Rob’s got this one definitely right. I’d much rather go down on my wife with the natural tastes and smells from before she has taken a bath/shower. Makes me want to do it now, just thinking about it.

I agree. It’s better than some soapy smelly thing going on. I’ve tried to explain it to my wife but she thinks I’m nuts. If there’s one thing I love, it’s getting down there for the long haul. I try to get her off at least once before ever getting to actual intercourse. I do everything in my power to satisfy her FIRST!

David’s right. My current gf thinks I am insane. I can be tired from a long day and the natural smell gets me in the mood, every time. I’ve found over the years that American women (mostly white) aren’t comfortable with that though. Talking definitely helps break the barrier.

uh…thats nasty. Just ruined my lunch.

gross…just gross. NIKE SHOES

When I first read this, I thought my boyfriend had sent this in… I am DEFINATELY the one who insists on showering before intercourse. I think it is a mental thing but I won’t let him do it until I feel fresh!

I was floored when I read this. I thought my boyfriend had written this… I am the one who insists on showering first. He gets mad at me sometimes b/c it is not as spontaneous.. but i just have to be clean and fresh.

I love my wife and enjoy pleasuring her immensely. I do, however, prefer that she showers first. One whiff of BO or BM from down there and my erection wilts like last week’s lettuce.

My wife is the same way, very uptight about ‘cleanliness’. It’s impossible to convince her that her natural taste and scent drive me wild.

Are you men for real??? I love you! Thanks for putting such a positive light on this subject. A more negative comment is what we usually ‘hear’ that men say…not to us, but to each other, so it is a little hard to believe when a man says he prefers a woman’s natural scent. And male OR female, there’s nothing like the scent of the person you love.

For anyone wanting to know why women aren’t at ease with their own scent-we have a multibillion dollar industry comprising of feminine deodorant sprays, douches, special cleansers designed to get rid of “that odor.” Now granted, odor can be a signal of a genuine problem such as an STD, yeast infection or hormonal imbalance. However, there’s nothing wrong with a woman if she doesn’t smell like perfume at all times. Alot of people don’t think that women should have any kind of smell at all because of this. In women’s magazines, they always feature ads featuring anti odor products, and in another tangent, articles on how to lose 15 lbs without trying while showing cake recipes. HA, HA, HA!!!! No wonder women also yo yo between fat free ice cream and greasy bacon cheeseburgers. It doesn’t matter if the issue is with odor, food, clothing, etc, the fact is that by and large, women are bred for self hatred. We are taught almost from the beginning that no matter how good we are as people, there will always be some superficial detail about them that will “need” to be corrected. Well to heck with that!

Thanks Jennifer J. For making an excellent point that I often forget. It bothers me to no end that I can compliment my wife’s body, hair, natural scent, etc. and a trip to the grocery store or 5 min watching TV tells her she is fat or that she has to be thoroughly cleansed before I can go down on her. I spend too much time trying to counteract these ridicuous advertisements. I can think of much better, and more pleasurable, ways to spend my time. Bottom line, we should all spend less time listening to what ads say we shoud be and more time figuring out what our partners think.

It is so nice to hear there are still men out there that enjoy a woman’s natural scent. Thank you! I am sending this link to all my female friends…there is still hope for us yet =)

People like you guys, except Oneb Adwon, that makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. It just lifts my spirits to know there are a few sane people in the world.

If she isn’t full of that natural ’scent’ and ‘taste’ as your are going down on her, even right after a shower, you’re doing it wrong.

I nearly fell down when I read, “Given most females are raised with the idea that their genitals are “dirty,” it may take a while to undo the damage …” I have to say that I really don’t buy the contention that “females” are told that their genitals are dirtier than males. The fact is, bodily fluids and dead skin cells accumulate in areas such as genitals, underarms, between toes, butt cheeks, etc. This outdated, “abused female” posture is so tired. Please, Yvonne, give us a break, get a life and quit whining about the poor, misinformed and abused females. The fact is, genitals are dirty!!! All genitals!!! All areas where dead tissue is likely to accumulate are “dirty” … male AND female. Jeeeeezzzzz!!!

