Dear Yvonne,
Would you agree that it’s important for women not to worry about the way they look during sex? After all, research shows that a woman’s partner is likely paying attention to her face and body and looking for clues that she’s feeling really good, which makes him feel good, right?
— Charlie

Dear Charlie,
It’s hard for a man to gauge a woman’s sexual responsiveness. So he’s looking to her face for cues that she’s aroused, plus he’s titillating himself in seeing her “sex face” come to life. His ego goes into full gear in loving that he’s helping to make that happen for her — and he thinks it’s one of the hottest looks around. Even if a woman feels silly or is self-conscious about the way she looks, she should rest assured that he thinks she’s super sexy in that state.

Dear Yvonne,
My girlfriend enjoys me giving oral sex, but has to shower before I pleasure her. How can I make her realize she doesn’t have to shower? I understand her wanting to be as fresh as possible, but I don’t mind. I even prefer that she not shower. Any suggestions? Thanks!
—Rob

Dear Rob,
Let your girlfriend know how much you love pleasuring her, and how much you like her in her “au natural” state. As you pleasure her, and then again during after play, express how much you enjoy her taste and smell — how much it turns you on, and more so than shower fresh. Given most females are raised with the idea that their genitals are “dirty,” it may take a while to undo the damage that has been done. Positive reinforcement over time should, however, help your cause.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
I want to explore more of my sexuality and fulfill some fantasies, but I get nervous about it. How do you overcome that? 
                  —Donna

Dear Donna,
First, educate yourself. Knowledge is power and the more you know about what you plan to explore, the more confident you’ll feel. Books, videos, expert reassurances, and hearing other’s stories can also bolster your sense of assuredness in pursuing your passions.

Second, realize that you need to be patient with yourself. Your nervousness will subside with time, especially as you gain experience and feel savvier with what you’re doing.

Finally, make sure that, when necessary, you’re exploring your sexuality with a person(s) who provide you with physical and emotional safety. You don’t need anybody judging you or adding to the performance pressure you’re putting on yourself.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Dr. Y,
How can a man boost his partner’s confidence when it comes to her breasts?
—Scott

Dear Scott,
I think that the best thing a man can do is to tell her that her breasts are perfect. This is most effectively done when he’s cupping them during sex, admiring them like they’re the only part of her body he needs to feel satisfied.

If he feels that he can’t be totally sincere with the “perfect” bit, he should seize the opportunity to compliment her chest the next time she’s wearing an outfit that shows them off, for example, “You look absolutely stunning in that dress — I love how it shows off your breasts.” In accentuating them, he’s letting her know that she’s lovely in his book.

Also, when it comes to gift-giving time, he can get her presents that are about showing off her breasts, for example, a peek-a-boo bra that screams “play with me!”

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
Can being selfish with your time improve your sex life?
—Kip

Dear Kip,
It’s healthy for lovers not to be codependent upon one another, especially when it comes to capitalizing eachother’s time. They’re stronger together when they’re still individuals vs. morphed into at 24/7 situation that causes both of them to be stagnate. When lovers can pursue their own interests and have their own downtime, that shows a comfort and security with the relationship that is attractive. Time spent on their own interests allows them to grow, inviting newness into the relationship.

Second, being too available is a turn off. If lovers spend even a day, for example, she’s having cocktails with girlfriends at a sex toy party while he’s at a horse race, apart, this acts like a hurdle, which can be a turn on. It’s far short of Romeo and Juliet, but it has a similar effect.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Dr. Yvonne,
My wife and I are both healthy, in good shape, and in our mid-40s. We celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary today. For the past three years, we have had sex less than once per week (on average), sometimes less than once per two weeks. How can I get her to just “attack” me sometimes?
Francois

Dear Francois,
Almost every partner in a long-term relationship reaches the quandary of: ‘How do I get the sex I want? How can both my partner and I revive our passion for each other once again?’ First and foremost, know that it requires a lot of work – much more than a blog Q&A response can tackle. There are a plethora of great books packed with advice on this very matter, but among their major tidbits are:

• Communicate. Both of you need to talk about the state of your sex life and how it can be improved. Discuss your needs, wants, and fears. Really listen to each other and be a participant for active change. Get ravenous with your wife on occasion and see how she reacts.
• Add an element of risk to your relationship. Anything that involves “danger” is exciting, and that doesn’t have to mean jump out of an airplane together. Rather push your erotic boundaries. Be spontaneous. Create anticipation with sexy emails and calls. Ask your partner to mirror you in your efforts. Date each other with desire – allow yourself to get into that mindset once again.
• Have sexual empathy for one another. Share your fantasies, including that you want her to “just attack you.” The more you reveal, the sexier you can potentially become.

Remember, you need to give in order to receive.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”