David Carradine: Society’s Obsession With Celebrity Death
David Carradine’s naked body was found hanging in a Bangkok, Thailand hotel room last Thursday morning, setting in motion a debate about whether the star of the feature film “Kill Bill” and the long-running television series “Kung Fu” (1972-1975) committed suicide, accidently died while attempting to stimulate himself through autoerotic asphyxia or was murdered.
While that debate rages on, a Thai newspaper called Thai Rath has published forensic photos of Carradine’s naked corpse. His ex-wife Marina Anderson has also seen fit to tell the New York Post of Carradine’s “deviant sexual behavior.”
Here we are at the flipside of losing our inner selves to YouTube and Facebook and Twitter. Too many of us suddenly all think we’re celebrities, but we also think that real celebrities are inhuman, celluloid creatures without the right to the privacy or decency befitting other human beings. Some in society actually seem to think that the fact that actors make a living by … well … acting means that they have sold their souls to us and that we can devour them like movie popcorn. That’s why the paparazzi thinks they have license to stalk stars as though they are alien creatures or zoo animals on the loose. And it’s why we feel free to peek through windows into David Carradine’s most private acts and final moments.
David Carradine was a person, before he was ever an actor. What he signed up for was to share his gift and his craft with those who might enjoy it. I’m one of those people. Kung Fu was part of my childhood. Something about Carradine’s quiet intensity, combined with the idea that he could not leave his training at the monastery until he could focus enough to snatch a pebble from his teacher’s open hand, got my attention and stayed with me all this time.
But the fact that I was a young fan of Carradine doesn’t make me think I have the inherent right to look at naked photos of his dead body or get the inside scoop from his disgruntled ex-wife about what he liked to do in bed. It would make me feel like a trespasser in his private life. It would make me worry about doing harm to those who loved Carradine, in real life.
That’s the trouble, though. We don’t think of actors as real, anymore. We don’t think of politicians as genuine, anymore. We don’t think of sports stars as dedicated athletes, anymore. We don’t think of the economy as a miraculous engine that runs only on the truth, anymore. Because, in the end, too many of us don’t think enough of our real selves, anymore.
Dr. Keith Ablow is a psychiatry correspondent for FOX News Channel and a New York Times bestselling author. His newest book, “Living the Truth: Transform Your Life through the Power of Insight and Honesty” has launched a new self-help movement. Check out Dr. Ablow’s Web site at livingthetruth.com.
Tags: autoerotic asphyxiation, Bangkok, David Carradine, deviant sexual behavior, Dr. Keith Ablow, Kill Bill, Kung Fu, Marina Anderson, masturbation, New York Post, paparazzi, suicide, Thai Rath
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HI Dr. Ablow,
Well you’re right that
we will all miss David Caradine
very much…..
He does have right to privacy.
It is disgusting that they publish photos.
My thoughts go out to his real family
and all the children and friends that loved him.
I agree wholeheartedly with Dr. Ablow’s post. I think we, the public, know WAY too much about the personal lives of “our” celebrities, thanks to the tabloids, paparazzi, and many people’s unhealthy obsession with famous people (who are, after all, PEOPLE).
This brings to mind the whole upset over Mel Gibson. I think he’s a fine actor and filmmaker, and when all that personal stuff about him became public, I experienced a brief bout of the “ickies” (I’m not too fond of bigotry). But what business did anyone have revealing all that personal stuff about him in the first place?! Some folks I met decided to boycott his movies back then, and I thought that was just so unfortunate. He’s still a fine actor and filmmaker, no matter what.
It must take a tremendous amount of courage to step into the limelight in order to share one’s talents with the world nowadays, what with all the ravenous sharks circling around, eager for a feeding frenzy on the privacy that the rest of us (well, most of us…) expect, and treasure.
I loved David Carradine, the actor. I, too, grew up watching “Kung Fu”, one of my favorite shows.
I wanted to go back in time with him to live at that monestary, and learn to snatch the pebble from “Master’s” hand. In fact, I feel a bit like “Grasshopper” even now (particularly in therapy).
Long live the memory of David Carradine, the actor…and let us allow David Carradine, the man, his privacy.