys, her vagina will get all stretched out and sex won’t be as fun for him and her?