I wouldn’t eat anything that bleeds for seven days and doesn’t die!

All genitals are dirty! Wow, Doug has issues.

Pheromones – Small molecules that, when released by one organism, act as chemical signals to induce a certain behavior in another organism. Scents that attract animals to each other in a mating process are an example of pheromones. Thats whats going on here people! It’s totally natural! It’s much better before a shower!! Mother nature said so!!!

Well Doug is right on the dead skin cells that create bad odor, it’s nice to shower everyday to rid the body of dead skin cells, but I also agree with Jen J. because there’s too much crap out there to hide these odors when in reality if you take a shower every day your genitals shouldn’t STINK! There should be a natural scent but not a stinky one, and sex doesn’t have to smell like soap to be good.

Everyone has their own preferences, and they’re neither right or wrong. I guess pheromones do nothing for me. I prefer clean and smooth, and that’s my wife’s preference for me as well. The important thing is to communicate and find common ground so you’ll both be comfortable and satisfied.

Showered or not, just get rid of the hair. Ick!

Doug is 100% right….oral sex causes aids, syphilis, herpes, cancer of cervix, opening of uterus n other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)………so keep ur mouth away from genitals

I agree Vicki….all natural or nothing. Its great!!!! How can you be spontaneous if you shower first?

I agree Vicki…..I prefer natural…can’t be spontaneous if you shower first.

Sorry to hear that Derek. You’re missing out. It’s one of my favorite things to eat!!!

I love the natural aroma of my wife and really enjoy going down on her to pleasure her. I agree that women are brain washed into thinking that they are “dirty” down there and need to make it smell fresh and clean before engaging in any sexual activity. Come on Doug, how many male genital hygene products do you see on the market? Women hear those old jokes about tuna tacos and take them to heart. I for one will continue to try to convince my wife that I get turned on by her natural smell one oral session at a time!!

I like it clean. I mean it depends on how long it has been since she showered. The other issue is how close the clit is to the anus. I mean I don’t want the entire area to smell. I prefer it squeaky clean.

Then I can really eat the peach and lick the entire area..

My GF always does this too. Personally, I like the natural taste and smell, definitely gets me going. If she showers before, it’s like getting my mouth washed out with soap, etc. Not very stimulating. Give me the natural stuff…..there’s nothing else like it.

My GF is the same way. I like it, and tell her so all the time, natural taste and smell. Like the other guys said, it’s a major turn on. Going there after she showers is like having your mouth washed out with soap……not stimulating. Give me her natural taste and smell!!

Really depends on the woman. I’ve had experiences with women that smell and taste amazing and then…well, not so amazing, if ya know what I mean. Pay attention to what your partner is telling you…or not telling you. If he insists that you not shower, take heed and let him have at it au natural. If you insist on showering and freshening up down there and he does not object, then by all means, continue. Bottom line is to be honest with your partner and expect that your guy is being honest with you when he says he likes your smell and taste. Really pretty simple ain’t it?

Thanks for that hilarious comment Derek. I’ll bet you are the funniest kid in your junior high school.

i do agree aobut the Shower before any physical contact regarless of what method or tool you use, but to me there is something bout a woman natural scent that drives me insane,

but i will have to add no matter your preference in this subject, have anyone go walking or running in on the middle of the summer and see who would want to be sexual in any way afterwards

Well, Derek…don’t complain when you aren’t getting any. And if you ever want children, you’ll learn a little respect for the way things work. It’s not as if we’re exactly fond of it.

One word PHEROMONES. Makes you wonder how mankind survived before Johnson and Johnson came into the picture. Forget the soap and sprays.

Everyone’s got their own personal preferences, and they’re neither right or wrong. They’re simpley likes and dislikes. I prefer mine clean and smooth, thank you.

