Dear Yvonne,
My wife has several sex toys, some of which we both enjoy. However, she does have a few in the phallus department that are somewhat large. I am concerned these will stretch her vagina out and her sensitivity to me will diminish. She says she will shrink back to a smaller size. What are your thoughts?
—Jeff

Dear Jeff,
Given that a female’s vaginal canal can stretch to handle a baby, you really don’t have much to worry about. Whether she’s planning to give birth or use a large object when self-pleasuring, a woman can maintain her pelvic musculature and sensitivity by practicing Kegel exercises. Learning to properly flex her pubbococcygeus (PC) muscle, a.k.a. pelvic floor muscles, a woman can have a “fit” vagina, which allows her to better grip phalluses of all sizes for more amazing sensations — for both of you!

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
What kinds of objects, besides sex toys, do people use to bring themselves to climax? I’m up for some ideas!
-Danny

Dear Danny,
While many people use sex toys during masturbation, some get a little more creative than others when it comes to those “handy” items found around the house.  In its yearly sex survey, the Portland Mercury reported that respondents used the following for self-pleasuring: warm cantaloupe, a Sharpie, a condom-covered cucumber, a water weenie, their sister’s panties, a plunger, bologna, a vibrating pen, uncooked beef frank, a James Bond VHS tape, a beer cozy, a carrot, GI Joe, a leather glove, spa jets, a handle of a safety razor, Hello Kitty, and a vibrating toothbrush.

Regardless of what you use, make sure that it’s clean and that it won’t cause you harm, for example, it’s not made out of glass, would not cause splinters, and/or does not leave unsavory residue in your orifices or breaks off in them. 

Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”