Comments on: Sexpert Q&A: Am I Married to a Lesbian? http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/ The latest from the FOX News Health team. Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:12:03 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Brian F. http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23192 Brian F. Fri, 08 May 2009 21:42:57 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23192 Greg: I agree with the doctor. You probably are not married to a lesbian. Just because she got turned on does not mean she's a lesbian. Rather, it sounds like your wife may have come from a very religious family where sexuality was frowned upon (she wasn't Catholic or from the bible belt was she??). Maybe she was sexually abused as a kid. To me, it sounds like your wife may feel the way she does because of guilt issues. From your question, it sounds as if her revelation troubles you. Personally, I don't care about what someone did when they were a teenager or prior to being with me. Besides, when you're young, you experiment with lots of things - Teen101. If what your wife told you still bothers you, talk to your wife, and you both should see a counselor together. I'm somewhat of a free spirit and I also agree with Rachel...you go, girl! OW!!!!! Greg: I agree with the doctor. You probably are not married to a lesbian. Just because she got turned on does not mean she’s a lesbian. Rather, it sounds like your wife may have come from a very religious family where sexuality was frowned upon (she wasn’t Catholic or from the bible belt was she??). Maybe she was sexually abused as a kid. To me, it sounds like your wife may feel the way she does because of guilt issues. From your question, it sounds as if her revelation troubles you. Personally, I don’t care about what someone did when they were a teenager or prior to being with me. Besides, when you’re young, you experiment with lots of things – Teen101. If what your wife told you still bothers you, talk to your wife, and you both should see a counselor together. I’m somewhat of a free spirit and I also agree with Rachel…you go, girl! OW!!!!!

]]> By: Rachel http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23183 Rachel Fri, 08 May 2009 05:37:00 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23183 Dude...I'm a female and bisexual. My man loves when I make out with chicks. If I were you I'd just shut up and perhaps seeing about doing a threeway. Dude…I’m a female and bisexual. My man loves when I make out with chicks. If I were you I’d just shut up and perhaps seeing about doing a threeway.

]]> By: Robert http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23182 Robert Fri, 08 May 2009 03:29:55 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23182 Greg, you are both adults. As hard as it is probably going to be, opening the communication is the only way to know how to label it, or even if it needs a label. That's up to the two of you and only to the two of you. She did something with another woman, or girl depending on how old they were, and now seems to have some feelings of negativity or perverseness and so she doesn't want to act on or do anything to remind herself of it. Maybe, since it turned her on, she's afraid of what might happen if she allowed herself to think about it. As with all things, it seems to be a fear of the unknown, and I think your understanding and support will help. Denying it, or trying to label it without her telling you what it is could make life for both of you a lot worse, like some of the previous gentlemen noted. Tell her how you feel, if you know, and let her know you want to listen to her about the experience and how she feels. Together you can determine what it should be called, if anything. Good luck, Sir. I wish you both well. Greg, you are both adults. As hard as it is probably going to be, opening the communication is the only way to know how to label it, or even if it needs a label. That’s up to the two of you and only to the two of you. She did something with another woman, or girl depending on how old they were, and now seems to have some feelings of negativity or perverseness and so she doesn’t want to act on or do anything to remind herself of it. Maybe, since it turned her on, she’s afraid of what might happen if she allowed herself to think about it. As with all things, it seems to be a fear of the unknown, and I think your understanding and support will help. Denying it, or trying to label it without her telling you what it is could make life for both of you a lot worse, like some of the previous gentlemen noted. Tell her how you feel, if you know, and let her know you want to listen to her about the experience and how she feels. Together you can determine what it should be called, if anything. Good luck, Sir. I wish you both well.

