Dear Yvonne,
My girlfriend enjoys me giving oral sex, but has to shower before I pleasure her. How can I make her realize she doesn’t have to shower? I understand her wanting to be as fresh as possible, but I don’t mind. I even prefer that she not shower. Any suggestions? Thanks!
—Rob

Dear Rob,
Let your girlfriend know how much you love pleasuring her, and how much you like her in her “au natural” state. As you pleasure her, and then again during after play, express how much you enjoy her taste and smell — how much it turns you on, and more so than shower fresh. Given most females are raised with the idea that their genitals are “dirty,” it may take a while to undo the damage that has been done. Positive reinforcement over time should, however, help your cause.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,

I would like to ask my boyfriend to perform more oral sex on me, especially since he likes it when I give it to him. Should I guide him down there or talk to him about it first?

-Clarissa

Dear Clarissa,

Encouraging your boyfriend to kiss you below your navel is one way to clue him into some action farther south. As he works his way down your abs, gently push his head closer to your pelvic area. Allow your breathing and moaning to become faster and more intense. Getting more excited shows him that you’re getting more aroused.

Back up plan: Suggest little kisses on your upper thighs or even on your bum as well. If he doesn’t eventually take a hint and hit the bull’s eye, you can broach cunnilingus by asking him general questions like, “Does it turn you on to think about going down on me?” With questions like this, you’re not making a request, but are feeling him out on the matter. If he has a problem with it, use this as an opportunity to find out what sexual behaviors he is and isn’t comfortable with and why. You can let him know what turns you on and off as well, including that you’re into oral sex. Don’t be shy in letting your desires be known – most guys think it’s hot! Furthermore, if he’s into fellatio, but won’t reciprocate the favor, don’t be afraid to make issue out of it. After all, fair is fair…

 Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Hi Dr. Yvonne,
I’m about to meet my girlfriend’s closest friends over Thanksgiving. I want to make a good impression. Any tips for a nervous guy?
-Brent

Dear Brent,
First and foremost, dote on her. The more attention you can lavish on her, the more she’ll be the envy of her friends – but in a good way. Since so many guys have trouble being ‘lovey’ in public, any time a guy gets affectionate (and I’m not talking about groping), it wins women over.

Furthermore, the more interest you show in them, and this means even little things, like buying a couple rounds of drinks or picking up the dinner tab or getting the hostess flowers for her fete, the more they’ll be impressed. More than anything, be yourself and let your genuine affections for your girlfriend shine through. Nothing makes women feel more confident about their girlfriends’ romantic relationships than knowing that she has a good guy who is putting her on a pedestal.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”