Ah, this could be why my wife only wants sex once a month? (if I’m lucky)

Once a month? You are lucky. My wife and I usually have sex from three to five times per year. When we were dating, sex was a weekly event. When we got engaged, she stated we should abstain until our wedding night. Four days after the wedding, she said “Lets get this over with” and the current schedule began.

Recently she has stated that sex should be for procreation purposes only and that “recreational” sex even within a marraige is wrong.

sorry Dave I hope she will let you have a girlfriend because stories like this make greatfull to be single I hope it gets better or if it helps you divorce I hear it is worth it life is too short not to get any

Although it may be the case with some women, I know many women who are horny as much as me. It makes for great times! I can have sex literally any time, not just in the morning. However, I find most women’s animal instincts come on after dusk.

Dave, yours is kind of on the extreme of what many men have gotten themselves into…a sexless marriage. If it were me, I’d talk to my wife and let her know how important sex is to me, and how important it in a relationship…I might even try counselling. If that didn’t work, or particularly if she refused counselling or to talk, I’d move on. I’m not a fan of cheating because of the hassles that can come from it, but there is no point to wasting time in a bait-and-switch relationship.

Sorry to hear that you guys have sex only a few times a year. I am a women that loves sex. Once a week at least! and the best sex is when it is just for fun. Trust me trying to have get pregnant is to planed and seems like work rather then play. Maybe your wife does not like sex because she needs to learn her body more, or better yet have her masterbate with you. Here is the deal you can’t touch each other, just watch. You might learn what gets her off, as she might learn what you pleasure. Plus it’s the best porn you well ever watch.

Have your wife masterbate with you, here is the deal you can’t touch just watch and learn. As a women who enjoys sex I had to show my Husband where I liked to be touched. Plus it’s the best porn you will ever see.

^^^^^^ Time for a Divorce^^^^^^

Sorry to hear it, guys.
There are plenty of women out there who love sex every night.
You just didn’t pick one out.

Dave…I think it’s time for you to trade up.

My wife’s libido has dried up as we have gotten older. (Married 24 years.) The first few years we were married, it happened 3-5 times a week. Now it only happens about once every 6-8 weeks if I am lucky. She just has no interest, and it is turning me into a very unhappy camper. And Dave’s comment happened to me too. She actually said, “Let’s just get this over with, okay.” Sigh!

No wonder porn is such a big business.

I would not take these situations as the norm for all women. I am married, 45, and the mother of 3. My husband, 52, has a much lower sex drive than I do and I find almostalways I am the initiator. Truly, if life would allow I could partake 5+ times a week.

When we first married (after periods of divorce) this was an issue for both of us. Now that we realize that it’s just personal differences we have come to a happy medium (okay 60-40 in my favor!)

I will have to say that I absolutely hated having sex after a few years in my first marriage. To be blunt, I just didn’t like having sex with someone I didn’t like much less love…

Men who want more sex should do the laundry! My husband never looks more sexy to me than when he is folding the kids clothes! There are some good books out there that could help. Buy her the book For Women Only by feldhahn, and also For Men Only by feldhahn and have her read hers and let her know you are reading yours and that you want to work on the marriage. Women love men who want to talk about the relationship, and see if anything changes. The book tells women that they must have sex with their husbands frequently so that their husbands know that they love them. Sounds like good advice for your marriages! My husband and I have sex 4-6 times a week because i have read these books and know how important it is to him. Good Luck!

My wife and I have sex three to five times a week, more if were up to her. She is the one with the libido in overdrive. Have you 2 asked your wives if they are aware that they are not the only women in the world? Pleasure can be found elsewhere. Not advocating cheating, but when one side of the marriage says no more………..

You guys obviously married the wrong women. My wife and I have sex on average about 3 to 4 times a week and we love it!

Have any of the men here thought maybe their wives just aren’t attracted to you any more? Or she just doesn’t enjoy sex with her partner any more? There are reasons why women either refuse or don’t like sex with their partner. Maybe you should ask her why she doesn’t enjoy sex anymore…..her answer may surprise you!

couldn’t have said it better, myself.

