Dear Yvonne,
What do men find sexy in a woman? Is there any statistical evidence — for example, is it something like 20 percent of sexiness is down to looks, 10 percent is a sense of humor and 5 percent is confidence?
—Raegan

We as humans believe that others will have a higher opinion of us if we have a good-looking partner. While it’s harsh, in the dating game, this is more so in the case of a female’s “worth.”  People tend to want the pretty or handsome partner because we’re aware of the high value society places on physical attractiveness, and we are motivated by this social concern.

From an evolutionary perspective, good-looking equals “good breeding,” thus humans are motivated to find a mate with good genes. Genetic desirability is most often indicated in the forms of youth, good health, and symmetry. While the weight of different desirability traits vary per survey, men desire a lot of the same qualities in a mate that women do ― smarts, a sense of humor, and personality. They generally like femininity, preferring partners who are younger, of average intelligence, and with longer versus short hair. In general, though, men are a little more lax than ladies when it comes to finding a mate.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Have you noticed that we in the news media are sometimes too eager to catapult from reporting on early animal research to concluding that all our human lives may change as a result? Well I have.

The latest example of this concerns the small rodent known as a prairie vole, and the seminal research being performed on these critters by a top biologist and neuroscientist at the University of Illinois, Chicago by the name of Dr. Susan Carter. Carter has been studying families of prairie voles for several generations. She has discovered that males have a gene that is coded to produce vasopressin, a hormone which seems to stimulate protective behavior and bonding with female voles.

Carter has three very important observations about these male rodents:

1. Prairie voles can be stimulated by their environment as infants to produce more of the bonding hormone, vasopressin.
2. Despite a large release of vasopressin and subsequent bonding behavior, these voles are NOT more likely to be faithful to their mates. So in other words, this may be the bonding gene, but it is NOT the faithful gene, the way the media has wrongly reported it.
3. Montagne Voles, a strain of the critters which lack the gene, do not exhibit the same bonding behavior as other voles, but since they are not extinct, at least some degree of bonding is going on!

Then this past week a Swedish study was published on-line in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS) and it received a lot of attention. 552 twin pairs were studied and those that had a variant of the vasopressin gene and were presumably not producing much vasopressin were either less likely to be married or were having more difficulty with their marital relationship.

I asked Dr. Carter if she thought the new Swedish study followed from her own work and whether conclusions about human bonding could be drawn. She answered with a single word, “no.”

For one thing, Carter’s work is careful biology and genetics, following generations of animals. The Swedish study, though it uses genetically similar twins, is observational and is based on questionnaires, a form of study that is notoriously inaccurate and preliminary.

Carter suggests that we at least study primates before jumping to humans.

In the meantime, as we wait for true genetic markers of monogamy to emerge, it remains more important for a woman to learn how to choose a partner who loves her, rather than assembling a checklist.

Dr. Marc Siegel is an internist and associate professor of medicine at the NYU School of Medicine. He is a FOX News Medical Contributor and writes a health column for LA Times, where he examines TV and movies for medical accuracy. Dr. Siegel is the author of “False Alarm: the Truth About the Epidemic of Fear” and “Bird Flu: Everything You Need to Know About the Next Pandemic”. Read more at www.doctorsiegel.com