Dear Yvonne,
Are green M&M’s an aphrodisiac?

— J.P.

Dear J.P.,
The only way green M&M’s will turn you on is if you truly believe that they will. Your mind is your biggest sex organ, so you have the power to make anything in this universe a turn on, including candy.

 With chocolate in general, research has found that consumption doesn’t create an arousal response. The sweet candy can, however, put you in the mood to invite such more readily. This is due to key ingredients which awaken you, boost endorphin production for a high, and that act as a natural amphetamine and antidepressant.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Dr. Y,
How can a man boost his partner’s confidence when it comes to her breasts?
—Scott

Dear Scott,
I think that the best thing a man can do is to tell her that her breasts are perfect. This is most effectively done when he’s cupping them during sex, admiring them like they’re the only part of her body he needs to feel satisfied.

If he feels that he can’t be totally sincere with the “perfect” bit, he should seize the opportunity to compliment her chest the next time she’s wearing an outfit that shows them off, for example, “You look absolutely stunning in that dress — I love how it shows off your breasts.” In accentuating them, he’s letting her know that she’s lovely in his book.

Also, when it comes to gift-giving time, he can get her presents that are about showing off her breasts, for example, a peek-a-boo bra that screams “play with me!”

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
How long can sperm last in a woman’s reproductive system?
—Petra

Dear Petra,
On average, sperm can survive up to 5 days when luxuriating in a female’s cervical mucus, which is at its richest and ‘stickiest’ right about the time a woman becomes most fertile. A woman’s cervical mucous helps coax the little guys toward the ova. When sperm are not nourished and protected in the survival-friendly atmosphere in a female’s vagina, they die anywhere from 30 minutes to 4 hours after release, never to swim again.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
My guy wants to have anal sex. Is it safe?
- Tatiana

Dear Tatiana,
Unprotected anal sex is a high-risk sexual behavior, especially when it comes to HIV transmission. Using a latex condom lowers your risk for acquiring HIV or other sexually transmitted infections during anal intercourse. Furthermore, the experience can be enhanced and made even safer with a water-based lubricant which is specifically for anal intercourse. For an easier and safer anal sex experience, make sure that the condom-covered penis is well lubricated. Then, just try to relax during penetration, as your partner takes care not to tear the delicate lining of your rectum.  

Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear  Yvonne,

I have a question regarding an “issue” and I want to know if you can give me some advice. I am having trouble staying fully erect after I put a condom on. What are the reasons this keeps happening? I have tried different types of condoms and it still hasn’t worked.
                    – Jeb

Dear Jeb,
Many men have found themselves in your shoes. And while condoms can significantly reduce tactile stimulation, they’re often not the sole problem at hand. This reaction is usually a symptom of one. An erection can topple for physical reasons, for example, a change in rhythm and stimulation being ceased, to more psychological/emotional ones, like a male’s fear, guilt, stress, or anxiety over staying hard. The quality of the relationship and the couple’s experience together can also play into a man staying hard since comfortability is key in putting on a good show.

In solving your dilemma, first, raise the requirement for more friction-focused pleasure and make sure that your partner is still touching you and trying to turn you on with touches and kisses as the condom is going on. This could be especially effective as your lover actually puts the condom on you, for example, orally. Furthermore, flesh on flesh makes for a more ready stimulus, so take care to utilize the non-exposed hot zones to heighten your sensual pleasure.

Second, while you’ve experimented with different types of condoms, try using different sizes. A condom that is too small, for example, can result in blood flow issues and some discomfort, so be sure to use a size appropriate rubber on your member. 

Third, practice condom use while masturbating, as this can help you to feel more confident when you’re in the actual situation. Lastly, don’t be afraid to step away from having sex itself and simply reconnecting with your partner. Taking the focus off of sex can help you to feel more relaxed, taking pressure off of any need to stay up. 

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Dear Yvonne,
How can a guy tell if he’s just crushing on a well-performing co-worker versus really liking her because the other company at work is pretty lousy?
-Allen

Dear Allen, 
What makes this a tough issue is that a man has to sort through if he really likes the woman or if he really likes that she’s his co-worker. When she performs well in the workplace, it can only make him wonder how she’ll perform in the sack. And if she’s dependable, good at what she does, and great company, a man will naturally have some affection for her. Most of us like people with such qualities. Furthermore, as we get to know somebody and find out that we have a lot in common, we tend to like them more – and when you share the same workplace, you share a lot of the same experiences, which further fosters bonding.

Many people find their mate through work because it involves access to others and requires spending a great deal of time together – basically plenty of opportunity. In keeping himself in check, a man has to evaluate if he’s daydreaming about a co-worker on his own free time (versus simply looking forward to seeing her as he’s en route to the office), if he’s making excuses to work with her, for example wanting to stay late to get a project done, or simply spending time with her because she’s his favorite co-worker. One thing he can ask himself is how he’s reacting to women outside of the workplace. If he finds others more interesting, then it’s likely that he’s not crushing on his co-worker as much as he thinks. 

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Throughout everything you’ve talked about regarding sex … have you actually experienced all of it?
Vaitafa

Dear Vaitafa,
I don’t like to field too many questions about my personal life for two major reasons: (1) it’s private; and (2) as a sexuality resource, people often look to me to give them permission for their own sexual antics. In telling others what I’ve done or experienced, I run the risk of setting a standard for others. People need to sort through what’s right for them given their own value systems and needs.

That said, like most other human beings, I have not experienced everything encompassed in the vast field of human sexuality. Not only would that be incredibly time consuming, it’s unrealistic and unnecessary. Unlike other professional fields, people often have the expectation that “sexperts” need to have experienced something in order to be an expert on the sex-related matter. This is like saying that a clinical psychologist needs to have suffered from depression in order to treat a client. That’s like saying that a vegan chef must be able to eat beef in order to comment on its nutritional value.

I am a professional who has been academically trained in human sexuality. Given we’re all sexual beings, some of what I’ve learned has trickled into my personal life and vice versa. I can best serve others by giving them the facts, whether or not they can be complimented by personal anecdotes, helping them to decide what they want to experience for themselves.

Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, “Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.”

Some women will want to string me up for this one. I’m about to divulge some of the real reasons a gal will say “no” to sex, even if she’s totally in the mood.

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