I’ve been married 20 years, early on five times a day was about average, about 2 hours per at first… Now I’m almost 40, and I get it maybe twice a week, which is a drag…

If the woman has a normal sex drive, and you do your part, I think about 10 times a month is average, clustered around the ovulation time…

As for people only doing it once a month- what the ?@#*! Are you dead or something? If a woman can’t give you 2 minutes of your time, AT LEAST once or twice a week, than dump her selfish @$$….

I mean, that’s just obvious! She’s probably hoping you do, cause she’s like dried up for you and needs someone else- that might not even be your fault, just biology… They’d never admit it to themselves, but that’s nature pushing them to find a new partner, and if you just ignore the cue you’re wasting both of your lives…

As for people only doing it once a month- what the ?@#*! Are you dead or something? If a woman can’t give you 2 minutes of your time, AT LEAST once or twice a week, than dump her selfish @&$$….

I mean, that’s just obvious! She’s probably hoping you do, cause she’s like dried up for you and needs someone else- that might not even be your fault, just biology… They’d never admit it to themselves, but that’s nature pushing them to find a new partner, and if you just ignore the cue you’re wasting both of your lives…

I’ve been married 20 years, early on five times a day was about average, about 2 hours per at first… Now I’m almost 40, and I get it maybe twice a week, which is a drag…

If the woman has a normal sex drive, and you do your part, I think about 10 times a month is average, clustered around the ovulation time…

I am a 48 yr old housewife, married for 14 yrs, Hubby is very conservative but extremely talented in his few moves. However, 4 yrs ago he underwent a radical prostatectomy. I had planned on entering a Nuns of Carmelite convent in case of his death. I had not wanted sex with my husband for several years before his surgery.
I am not interested in dating or getting around.
For a number of years I purchsed hay from my hay guy. Last time maybe 6 years ago he leaned in and gave me a NICE kiss. not sleazy or slutty, quite respectful. It felt good and right. I ended it quickly.,
Several years passed and we met again , we talked and chit – chatted. We made a bet. Well one thing led after another (were talking 3 months) and next thing you know we are necking up a storm. We started seeing each other but very low key ( and hot as hell)!!! We haven’t gone all the way but awfully close. We seem to talk, cuddle, lots of kissing and petting. Any advice or comments?
How should I play it with this married man (oh, yes, I am married myself).

I wan’t to please him and make him happy without jepordizing our current marriages as long as possible. (if they are doomed to fail, so be it, but how can we buy time without hurting others?}

Thank you for your sage advice,

The Mistree?Lover to a Wonderful Man

When I first got married, my wife was fine with sex a few times per week. After a couple of years it became clear that while she would continue with that schedule, she considered it a chore. Then one day I stumbled on her talking to one of her friend and she said she hated sex and just “did what she had to do” to become and stay married. We tried the counseling thing and didn’t really make any headway so we split and now I’m married to a wonderful woman who would run me ragged nightly if I had the energy. Soooo…if you’re unhappy, try to work it out. If you can’t, move on.

I’m 42 my wife is 43, after 9 years of marriage, 2 children, 2 working parents, we are getting divorced in large because of a lack of an intimate bond and subsequently a lack of a healthy and passionate sex life. The past 4 years after our second child was born was just like a business relationship more than a loving marriage, so our sex nearly always was far less than I wanted, (3-4 times a month VS 3-5 times a week that I need), and never fullfilling when it happened. Painful as divorce with children is I am looking forward to meeting a woman I can renew that healthy, passionate sex life with, so important in a relationship.

There are a lot of comments from the men saying that sex was hot and frequent in the beginning of your relationships, but then tapered off to an unacceptable level. I suggest the men think about how they treated their your significant others during the early courtship phase. I think most would find that there is a direct positive correlation between their efforts in romance and their partner’s sex drive. I’m not sure why it is so hard for men to grasp, “Hey honey, grab me a beer and do you wanna get nasty” is just not as hot for women as dinner and flowers. And as Cecilia pointed out, taking one thing off a busy woman’s plate, like laundry, is pretty hot too.

Or you could just get divorced and look for that woman with a more compatible sex drive, only to have the exact same situation all over again, just with alimony and child support payments.

