Sexpert Q&A: Good Sex During Pregnancy
Dear Yvonne,
What should a man do to ensure he and his partner enjoy sex during pregnancy?
—Julio
Dear Julio,
When interviewing men for my book, “Your Orgasmic Pregnancy,” I found that the most critical factor for men is to get over their issues with the pregnant form. Many have trouble seeing pregnant women as sexy. Some feel a sex-guilt for having sex with a pregnant woman, and others are afraid of hurting the baby.
Men need to educate themselves about sex during pregnancy. Unless her doctor says otherwise, she’s good to go —and in many cases, rearing for action — given the increase in hormones and engorgement of blood to her genitals. Men need to let their pregnant partner lead the way when it comes to sex, at the same time taking steps to overcome their issues, from counseling to encouraging intimacy, for example, buying her a baby doll dress to cover up her bulge if it’s an issue. Finally, men need to realize that many women are their most orgasmic — and multiorgasmic — at this time. Keeping that focus can divert your attention and help you to see her more sexual and sensual than ever.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
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being intimate with my wife during both pregnancies was AWESOME! and during her last pregnancy she was able to have multipe orgasms not only did i enjoy it but she loved it! plus you learn as a loving couple how to be creative as her belly grows, it’s so much fun having a healthy marriage!
I read the answer to the question but I must thank you for that. but I have read from literature that a woman who is pregnat at a particular stage her sexual organs are very tender and fragile and could be hurt if engaged in sex because the muscles are relaxed in preparation for birth. So what can you say concerning this? And what is the best thing to do in such a situation?
That may be true for younger first time fathers, those who see the pregnancy as the end of independence and freedom. What you are misinterpreting from their reaction is underlying resentment.
I can assure you that among my buddies (30 Something fathers) a pregnant wife is very sexy.
There are three phases regarding sex and pregnancy. In the first trimester, the missionary position is appropriate. In the second trimester, the Doggy position may be more comfortable. In the third trimester, its the coyote position — He just sits around and howls.
Women need to understand that men use sex to define who they are. If they lose their ability to have sex. They will become detatched and may even resent the wife and baby. This may cause a LIFE long rift.
I met and had sex with a pregnant woman last night…because her husband has “issues” with having sex while she is pregnant. She was in the 2nd trimester.
This isn’t the first time I’ve had sex with a preggie, but the Dr. is right, they are usually ready to go! I let her be in charge and was not disappointed!
Guys will look for sex if they aren’t getting it at home…guess what, so do women! What a concept.