]]> By: Mark-NJ http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23173 Mark-NJ Thu, 07 May 2009 04:39:26 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23173 SUZANNE: You admit to enjoy making out & having relationships with women, and you still enjoy being with your husband. Wonderful! But WHY don't you see youself as "Bi-sexual?" Sorry, but by the way 99% of the world defines the word, You Do Qualify! SUZANNE: You admit to enjoy making out & having relationships with women,
and you still enjoy being with your husband. Wonderful! But WHY don’t you see
youself as “Bi-sexual?” Sorry, but by the way 99% of the world defines the word,
You Do Qualify!

]]> By: Bob http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23170 Bob Wed, 06 May 2009 23:22:20 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23170 Greg, my wife and I had known each other since we were teenagers and after 20 years of cohabitating,13 years of marriage, and two children, she left me fopr a woman. It was hell going thru all the emotions of losing a wife and friend. Were it not for SSN (Straight Spouse Network) who knows where I would be today. I suggest you really talk to your wife about this. If she is a closeted lesbian, you need to find out now. I have to agree with what Scott said. Every word of it. Greg, my wife and I had known each other since we were teenagers and after 20 years of cohabitating,13 years of marriage, and two children, she left me fopr a woman. It was hell going thru all the emotions of losing a wife and friend. Were it not for SSN (Straight Spouse Network) who knows where I would be today. I suggest you really talk to your wife about this. If she is a closeted lesbian, you need to find out now. I have to agree with what Scott said. Every word of it.

]]> By: scott http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23168 scott Wed, 06 May 2009 19:45:38 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23168 Don't be so sure.... maybe she is in the closet. My ex-wife left me for a woman... and no, it wasn't like a sitcom, it was terrible. It would be better for her to find out sooner rather than later, as mine took a very long time to slowly come out of the closet, and at the age of 38 she seemed to act like a narcisstic 18 year old... If she's a closeted lesbian, you don't have it made at all. Please note that if you do get divorced, make sure that any alimony payments end if she cohabits with a woman, as most divorce decrees seem to assume any cohabitation can only be with the opposite sex. If you're seeking online support, and you really think she is a lesbian, try www.str8s.org, a resource for straight people who find themselves married to closeted gay and lesbian people. yes, it does happen, no it's not a joke. Don’t be so sure…. maybe she is in the closet. My ex-wife left me for a woman… and no, it wasn’t like a sitcom, it was terrible. It would be better for her to find out sooner rather than later, as mine took a very long time to slowly come out of the closet, and at the age of 38 she seemed to act like a narcisstic 18 year old…

If she’s a closeted lesbian, you don’t have it made at all. Please note that if you do get divorced, make sure that any alimony payments end if she cohabits with a woman, as most divorce decrees seem to assume any cohabitation can only be with the opposite sex.

If you’re seeking online support, and you really think she is a lesbian, try http://www.str8s.org, a resource for straight people who find themselves married to closeted gay and lesbian people. yes, it does happen, no it’s not a joke.

]]> By: Suzanne http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23167 Suzanne Wed, 06 May 2009 19:11:13 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23167 I am a happily married wife & mother who finds other women sexy & appealing. My husband is very supportive of me making out & having relations with other women... & no he does not watch or participate. It's just a part of who I am. Do I think I am a lesbian or am I bi? No... I love being with my husband, but I do like being with women. Relax...your wife is not a lesbian. I would ask her though if she would still be interested in being with women & explore that. I am a happily married wife & mother who finds other women sexy & appealing. My husband is very supportive of me making out & having relations with other women… & no he does not watch or participate. It’s just a part of who I am. Do I think I am a lesbian or am I bi? No… I love being with my husband, but I do like being with women.
Relax…your wife is not a lesbian. I would ask her though if she would still be interested in being with women & explore that.

]]> By: Imn2u http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/2009/05/04/sexpert-qa-am-i-married-to-a-lesbian/#comment-23139 Imn2u Mon, 04 May 2009 20:15:01 +0000 http://health.blogs.foxnews.com/?p=2436#comment-23139 Greg! Don't complain...you have it made, man! Greg! Don’t complain…you have it made, man!

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