I love orally pleasing my wife. I believe it is part of the entire love making suite of activities. I enjoy the natural scent of my wife and have never wanted to cover it up or hide it. Typically, after a bath or shower my wife is more open to letting me go down on her, it does not matter to me. My wife rarely performs oral sex on me however, stating that I leak and she does not like the taste. I have read some information on apple and other fruit juices helping. For those women that enjoy giving oral sex, do these things work? What can I do to make myself more inviting?

Feeling a bit “rank” ladies? Bidet… or a warm damp wash cloth.. no need for soap and a shower. Do that after..

Keep it simple.

This needs to be in perspective…. I don’t care for anything that smells like a dead mouse, but the true scent of a woman is a big turn on. perhaps the best way to satisfy both feelings on this is to engage in some tedious activity in a hot room, after a shower. thus the woman is “clean” and her sweat is oozing out along with that wonderful personal aroma.

It’s so true. I spend so much money and time grooming myself and my husband doesn’t care if i haven’t trimmed or showered. I jus can’t get over being self conscious. I never thought so many men would actually think like that and i’d never guess natural scent is a turn on. Wow!

I need to take a shower after reading this thread!

There isn’t anything no sweeter when you can satisfy your lady friend with oral sex……You hit the nail right on the head Yvonne when you stated “let her know you want to pleasure her” that is what the whole deal is about….Pleasure, if you are into her and love her or being with her you are not going to mind a little odor. I love going down on my girlfriend…..and to see the expression on her face while I am bring her to climax is priceless. She loves getting as much as I love giving and vise versa. If you are dating or married to a woman and never have had the nerve to give her oral……and she finds someone who will….you won’t have her long. To all the ladies out there….find you a guy that can do this and know what he is doing…..you will have a orgasm like you never had before……so if you want it to be “clean” or feel “dirty” it doesn’t matter….bottom line enjoy it. Have a nice day.:-)

Some of these comments are making me dry heave or laugh hysterically. My personal preference is no hair. hair is gross and it traps that ‘bo’ odor we are all familiar with. I think that taking a shower before sex is the right thing to do. I hate the thought of all that bacteria and dead skin and such on my tongue and the thought of it on my girls tongue when she is kissin me. ew. And for all you ‘all naturals’ out there… I guess you like the taste of pee, cause thats half that delicious salty flavor that you experience when eatin your girl out…..ew!

well if your woman has a “problem” with her scent, then take a shower with her. You both get cleaned up and maybe, just maybe, you both can get started with your oral love time together. then you can towel off and do some more in the bedroom

Zbob, here are some tips for that. As far as semen goes, a person either likes or dislikes it. The key is to let her know when you are about to ejaculate. If you leak some before finishing, and she truly has a problem with the taste, maybe some experimentation with flavored lotions and gels may help conteract. You are right with the apple juice, as many say this helps with sweetening the taste.

Zbob, I drink pineapple juice regularly and my girlfriend has told me over and over that she loves the way I taste when she pleasures me orally. Pineapple juice is a great way to really sweeten the taste. Hope I helped.

I personally prefer to wash several times per day so my booty does not offend my man when I am approach. I too love the smell of au natural and if you are correctly stimulating your woman you will instantly receive that scent of a woman as she warms to your advances!!!!

I am one of those women who loves to be clean and fresh. Thus I wash several times per day just to keep away the unwanted odor which is not sexual if you know what I mean. I too like the natural smell of a woman and if you are doing it right guys you will received this smell right away from your woman washed or not. Give me smooth, clean, and the smell is left up to my man and his techniques.

No two women are going to smell the same down there, because we have different levels of hormones, and also pH levels in the sweat make a difference. Douching for the most part doesn’t really do anything except push bacteria further up inside the vagina and puts it up closer to the cervix, defeating the purpose. It might make a woman have less of a natural smell but she’s actually doing more harm than good, especially if the odor is actually foul because of a bacterial infection or a yeast infection. Sprays, according to my own OB/GYN neither help or hurt in the long run. They just make a woman have the smell of hairspray + perfume down there.

