Dear Yvonne,
What makes people attracted to one another?
—Tommy

Dear Tommy,
Studies over the years have consistently found that we tend to be attracted to people who are similar to us in socio-economic status, intelligence, background (ie., ethnicity), values (ie., religion), attractiveness, expectations, and attitudes. Even if “opposites” have an intense, initial attraction, they tend not to stay together in the long-term since people prefer and find comfort in sameness. It also makes the relationship a lot easier, for example, less conflict.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
Would you agree that it’s important for women not to worry about the way they look during sex? After all, research shows that a woman’s partner is likely paying attention to her face and body and looking for clues that she’s feeling really good, which makes him feel good, right?
— Charlie

Dear Charlie,
It’s hard for a man to gauge a woman’s sexual responsiveness. So he’s looking to her face for cues that she’s aroused, plus he’s titillating himself in seeing her “sex face” come to life. His ego goes into full gear in loving that he’s helping to make that happen for her — and he thinks it’s one of the hottest looks around. Even if a woman feels silly or is self-conscious about the way she looks, she should rest assured that he thinks she’s super sexy in that state.

Hi Dr. Yvonne,
Does water act like a spermicide if you have sex in it?
Stevie

Water is not a spermicide. While chlorine makes for a hostile environment for sperm (and latex), it will not kill sperm right away. While men who spend a lot of time in hot tubs tend to have lower sperm counts, the hot water cannot be relied upon as birth control. The general rule is – in or out of water – anytime semen is emitted in the vagina or on the vulva, there is the chance of pregnancy.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Dr. Fulbright,
If a man has hang-ups about his body or is nervous to be nude in front of his partner, how can this negatively affect his sex life? My husband has put on weight and seems more sexually self-conscious because of it.
—Meg

Like females, when a guy has body image hang ups, he’s going to be self-conscious during sex. He’s going to be more in his head, worrying about what his lover thinks and how he looks versus losing himself in the moment. He will also not be in the mood for sex as much, or seek it out as often. He may also be more inhibited when he does have sex, for example, lights off or sex in certain positions where she’s less likely to see him.

For both sexes, in feeling out of shape, a person doesn’t feel as sexy. It’s also harder to move — a person is going to feel more sluggish, far from peak performance. People report more vibrant sex lives when they’re in shape and exercising.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Doc,
When we hear about people being attracted to another’s feet, for example, the foot fetish, it always seems to be men who are into them. Do women, in general, find men’s feet sexually attractive?
—Bill

Dear Bill,
In general, there’s the stereotype that men’s feet aren’t attractive, especially if he’s past a certain age, and that men’s feet smell in large part because of a lack of attention. While your average female is not expecting him to become a metrosexual with the regular pedicure, or to have attractive feet per se, her biggest expectation/hope is that he will keep them clean. She wants him to wash them with warm soap and water, to trim his toenails and clean under them, and to make efforts to reduce dirt and the chance of fungal infections.

That said, women do notice men’s feet, but are usually more caught up in gauging his facial expressions and other body language when it comes to reading his potential attraction/feelings for her. Unkempt feet aren’t a dealbreaker for most, as she’ll excuse that he’s “just being a guy,” and add it to her mental checklist of things to touch up about him as they get more serious.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dr. Fulbright,
Are there any health risks or hazards associated the oral consumption of semen? Thank you so much and I hope that you have a wonderful day.
Sincerely,
—Zach

Dear Zach,
This is often a matter of debate for lovers, especially since oral sex has been misrepresented as a low risk form of sex. Anytime semen is deposited into the mouth, there is a risk of getting a sexually transmitted infection. Possible infections include gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV, herpes, hepatitis B, human papilloma virus (HPV), and CMV. To reduce the risk of infection, a latex condom should be worn over the penis.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Dr. Fulbright,
I’m a 54-year-old man, divorced and dating again, and find that older women who are into menopause or post-menopause have different attitudes about sex and their own sexuality.  When I was a teen, I was the “hunter.” Now, in middle age and single, I find myself being “the hunted.”  Women who can no longer have children also seem to be more sexual now in their later years. Your thoughts?  —Mark

Dear Mark,
There are a couple of major things going on when it comes to older women being seemingly more “aggressive” with their sexual relationships. First, with some widowed or divorced women, their quest is to find a partner for their later years. In some cases, there is the need or hope for financial support. For others, fear of loneliness is a driving factor. Knowing that the pickings get slimmer with every passing year, they’re going to be that much more assertive with the men they come across.

Second, between education, media programming, and simply the times, many older women are embracing their sexuality as never before. They’re not afraid to see themselves as sexual — and flaunt it. They love the fact that they no longer have to worry about getting pregnant, PMS, menstruation, birth control or raising children. In so many ways, they’re free when it comes to responding to their sexual urgings.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
I didn’t ejaculate for three weeks and the color of my fluid is now yellow. Why is that so?
Thank you.
—Wan

Dear Wan,
Changes in the color of semen can be due to a number of factors like your diet, age, and how often you ejaculate. Healthy ejaculate is typically whitish and cloudy, with colored semen indicating a possible prostate infection or sexually transmitted disease.

While the change you describe may be temporary and of no concern, it would be wisest to be medically evaluated to rule out any underlying condition. And always be sure to practice safe sex.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
My girlfriend enjoys me giving oral sex, but has to shower before I pleasure her. How can I make her realize she doesn’t have to shower? I understand her wanting to be as fresh as possible, but I don’t mind. I even prefer that she not shower. Any suggestions? Thanks!
—Rob

Dear Rob,
Let your girlfriend know how much you love pleasuring her, and how much you like her in her “au natural” state. As you pleasure her, and then again during after play, express how much you enjoy her taste and smell — how much it turns you on, and more so than shower fresh. Given most females are raised with the idea that their genitals are “dirty,” it may take a while to undo the damage that has been done. Positive reinforcement over time should, however, help your cause.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
I want to explore more of my sexuality and fulfill some fantasies, but I get nervous about it. How do you overcome that? 
                  —Donna

Dear Donna,
First, educate yourself. Knowledge is power and the more you know about what you plan to explore, the more confident you’ll feel. Books, videos, expert reassurances, and hearing other’s stories can also bolster your sense of assuredness in pursuing your passions.

Second, realize that you need to be patient with yourself. Your nervousness will subside with time, especially as you gain experience and feel savvier with what you’re doing.

Finally, make sure that, when necessary, you’re exploring your sexuality with a person(s) who provide you with physical and emotional safety. You don’t need anybody judging you or adding to the performance pressure you’re putting on yourself.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”