Good lord ! I was married to my first wife for 24 years. The sex was terrible pretty much. I divorced her for moslty that. If the sex was good i probably would not have, there were other issues but if the physical side was good we may have been able to work the rest out. Bottom line is your not getting any younger. I am now married to the woman of my dreams. There is nothing and i mean nothing she wont do for me to me and me for her. Use your imagination guys…..ya thats right dudes!!! ITS OUT THERE! You will find someone that not only loves you but makes love to you like a maniac. We have dated and been married almost 2 years now and its even better than in the begining. No way should you stay in a relationship that does not include fantastic sex for you both. Good luck!

I guess I’m lucky, married 25 years, and my wife is as horny as the day I met her. We just came back from a Jamaica vacation, and we had sex 5 times a day, until she was too sore to continue.
Normally we have it 5 times a week. Either you guys are doing something wrong, or the women
are numb.

Well, I am 65 and i cannot remember the last time i ever had complete sexual intercourse, bypass heart sugery and ed set in. I would like to but she never iniates it so i am left out completely. No hope of every getting any at this stage of life. So enjoy if you are able. more power to you’ll.

My wife and I have been married 15 years, have 7 children, and still find plenty of time to have sex. As we have grown throughout our marriage, sex has gotten better and better. I am usually the one to initiate, with her being the initiator periodically, I don’t think that i am more interested necessarily in sex, it is just that I do not have as much on my mind as she does. She is constantly taking care of the kids, me, teaching, and helping out with the family business, that is understandably a reason not to be so interested, but when her mind is cleared, or I am around to help her out, look out!! I think there is a fine balance that a husband and wife have to work with, if it is way out of sync, then there are more problems there than, just interest. I love my wife more every day, knowing that as time goes on, and I get to know my partner better, there is never going to better sex than whats ahead!

We are already in our 50’s but my wife can get orgasm three times every weekend, we don’t do to much activities but we watch each other masturbating. she used vibrator in her clitoris and penetrate it until she get an orgasm. While i watch then penetrate him when i am about to come. It’s very enjoyable.

Well I’ve seen a few women say it, but no men. Men are lazy once they have a woman. Yes I am a man and yes I got lazy. My wife and I just celebrated our 16th annivesary, know what? We are more in love than ever and I’ve been overseas for two years. of course I’ve been home in that time, but know what I discovered while away? My friend who had like 8 girlfriends tried harder with them than I did with one wife. Fix? I changed. I did not ask her to change. Sex was alway decent, but now it’s amazing. We tell each other what we want and we aren’t afraid to do it. We concentrate on not letting life take over. I listen and do the things that turn her on and I don’t have any issue when I want sex. She wants to give it to me and be with me. Guys..been married a long time. Listen to what some of these women are saying. Wash the dishes, do some laundry. Take a freaking shower and lose some weight. You might be surprised how fast things change. Women never stop wanting to be pursued, so don’t be lazy. Show her you want her alone and will fight all comers for her and you won’t have to ask or wonder. Promise.

Well I’ve seen a few women say it, but no men. Men are lazy once they have a woman. Yes I am a man and yes I got lazy. My wife and I just celebrated our 16th annivesary, know what? We are more in love than ever and I’ve been overseas for two years. of course I’ve been home in that time, but know what I discovered while away? My friend who had like 8 girlfriends tried harder with them than I did with one wife. Fix? I changed. I did not ask her to change. Sex was alway decent, but now it’s amazing. We tell each other what we want and we aren’t afraid to do it. We concentrate on not letting life take over. I listen and do the things that turn her on and I don’t have any issue when I want sex. She wants to give it to me and be with me. Guys..been married a long time. Listen to what some of these women are saying. Wash the dishes, do some laundry. Here’s an idea, ask what turns her on and make it clear it doesn’t have to be sexual. Women never stop wanting to be pursued, so don’t be lazy. Show her you want her alone and will fight all comers for her and you won’t have to ask or wonder. Promise.

See..My problem has always been finding a guy who can keep up with me!

I am 67 years old, my wife of 43 years is 64 and we have had sex at least 5 times a week for 43 years. It’s a matter of understanding what she likes and I think it helps if you both keep in reasonably good shape. Also, SLEEP NAKED. Sleepwear is just in case of a fire.

I am 67 years old and my wife of 43 years is 64. We have had great sex at least 5 times a week for 43 years. I think it is a matter of understanding what she likes. I think it probably helps if you both stay in reasonably good shape and mind your personal hygene. Also, SLEEP NAKED!!! Sleepwear is just in case of a fire.