Elements of Attraction
Dear Yvonne,
What makes people attracted to one another?
—Tommy
Dear Tommy,
Studies over the years have consistently found that we tend to be attracted to people who are similar to us in socio-economic status, intelligence, background (ie., ethnicity), values (ie., religion), attractiveness, expectations, and attitudes. Even if “opposites” have an intense, initial attraction, they tend not to stay together in the long-term since people prefer and find comfort in sameness. It also makes the relationship a lot easier, for example, less conflict.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”
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Attraction is such a wierd thing to me because it is so strong and yet so mysterious. When a women has a particular trait that I like or am attracted to, it drives me crazy..in a good way!
Attraction is such an incredible thing because it so strong and yet so mysterious. When a women has a trait that I am attracted to, it drives me absolutely crazy…in a good way though!
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Is another positive for attraction good health? Symetric features, balance, vitality all add to the desireability of a potential mate.
Different strokes for different folks. There’s always the initial phyical attraction. But, “attitude” is the first key for me. Self confidence.
Presentation is half the sale.
John is 100% correct! Having self confidence makes a person more attractive. I also like a woman with a good, genuine laugh. For me, that is a turn on.
Attraction is a simple thing, you are either attracted to a certain person or you are not, it is not something that can be forced and is either shared between to people or it may not be.
My mate’s smile and sense of humor are what first attracted me to him. We’ve been married over 40 years and a sense of humor is what has gotten us through some tough times as well as being able to enjoy our life together.
Attraction is something that I think you can’t put into words or nail down. I’ve been dating my gf for roughly eight months, and am extremely attracted to her. She’s got a cute laugh, gorgeous eyes, a very pretty smile, and also happens to outweigh me by quite a bit. I guess what I’m trying to say is that i agree with John. Attitude is everything. Looks are important as well, but a relationship shouldn’t be soley based on them. My gf’s attitude makes her extremely sexy and irresistable in my eyes.
Attraction takes on many features and it is something that starts a relationship between two people. It also doesn’t last forever. But it grows and takes on new meaning as the relationship between two people change and grow. Its the satisfaction that just being with that person makes you happy.
Big Joe is a chubby chaser! Ewwwww! Fat people stink. They also fart a lot.
Physical attraction is a start. But hair, hair that is long and with curls, that is such a very big turn on. Even when they put in a bun.
And rude people are unhappy and insecure.
Attraction to another human is all about sex. I’ll let you women in on a secret.
Even us polite and considerate gentleman that respect women size up women
on weather we would want to have sex with them or not. There has to be the
very first step in a chain reaction. The first step is typically sight. (excluding
phone calls) It’s the first sense that triggers attraction. If your at a social event
men do not swagger up to the visually unatrractive women to drum up conversation.
We determine which girls we actually have a shot at then pick the prettiest of that
bunch unless there is a obvious turn off. It’s kinda like a process of elimination
and who in the world would actully eliminate all the visually attractive. There is a
senario. Take 10 pretty girls and 10 not so pretty girls put then in a room. One
at a time walk a man into that room and he will insantly look towards the pretty
side. Same if the two groups were men. Each woman that walked into the room
would favor the handsum men side. It’s not rude or inconsiderate it’s just human
nature. The drive for sex is why humans fair so well on Earth.
God invented alcohol so even ugly girls could get laid. My only rule is NO FAT CHICKS or TRULY HEINOUS LOOING CHICKS. If you think this is shallow, just look at what all those skanky women idolize…. superficial celebrities with big bank accounts. Men and women are all the same until women realize they’ve missed their window of opportunity and no serious guy will marry them since they’re TOO OLD and can’t have children. Plus, who wants a skank to be the mother of your children? Cruel, but true.