Comments on: Sexpert Q&A: Selfish for Better Sex? http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/ The latest from the FOX News Health team. Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:12:03 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: NARESH kumar http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23202 NARESH kumar Sat, 09 May 2009 15:06:45 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23202 how can i stop doing sex even i am a young & unmarried guy. i do sex usually 2-3 times in daily routine that creates problems in my body & anal also. please help me to prevent these things till my marriage bcoz i want to stop all these & tried all levels but at last fails. also suggest me that how can i make power into my body all these things make me totaly empty from inside. how can i stop doing sex even i am a young & unmarried guy. i do sex usually 2-3 times in daily routine that creates problems in my body & anal also. please help me to prevent these things till my marriage bcoz i want to stop all these & tried all levels but at last fails. also suggest me that how can i make power into my body all these things make me totaly empty from inside.

]]> By: naresh kumar http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23174 naresh kumar Thu, 07 May 2009 11:31:00 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23174 dear i am naresh from india. firstly i ask you that i do sex 2-3 times daily even till i am 24 yrs guy & unmarried now. this sex will creates weakness in body which evenly produces pain in my anal sometimes. but i tried all the experiments but in vain. so hopefully i take a chance to ask you the whole problem & you will be guided me surely. i have great hope with you. please help me in saving my life. thanks for reply dear
i am naresh from india. firstly i ask you that i do sex 2-3 times daily even till i am 24 yrs guy & unmarried now. this sex will creates weakness in body which evenly produces pain in my anal sometimes. but i tried all the experiments but in vain. so hopefully i take a chance to ask you the whole problem & you will be guided me surely. i have great hope with you. please help me in saving my life.
thanks for reply

]]> By: G in FL http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23131 G in FL Mon, 04 May 2009 17:14:15 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23131 I love my wife very much. I want to ensure she receives pleasure every time we make love. However, now at the age of 41, my stamina has seemed to diminish. How do I last longer for her? I love my wife very much. I want to ensure she receives pleasure every time we make love. However, now at the age of 41, my stamina has seemed to diminish. How do I last longer for her?

]]> By: Brian F. http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23130 Brian F. Mon, 04 May 2009 16:01:48 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23130 Joseph: Word of advice...let your wife know how you feel. Even if she is controlling, maybe the light will click on. If that doesn't work, try counseling. Even though I don't put up with that type of behaviour, once you've gotten married, you should try to work out differences. I've found that most controlling people don't realize that they are like this to others and need to be educated. One way I have found effective in dealing with controlling people is to ignore them (similar to how you would handle a spoiled child), and do what you are planning to do. (This does not apply to work place environments...) Yes, tempers flare but it is a real eye opener to them when they figure out why you are acting like you are. Or you can do the easy part and simply put them to the curb and move on. I would try working it out first though, divorce is expensive. Best of luck to you and your wife, and enjoy life! Joseph: Word of advice…let your wife know how you feel. Even if she is controlling, maybe the light will click on. If that doesn’t work, try counseling. Even though I don’t put up with that type of behaviour, once you’ve gotten married, you should try to work out differences. I’ve found that most controlling people don’t realize that they are like this to others and need to be educated. One way I have found effective in dealing with controlling people is to ignore them (similar to how you would handle a spoiled child), and do what you are planning to do. (This does not apply to work place environments…) Yes, tempers flare but it is a real eye opener to them when they figure out why you are acting like you are. Or you can do the easy part and simply put them to the curb and move on. I would try working it out first though, divorce is expensive. Best of luck to you and your wife, and enjoy life!

]]> By: Joseph http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23116 Joseph Sun, 03 May 2009 22:27:11 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23116 With all due respect to Dr. Yvonne, I don't think her answer is the answer for all relationships; however, that being said, her advice is sound to me. My wife and I have only been married for about 6 years. She's the type that is very controlling, and sometimes it has spilled over into areas of my life that used to be "mine." I've become increasingly aware of this as we've gone along, and it has presented problems in the way that I feel for her at times. I can't help but feel like she thinks she has to be a part of every aspect of my life because she lacks the will power to find her own separate activities. Wish us luck, because at this point in our relatively immature relationship, 20+ years seems a like a very, very long time. With all due respect to Dr. Yvonne, I don’t think her answer is the answer for all relationships; however, that being said, her advice is sound to me. My wife and I have only been married for about 6 years. She’s the type that is very controlling, and sometimes it has spilled over into areas of my life that used to be “mine.” I’ve become increasingly aware of this as we’ve gone along, and it has presented problems in the way that I feel for her at times. I can’t help but feel like she thinks she has to be a part of every aspect of my life because she lacks the will power to find her own separate activities. Wish us luck, because at this point in our relatively immature relationship, 20+ years seems a like a very, very long time.

