Dear Yvonne,
My girlfriend enjoys me giving oral sex, but has to shower before I pleasure her. How can I make her realize she doesn’t have to shower? I understand her wanting to be as fresh as possible, but I don’t mind. I even prefer that she not shower. Any suggestions? Thanks!
—Rob

Dear Rob,
Let your girlfriend know how much you love pleasuring her, and how much you like her in her “au natural” state. As you pleasure her, and then again during after play, express how much you enjoy her taste and smell — how much it turns you on, and more so than shower fresh. Given most females are raised with the idea that their genitals are “dirty,” it may take a while to undo the damage that has been done. Positive reinforcement over time should, however, help your cause.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
I’m living with a boyfriend for the first time and we’re into dividing chores equally. I was wondering if you think that sorting dirty laundry with a significant other can begin to breakdown passionate feelings of excitement? Would you suggest keeping your intimate items like dirty underwear from the other to help prevent that?
—Cherlynn

Dear Cherlynn,
Seeing the other’s unsightly laundry is going to happen at some point. In the past, it has typically been the woman who has had to deal with dirty laundry, killing her passion first. One way to look at this: Gender equality. So increasing other efforts to maintain eroticism can be more of a team effort. Also, some people can actually get aroused by washing the sheets, for example, finding stains from the last time they had sex, or still being able to smell the other’s scent on their clothes. Plus, doing things together builds bonding.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”