Oh I do have something to say as far as it goes with certain men saying women are gross down there and to keep mouth away from genital, I hope they’re not expecting their partners to go down on them. Men are just as capable of developing odors around their genitals as women. So why is there not a MDS (masculine deodorant spray) to use specifically on the crotch area. I like a natural musky (not stinky) smell on a man. There’s a happy medium between stink with cologne and stink with massive BO.

Telling people that they like the taste of pee because they happen to not want their female partner to wash before oral sex is little more than a juvenile insult.

Once a woman has gone through menapause, there isn’t an odor and how I do miss it. Sigh..I’d pay good money just to smell a woman who is still in her breeding years.

When I was young, I could just walk by a woman and tell you if she was on her period, not on her period and/or was at her fertility peak. Not a one of those odors were offensive. Wow, how I miss being able to do that….now, my wife has went through menopause, there isn’t any odor and I miss it so much. Used to be what made me interested. I guess nature has a way of letting us know who can have babies and who can’t. I loved the odor, but did get grossed out by smegma if present.

Yes, i like the natural taste of my ladies but if there is BO down there…it isnt too sexy. it is like licking someone’s stink underarms. if she has a string BO then a shower is a must…

I can understand the shower thing as I am always wondering what body odor I might emit after a long day. However, I enjoy the sexual smell during and after the fact which lingers for several hours. I also enjoy the unshaven which can most generally retain the natural scent of the daily or hourly activity.

Come on, Yvonne, you are leaving out information about bacteria, sweat, menstruation, pantyhose and general demands of hygiene. I found that surprisingly few women have a commitment to staying fresh (and I’m talking about reasonable expectations, nothing freakish) and those ladies need some “encouragement”. If a woman wants more oral attention, she can help things along by making a bit of a show of her pre-game ritual to allay his concerns. (Not to worry, she will still have natural scents for all of the right reasons.) Guys can do the same, exert some leadership and use it to defeat her “I don’ wanna” routine in one fell swoop. Face it – if your partner doesn’t make an effort for you, why should you reward that behavior?

I think I just threw up in my mouth.

Perhaps after a long day, your girlfriend would like to freshen up, as no one, I’m sure would like to smell urine odor in the pubic hair or a build up of smegma in the genital area. She may be self concious

as far as semen tastes…..some men have a more strong tasting ejaculate if they eat spicy food or smoke…this in turn, can also cause a woman, if having intercourse, to have a rather odorous genital smell…so guys….lighten up on the salsa and use the patch!

Guys, I think that when your woman showers first before you head down town is a very simple suggestion tfor YOU to shower before she goes down on YOU. I personally am turned off with the smelly/peepee crotch smell when my husband wants a BJ at the end of the day…. It is not a turn on. I like my men down there squeaky clean and shaved if possible.

I love going down on my partner, whoever she might be, dont get me wrong, but the truth is i dont know where and what my partner has been doing all day, lets say she decided to workout in the morning and was late for work or what not and didnt have time to shower and when she comes to see me i get to go down on something thats smells like a fishmarket… not saying thats my case but on that note if i dont know my partner very well i would indeed much rather have her shower and smell not like soap, but a sexy victorias secret fragrance. One of my biggest turn ons is how a woman smells, sometimes women walk by me and i might not visually notice them but as soon as my nose gets in touch with the aroma of her perfume my blood instantly begins to boil, all i can think of is that smell. It makes me want to drop everything and just take her, no matter who she is and no matter where we are.
All im saying is its ok if u like to shower before, some people just rather have fun with their partners genitals smelling like head and shoulders but HEY!!who are we o judge anyone thats your choice!
With all my past girlfriends i never had a problem going down on them, i actually much rathered not taking a shower (wastes too much time if im in the mood which i always seem to be) but again, i know where my partners been and i know she doent smell like a wet dog. I mean in the end we are trying to get the cat wet right? People just need to get over this urban myth of how girls smell deal with it!

This is absolutely disgusting. DO NOT DO ORAL SEX ON A WOMAN. MAKE HER DO IT TO YOU ONLY.
ORAL SEX ON A WOMEN IS AGAINST ALLAH’S WISHHES.