]]> By: matt sissons http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23115 matt sissons Sun, 03 May 2009 21:56:50 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23115 I love that example.. Iam at a horserace and shes drinking at a sex toy party... I dont know if i should laugh or go wow thats great advice I love that example.. Iam at a horserace and shes drinking at a sex toy party… I dont know if i should laugh or go wow thats great advice

]]> By: imn2u http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23114 imn2u Sun, 03 May 2009 17:13:55 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23114 Chere': I'm one of those guys you are referring to...I'm only interested in one thing, and it is not a relationship. You wanna know why there aren't more guys like Phillip? It's because many guys (not all, but many) get burned every day by women, and we don't need the drama that most women (not all, but most now-a-days) bring to the table. On top of that, the current divorce laws, particularly in California, are unfairly geared towards the benefit of women - regardless if a kid is brought into the picture. As it is now, without a prenup or pre-relationship agreement, there is no benefit for any man, young or old, to be in a committed relationship or married. I'm not saying guys should end their relationships, particularly if they are happy. But if they are in a committed relationship or married (or thinking of getting married), they should make sure they take care of themselves because their women will definitely take them to the cleaners if the relationship/marriage goes south. Don't think the vast majority of women don't play games to get what they want because they do even if they love you. Even though I am only interested in one thing, I treat the women I am with very well and we have a great time. Just remember to play it safe! Chere’: I’m one of those guys you are referring to…I’m only interested in one thing, and it is not a relationship. You wanna know why there aren’t more guys like Phillip? It’s because many guys (not all, but many) get burned every day by women, and we don’t need the drama that most women (not all, but most now-a-days) bring to the table. On top of that, the current divorce laws, particularly in California, are unfairly geared towards the benefit of women – regardless if a kid is brought into the picture. As it is now, without a prenup or pre-relationship agreement, there is no benefit for any man, young or old, to be in a committed relationship or married. I’m not saying guys should end their relationships, particularly if they are happy. But if they are in a committed relationship or married (or thinking of getting married), they should make sure they take care of themselves because their women will definitely take them to the cleaners if the relationship/marriage goes south. Don’t think the vast majority of women don’t play games to get what they want because they do even if they love you. Even though I am only interested in one thing, I treat the women I am with very well and we have a great time. Just remember to play it safe!

]]> By: Philip Buettgen http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23108 Philip Buettgen Sun, 03 May 2009 11:29:07 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23108 To Donna Ray and Chere' Thank you for your kind words. They reinforce my belief that the "bubba syndrome" is old world. My next book will take up the Discipline of our children or lack thereof and why our society is in such a state of decline. By the way I will be eighty years old/young in December and I am now in a beautiful relationship with a brilliant engineer. I continue to live my life without the anchor of EGO. She is just fifty two and I consider myself as middle age. It does not get any better than this. I have been and continue to be blessed. Life is beautiful. You just have to embrace it. To Donna Ray and Chere’

Thank you for your kind words. They reinforce my belief that the “bubba syndrome” is old world. My next book will take up the Discipline of our children or lack thereof and why our society is in such a state of decline.

By the way I will be eighty years old/young in December and I am now in a beautiful relationship with a brilliant engineer. I continue to live my life without the anchor of EGO. She is just fifty two and I consider myself as middle age. It does not get any better than this. I have been and continue to be blessed. Life is beautiful. You just have to embrace it.

]]> By: James M http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23096 James M Sat, 02 May 2009 11:11:51 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23096 People are individuals. Find someone who has the traits you value most and accept the other traits. Some people want to be together all of the time and thrive on it. Some people want to be apart most of the time and just see each other to meet needs. You need to pray a lot if one of you wants to be together all the time and the other just wants needs met; This is a situation requiring divine intervention for a successful relationship. People are individuals. Find someone who has the traits you value most and accept the other traits. Some people want to be together all of the time and thrive on it. Some people want to be apart most of the time and just see each other to meet needs. You need to pray a lot if one of you wants to be together all the time and the other just wants needs met; This is a situation requiring divine intervention for a successful relationship.

]]> By: Chere' http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/04/28/sexpert-qa-selfish-for-better-sex/#comment-23080 Chere' Fri, 01 May 2009 16:31:28 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2398#comment-23080 If there were more men out there like Philip, this world would be a better place. I was married for 26 years and we were best friends and great lovers. We both had intrests away from each other, but we also shared alot of our time togethor. I have tried to find someone like that again and it seems to be that most of the guys I meet are intrested in only one thing,and its not a relationship. Theres alot of men and women who really need to grow up and stop playing all the games. If there were more men out there like Philip, this world would be a better place. I was married for 26 years and we were best friends and great lovers. We both had intrests away from each other, but we also shared alot of our time togethor. I have tried to find someone like that again and it seems to be that most of the guys I meet are intrested in only one thing,and its not a relationship. Theres alot of men and women who really need to grow up and stop playing all the games.

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