I do love my wifes “natural” taste. She resists some times but I try to tell her how much she tasts so good to me. I don’t mind if she showers after I’m “done” with her….

As human, we are aroused by natural tastes and smells of our partners. Women should NOT, I repeat NOT use antibacterial or perfumed soaps and products on their genitalia. Just plain soap like Ivory, etc.
It upsets the natural balance of the microorganisms..(Such sexy talk, right?)

That will actually produce more odor, infection,etc.

And by the way, guys………..showers and baths all hot and steamy CAN get me in the mood……yeah…..just saying!

This is just gross. Just proves even more that men are pigs. I wonder why they are made like that?

Some women really stink down there, and should shower and thoroughly clean. I would never go down on a woman WHO DID NOT SHOWER before hand. I mean what’s next “let’s quit washing our hands”?

Hate to tell you ladies this, but many of you stink like rotten tuna, and it sucks!

My boyfriend and I take a shower together, I wash him down and he washes me down. We make it a essential part of our love making. I even perform a little oral on him in the shower! He’s never complained!

I agree with Cathy. Although I dont mind going down on my girlfriend when she hasnt showered, we still typically make it a point to shower together and include that in our love making. She feels better about herself after being cleaned up and we still have a great time. There is nothing wrong with a female wanting to feel clean, even if you dont think she needs to. Its whatever makes her feel comfortable in my opinion.

Dr Kahn, for a doctor (if you are one) you sir are a moron. the only thing that causes any of those things is poking around something that has it to begin with. I hope you people realize there is a method to the madness, there are reasons we bath, there are reasons we “stink” there and there are reasons for pubic hair. like it or not, that is totally up to you. but you poor sheltered souls that think there is something wrong with someones preferance or urge to engage in oral sex are just stupid, childish, and very much misinformed.

Comment by Dr Khan
June 26th, 2009 at 6:13 am
Doug is 100% right….oral sex causes aids, syphilis, herpes, cancer of cervix, opening of uterus n other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)………so keep ur mouth away from genitals

Sorry I had to post it because it is so stupid…. “OMG IF YOU LICK A CLIT IT WILL ALTER THE WOMAN’S DNA” what is that…. seriously man? also, if you are going to wave around all these “facts” why dont you us the word “and” instead of “n”…. all I can say is…. WOW

I completely agree with Cathy, my girlfriend and I typically make it a habit to shower together before and enjoy making it a part of our love making. It doesnt bother me to go down on her clean or natural, but if being clean makes her more comfortable about it, then im not gonna try to tell her otherwise.

Seems to me that this entire discussion was spurred from the perspective of the woman NOT being comfortable with the man until she’s cleaned and prepared herself for him.

And then, there was the advise on how to convince her how to be comfortable doing it how HE wants it and not her.

What’s wrong with being content with HER comfort? I mean, this is all about trust, being free with one another and not pushing a lover into something that he/she is uncomfortable with, right?

Let’s assume you DO push her into participating outside of her comfort zone… you get all the smells and tastes that you ever wanted and then one day, you get MORE than you wanted.

What then?

If you back off and ask her to go wash, you’ve just amplified the damage.

I respectfully disagree with the argument. If she’s not ready, RESPECT THAT and comply with what will comfortably move her toward you.

Remember, loving a woman is alot like boiling a frog. Drop here in hot and she’ll jump right out. Warm her up slowly and she’s blow your mind.

If washing and feeling “fresh” is what she need to get started, be supportive and get her there anyway. The smells and taste you are looking for will come and by being supporting in this way, will come more often.

For me, there is nothing as intoxicating as the intimate smell my man, his genitals, his armpits. It makes me want to just eat him up, drink him in, it shuts down my brain and I am all female animal.
Shaving can diminish this for me. Not only will I ask my boyfriend not to shave, I will ask him not to wear deodorant.

‘Depends on the woman. Usually, natural scents and tastes are OK and arousing. Sometimes, some women’s scents….aren’t.